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It was the first night alone with Avril. My husband needed to leave yesterday. He has urgent deal abroad. We are still in Ukraine. I began to get used to the feel this large apartment as mine own.

The idea, fulfilled dream being a mom is my reality now. It can’t be described in two words, it’s a thrilling, an exciting, a marvelous experience. Year ago I was going to accept my impossibility to become a parent. But currently I’m comprehending my maternity with relevant responsibility. Great time we live through!

My mother in law promised to arrive here in one week, she told a truth, I saw how she loves our little girl.

But before her coming back I will be without relatives help.

But I’m not afraid, I get powerful support from the representatives of biotex. I have all necessary for now.

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Erika000 profile image
Erika000

So lovely story:) Avril is the name of your new born daughter? As I understand you use a surrogate mother in Ukraine, right? How is your baby feels now, hope everything is ok! Sure you have dreamt to become a mother for a long time, but in reality you can face up with many problems. It even can be a great challenge to wake up at the night when she’ll start crying. You should know all the aspects of baby care? By the way does your clinic provide you with some nurse for the first time? How long you plane to stay in Ukraine?

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Blooo33 in reply toErika000

Yup, Avril is her name. I like it, but it has been chosen by my husband’s mom :) :) :) she is a specialist in the names.

Of course the provide us with nurse, she is pleasant, but we decided that we must overcome this by ourselves. Perhaps I have little problems within babysitting but these are small things and I’m a good learner.

It’s wonderfully waking up during the night due to her cry, this is really better that waking with thought you are completely infertile without a chance to be happy beside your child.

We’ll leave from here at once as soon as the documents are done we had made our last payment.

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Erika000 in reply toBlooo33

Oh, I think Avril is a very beautiful name! You mother in law should be really good at giving names I guess)) I wish your daughter grows up strong and healthy and brings you a lot of pleasure. I hope you will not have any problems with your documents. And in the nearest future you can represent a new member of your family to all your relatives and friends. Wish you all the best. Take care

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Blooo33 in reply toErika000

Thank you very much. It’s a pleasure to me to hear such kind words and beautiful wishes to my daughter’s address.

I think when she becomes an adult I will tell her how many people have wished great things since the time she had been born and even earlier.

And what is your stage of the journey, dear? How are you doing now?

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Erika000 in reply toBlooo33

I’m just start my journey. Because of a terrible car accident I’m not able to have children. Now I have a new husband and a new life. We want make our family complete. We decided to take part in surrogacy program but it’s impossible to do in our country. So, now we are looking for some clinic abroad. I wish I had such change as you.

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Blooo33

Wow! Thank you very much, my dear! It was great to hear such warm words. And that you are also with our clinic. You have overcome maybe the most worrying stage of the program. Now you may meet you surrogate, I think your interpreter will give you an assistance to understand her better.

Yes, my darling is healthy baby, good weight. She weighs nearly five kilograms. It’s very good considering the fact she is only one month and half. We had a little rash on her backside, but it has faded. if it needs I can call English-speaking pediatrician 24/7. I know that if I face with any problem I'll be heard and necessary staff will visit me giving a help. isn't this a safety?

we have settled down in a very big apartment I even can’t describe its area. Good place. I can say.

Thank you once more and have a great luck, dear!! Everything must be amazing!

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bethany2

it happens do not worry!

stress and even some kind of depression could come after the delivery even if we are talking about surrogacy/ given that you have mentioned biotex and Ukraine I suppose that you are there because of surrogacy is that so?

Because if it is indeed surrogacy, I applaud you! I truly understand how you felt all those months of waiting and waiting for the baby as I am now on our 10 weeks of pregnancy waiting eagerly to meet our SM! I am sure she is incredible judging by her photo but nothing beats seeing her in person..

I am only preparing for staying in Ukraine after the delivery for some time till they perform the documents and then flying back home but with the desired child!

xxx

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Blooo33 in reply tobethany2

Thank you a lot! I wish you the same successful journey. I wish you’ll be satisfied.

I am happy cause I didn’t face with any mental difficulties during all this time. Perhaps it was so because of my fully readiness to pass this way.

Be patient, dear. And everything gonna be perfect.

Be loved and happy!

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bethany2 in reply toBlooo33

That's great that you didn't experience any trouble and mental issues like some may do because of the difficult experience and of what it actually takes to decide to go for surrogacy and actually go for it.

I am happy for you. As for me I feel a bit worried but I think that it is pretty normal for my status as of the intended mother.

lots of love

xxx

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Blooo33 in reply tobethany2

Thank you too! I don’t know what could be with my mood for this time if I did not receive any supporting comments. I’m grateful very much.

What the package do you use? Are you satisfied with it?

I think when you arrive in kiev I will be already at home, and my new life will be flowing!

