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After trying for a year to conceive

Hi!everyone.After trying for a year to conceive on their own, both I and my husband were diagnosed with non-specific infertility, which doctors explained meant that there was no apparent medical problem.we sought help from a fertility specialist and were able to get pregnant, only to lose the pregnancy at 12 weeks. Then, just six weeks later, I conceived naturally. I was incredibly grateful, but I wished friends and family understood she needed to vent, just like every other pregnant woman.My body had failed me for so many years, it had betrayed me over and over by not performing such a basic function. Then I saw her. We did it—my body and I delivered a perfect baby” When puking my brains out I was not allowed to say, ‘Wow pregnancy kinda sucks!’ like all other pregnant women get to because the response was ‘Well, at least you're pregnant now.’ I was thrilled to be pregnant, but felt that was the only emotion I was permitted by others to share."People who knew about my struggle put a lot of pressure on by expecting me to be thrilled all the time."

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hey Julia! always remember it takes a big heart to love and a bigger heart to continue loving after it has been broken. you girl just proved to everyone else that you have such a big loving heart. I'm very happy for you. I and my husband are longing for a baby girl of our own. But naturally conceiving is out of the question as I had my hysterectomy 6 months ago and now also have a disc in my pelvis. I wish you and your family the best of luck and a life full of joy. take care of yourself love


Hi, hun! Sending huge hugs and much of love to you. Together with dh we already have twins conceived through donor egg ivf. After some time we found ourselves with the same place again praying and struggling for more kids. Natural conceiving was out of the question as well - Me: luteal phase deffect, ripe age, 10% verdict of conceiving using own eggs. Wish you all the best, take care x


Ladies, I'm sorry you've gone through this.. I know well how loss aches. Our second ivf shot was a disaster. Only third transferred brought us luck. (Overall, the 5th round of treatment :(. You need to give yourself time..

How far are you now with your research, elinnna?


Extemelly happy for every prego woman here! Praying for those making their decisions!

Surrogacy changed our lives for better. The path was weired and strange and difficult to pass but we did it and have nothing to regret about. This is not our fault we have issues preventing us from natural conceiving or carrying a healthy pregnancy. We face this and seek ways out. Illiterate people may say surrogacy is immoral. It's destroying the family basis.. But I don't really care what people say. I used to avoid them and have my mind at peace. With surrogacy things were vivid. I knew I'd have a baby, a beautiful mix of dh's and my own DNA. We underwent surrogacy at a ukrainian biotexcom. Our beautiful blast was implanted in the summer 2013. Our sweet Laria was born weghing 8 lb 12 oz by planned Caesarean on March 17 the following year. I was at the surrogate's side in the operating room meeting our girl for the first time in my life. I find it absolutely priceless! No matter what people are saying. Noone has right to judge here. We always ask ourselves ladies: 'why me??' - eh? For me the answer is clear now. It was me to pass the tough path, to get our tiny miracle and to appreciate every other day spent together!! Sending much of love and support to everyone on this track x


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