Envy

[Diana889]

It’s really hard not to feel envious every time someone else announces their pregnancy. And now, it’s my 19 year old niece. I understand she’s excited to be having a little girl, but the ache I feel in my heart… I feel for all the women who go thru this same thing for years and years. It’s hard not knowing if you’ll ever get to experience it yourself or not.

[Hannah_J]

Hi, I totally understand you. Almost 90% of my surrounding have children, some of them unintentionally While I struggle, fall down, get up, struggle, fall down again, get up again, and so on... Feeling envious is normal, I guess... But I hope that someday we will stop being envious and will become happy parents) I don't know your situation, but I have only surrogacy left. If it doesn't work, then maybe I will accept the fact that donor egg is the only way out for me...

[quieturban]

Oh I know that feeling it happens to me too. It's like everyone is getting their wish except me. I feel hurt because I always wished others well and all I get in return is pain. It makes me want to give up.

[wessywok]

I hear you. It's so effing hard sometimes! It can feel so unfair!

[wessywok in reply to wessywok]

My brother in-law is 31, his wife is 28 they have 5 kids. The eldest is 8 and we've been trying to become parents for 9 years.

[Tommyy]

Hi dear. You're not alone. Many of us are in the same boat. I have been TTC for two years now. However, we can't let this cast a shadow over other relationships. I guess we just need to learn to be happy for them, while also trying to find a solution for our selves. Hang in there!

[MeganWhisler]

Hi Diana. I understand what you mean. It can be hard sometimes. However, we must be strong. Just keep hoping that we will be in their shoes one day. There is a solution out there. Hang in there.

[DebbieMitchell]

Good day Diana! Let me tell you thing feeling envious is in human nature. But losing hope is in your hands. Don’t lose hope very soon you will be having an angel in your house too. There are many fertility clinics which will help you in your surrogacy. Just don’t lose hope. I also conceive a bay after 11 years of my marriage. I visited a clinic in Ukraine they help me a lot. You don’t need to be very rich for getting there. Their bills are always so reasonable.

[MyrtleAnderson]

Hi Diana. I know what you mean. Some people have it so easy. However, self-pity won't help. Be happy for them, while continually trying yourself too. I hope you are successful soon.Good luck!

[Mel77]

I'm sorry hun But it always feels the same. I got frustrated each time ladies announcing their pregnancies on fb etc. Sometimes it seemed like the whole world was getting prego except you!! I remember a girl once feeling a strong urgency to tell the world she got prego by mistake and she regreted, and was looking for advice how to stop it, so on..I thought I would go mad - all this happening around while we, both desperate for babies were about to start ivf rounds!! - This is far too unfair, but this is how life works. One can get prego with a cough, and another one struggles for long years, suffers pains, goes mad about failures etc. So that there's definitely nothing strange about feeling jealous, hun. Keep strong x