Newbie to the board

[andylins]

Hi all! I've already posted this on fertility-network-uk. Thought might find some more support here. I'm Andy. I'm new to this board but not new to infertility strugglings. I'm going to edit my profile with those facts a bit later. Here's my infertility history. Me – 37. DH – 38. TTC since Jan 2008. Faced 2 chemical pregnancies the 2 following years. Was put on Clomid 50 but ended with another chemical. Oct-Dec 2010 Fermara 5 and Purgon 75. Had 3 months break from treatments. Feb & Mar & Apr 2011 IUI #1 & 2 & 3 Purgon 150 & Clomid 100 BFN x3. IVF #1 Superfact & Puregon 300. 10 eggs retrieved, 8 mature, 6 eggs fertilized, 2 survived. Transferred 2 low grade morulas on day 5 – BFN.

Donor Egg Cycle. IVF#1 (DE)April 2015. Transferred 1 grade 4AA embryo – BFN. Dr made some changes into treatment protocol. IVF#2 (DE) - transferred 2 blasts. BFP on 6dp5dt.1st Beta 148. 2nd Beta- 315. 7wk 3d ultrasound - 1 heartbeat 138bpm, measuring 7wks 3ds. My sweet son born via C-section.

Now wanting more kids. I'm afraid of another path coming. Adding 2 more MCs after my son was born. Don't know if I can endure this journey again but so much desperate for a sibling. Please, do tell me some of the comforting words.. Thank you, lovelies ! xx

[AmbK]

Hi there, Congratulations on finally winning the battle against infertility! I'm so happy for you and glad that you shared your whole struggle and the success story in here. I personally take inspiration and get a little more hope that even I'll get there someday, someday soon from these stories. I haven't been much far yet, failed 3 rounds of IUI and will shortly start our first ICSI+IVF cycle. I don't have much to say really since I haven't been able to be a mother yet.. but all I can say it if you really want a sibling then go for it. You've been through the odds already and sailed through, I'm pretty sure if anything it made you more strong and will sure add to your perseverance. Yeah, the road doesn't appear to be smooth but then I believe you can sail through. Waiting will only add on some more year's to your age and your fertility isn't going to get any better it will only deteriorate with time. What's the point in postponing it all then? You've just got to decide how much you really want this sibling and just go for it. Wish you love and luck for all that lay ahead!

[andylins in reply to AmbK]

Thank you for your kind reply. You're right, surely. There's no point in postponing our journey. Thank you for the words of support, I appreciate this so much. I'm also sorry you haven't become mom yet but I'm hoping you're currently on the way to your joy. Keeping you in my prayers. Am going to update anyway. All the best!!

[hannahding]

Hey sorry to hear about your MC. I am sure that must have been heartbreaking. However, don't lose hope. I am sure things can be improved. Ask your doctor for medication to improve the embryo quality. Make sure that the doctor you are visiting has a high success rate. This really helps increase the chance of success. Best of luck, sending baby dust your way.

[andylins in reply to hannahding]

Hi! Thank you for your reply. My tiny beans will be always with me. We're using donor egg again, so no medication is going to work with my material. We do count on donor eggs with ivf, but I'm really afraid my body might do its worst..Dr says she feels ok about it and no need to worry on the point. The clinic guarantees min 3 healthy high class embies for ET. I'm trying to prepare my body the best I can, still feeling confused about how it will work in tandem with my little beans?? I'm among the experienced moms, so feel ashamed I cannot pull myself together. But it's always easier to hide behind the screen, eh? Well, the thing I know, our 1st app went on just perfect. As I mentioned above we're on donor egg cycle with the previous clinic overseas where got success, baby#1, an adorable son. This time we saw some of the staff we already know and they didn't seem to be surprised with seeing us. I remember my nurse told me once: you'll come back for a sibling one day..I thought 'yes' ridiculously as we were just at the beginning with little hope and even less strength, so I didn't pay attention to this lovely's words..And now we're in the process again!!

[andylins]

Hi, ladies! Just a note from the past I can't get rid off today. Some post on the board reminded me of my problem with the previous clinic. It was that they could specifically spill embryos on the floor and charge me again. That's what they asked me to sign when we wanted to apply for donor egg. Also they told me I would have to pay full fee if donor had poor response! Just imagine!! But what if she just does not take meds?? She and them both would get paid. And me?? I would be screwed! Guarantee for me was that if they screwed up I would get my money back. I only needed one kid. That was it!

That did seem like a crazy waiver. Also lab error we experienced once. We never felt better when switching the clinics afterwords. As it goes like we should be comforatble with the place or the things like: You should know well whether you better off with an experienced RE with a long track record? Or with a new young doctor just off fellowship training who may be at the cutting edge of practice? What are the clinic's success rates with women your age? Does the lab have a good reputation? Do you feel comfortable that your dr is listening to you and is addressing your concerns? Before you commit to your shot, assess how you both feel about all this. It definitely helps in the long run.

PS: getting prepared for the ET. Fingers crossed.