My name is Bloom. My husband and I live in Finland. I am 33 and we really want to become parents. I can get pregnant, but I can not give birth to a healthy baby. I suffered from diabetes since I was 15, and insulin must be used twice a day. I do not need to remind you how it’s important to feel the motherhood by yourself for any woman, this fact is comprehended by everyone who’s present at this forum. We were ready to adopt a child, because it is so noble. A lot of orphans are waiting to be adopted into the family and loved. This option is still alive, probably we may adopt a second child, I even know from which country. My husband and I love each other so much so we wanted a child resembling us. Of course we are able to convey our lines of character through the carrying and education, but we wanted the first-born to be with our features and blood. We agreed that surrogacy was a good option. It is prohibited in all its forms in our country. We’ve got enough money to buy the program in the US, but we have surely chosen another location. My husband was born in an orphanage in Ukraine, his parents adopted him and he left Ukraine still being a toddler. He does not speak the Ukrainian language, but always wanted to return home. We did not trust the reviews among the Internet sources and contacted directly with a number of the Ukrainian Centers for Reproductive Medicine to listen to their suggestions. Two clinics were credible. We chose one of them just because of small parts to lose doubts. And two weeks before the scheduled date of the meeting we flew to Ukraine. We visited 7 cities: Odessa, Kiev, Lviv, Uzhgorod, Dnepr, I have forgotten the names of the last two small towns where we were. I can conclude that this is a country with the rather dirty streets, but not as dirty and crowded as in Asia. And people do not stick to you to sell something like in the Middle East. There are very nice people, especially women, and rather poor but not all. Ukrainians have real idiotic government they don't deserve but concerning to the surrogate motherhood in the legislation all is simple and understandable. We did not try to save the money, but anyway the prices of goods and services even in the capital were absolutely fine to us. Kiev is a large and fashionable city, not so giant as Moscow or St. Petersburg (Russia), but quite modern and developed. I want to describe what was happening to us and what we were doing during the program. I hope it will be interesting to you, will not it? We signed a contract for the most expensive package of services at the clinic, VIP package. So that I can comment on everything, like an expert. Because we were granted with all the services that the organization has. In the first and following visits we were fully provided with transportation and driver and also with English-speaking manager. It was a very pretty looking and smart in communion girl. We lived in a large apartment near the center with beautiful views (like writing a review of the hotel in Turkey). In short, a house - 5 out of 5, interpreter - 5 out of 5, and great tasty food. housekeeper cooked a real borsch. This is a local traditional dish, divine red soup, very generous and tasty.
Full cost of the package is 50 thousand euros, but there are several cheaper options. We were told that lower cost of the package would not affect the quality of services, and the couples would be provided to all. We felt that the price was acceptable for us so we were satisfied. During the first visit we stayed for 2 days to sign the contract and for the testing. Right there at the apartment my husband gave a blood sample. All services and transfers were covered by our package so that no surprises should be. We really wanted our baby being an owner of our biological information. But because of my damn disease, I can not make use of ovarian stimulation. It's too dangerous. We had to choose a donor. The question with which we had to face was not easy. My child will not have anything from me. Would he feel a relation with me? Will he love me? I was weeping aloud. But if the egg donor is the only way we have to try it! There is a huge and rich base of donors in this clinic. Really great database with photos and video materials. We could choose over a week. My husband and I chose a beautiful girl. Who even looked like me. Dr. confirmed that our surrogate mother was a very young, but healthy and pretty woman. We couldn’t have a meeting with her before 12 weeks of pregnancy. It’s a rule. Doctor told that such meetings and other serious talks can disturb her emotional condition. It may be bad for a baby. So we “met” at Skype after three months of expecting. She is a neat-looking of course with no bad habits and bad heredity. I had questions for her. Is it difficult to her to take such a step? She said that everything was fine and that was a planned decision. The money she took she’d invest in the development of her son. (Actually she must have her own healthy baby to be a surrogate mum.) This was a worthy response. Wouldn't she get any maternal feelings for our child after its birth, could it be a problem? She has assured me that she promised being very cautious during pregnancy, but she'd be ready not to claim for the child and not feel as a mother. Everything was great. The second visit lasted about a week, during which fertilization has been performed, and we returned to Finland. We’re sure that the conduct of surrogate mother is under the control of the clinic. And she needs nothing. We have received the results of the ultrasound on the 3rd and 6th month of pregnancy. We'll have a boy! Time has flown like-meteor quickly, we barely had time to prepare everything. It seems we have bought a whole Disneyland. We did not hide the news from our friends, and maybe now they are waiting for our boy, just as we are. Estimated delivery date is in two weeks and we are ready to fly to Kiev again. Very and very worry, we believe that everything will be well. Clinic strengthens our faith. They act directly according the contract, all the items were carried out on time and accurately. No claims. We're almost happy! By the end of the story i got dizzy head and I lose the line of thoughts. I will not re-read, I hope that what I said will be useful and important to someone. With love, Bloom and her husband.