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bethany2 in reply toBlooo33

we signed VIP contract. we had some savings and we wanted to make sure that they go for the right cause. so basically with those 50k we are indeed paying for everything. And what about you?

Oh, I am so glad that your life has had that turn and soon you will be home with you sweet baby! what name did you choose? If I may ask :)

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Blooo33 in reply tobethany2

Her name is Avril, Avril Bloom. I guess it sounds memorable and sonorously!

Suppose you’ve made a right choice, you’ll not complain. I don’t I like all. We didn’t feel any discomforts. The staff gave their care, attentiveness, politeness to my family. It could hardly be so just because of our vip status.

I can say our 50k were spent for the priceless things. I don’t regret any penny. That is great story that waits for its final and the beginning of the new chapter.

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bethany2 in reply toBlooo33

What a beautiful name hun!!!! It does! Hah With your surname it sounds amazing, I think she is going to be a local start!

Is that true that the clinic will be providing us with the pediatrician care for 24/7? Because they may say that they will but is that really so? How many couples have used this option? I don't know that's why I am not sure that I can even cope with someone being near me for that much of time except for my father. haha

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Blooo33 in reply tobethany2

Thank you so much! I even don’t know how it can be explained. In case of being a vip package holder that implies to have an opportunity to feel care 24/7. The pediatrician has to visit you every day to see everything is alright and advise you. You also have a phone connection with her. We had no any serious problems during our stay but I guess we can call and she would come to give a help.

It works. You have to be sure that all your orders will be considered. I suppose you may stay alone or with your father, you can decide you need a babysitter or housekeeper or you don’t.

I wish you feel fine, dear.

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bethany2 in reply toBlooo33

well I have wrote to my manager and she explained it to me: basically clients are getting 24/7 care even if they sign the economy contract but vip one is the best in terms of the number of services already included. bc actually every single service is included in the vip contract... but yeah for the baby, if you want your baby to receive the fullest care possible you better go with vip contract. but if you demand the pediatrician care in case of the economy contract you would have to pay for it.

well, she said that too that I can choose whether we want a babysitter or not. but I thought that if her services are included in the contract then why not? but we'll see when it is time. i haven't even seen my SM yet and I am already planning my last visit to Ukraine!

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Blooo33 in reply tobethany2

Actually I meant the same.

Perhaps I was incorrect in formulation about “care”. Sure we all sufficiently get it regardless of the chosen package. I think that care and attentiveness are two things which they firstly provide their customers with. And this is awesome.

I wish you have a good last visit. Let it bring you only gladness!

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bethany2 in reply toBlooo33

oh it's not going to happen yet though. I am happy my SM is pregnant but she is yet to reach the 12 weeks goal. we are still in anticipation. waiting till we can meet her. it is going to happen very soon but my last visit is only in plans.

yes, of course, this is awesome! you did explain everything thoroughly but I just had to share with you what my manager has told me earlier!

well. thank you again. good luck!

xx

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SheriWell

Blooo33, you're definitely a very brave woman. Staying alone with a newborn in a foreign country - this is a challenge. at least for me it would be. Why are you staying for you long there with the baby?

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Blooo33 in reply toSheriWell

As I wrote before during the previous two month I had a finishing stage of my journey.

I pass through the surrogacy program in Ukrainian local clinic is called biotexcom.

I started my posting because I was tired of expectation, and I concluded that our forums were appropriate place for such stories. I hoped this could give a help to someone.

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SheriWell in reply toBlooo33

I hope you found everything that you were looking for at this forum.

i asked this question just because two months seems too long to stay in a foreign country. as to your fertility clinic, it seems that many people talk about it here. it must have a lot of clients

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Blooo33 in reply toSheriWell

Sometimes even one week of expectation seems too long term. Situations are different and generally our term of expectation depends on speed of embassy working.

For sure lots of the clients, we didn’t wait in the queue maybe because of our vip status but we saw many people there. I can conclude it’s a popular place (speaking about biotex clinic)

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Blooo33

We’ re the vip persons. :) We could choose the most expensive package. we have considered and done it.

It’s normal term for waiting sometimes couples need to stay here longer. I suppose It will take no longer that two weeks in our case. I hope.

It’s not defects of the clinic’s work. all these depend on embassy permissions.

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lainnie33

oow, that's a nice name for a baby. My congrats to your family.

May her be a happy life!!!

Unfortunately, we just made a first step on this tough journey. We signed a contract with this clinic. We are in the waiting list. As I can't be stimulated because of my health state, our option is de surrogacy.

It's quite stressful, I cannot think straight, all my thoughts are about the surrogate, how long should we wait, when she'll be find, how does she look like, is she nice and so many else questions... sorry

how long did you wait for your surrogate? How long did the whole process take?

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Blooo33 in reply tolainnie33

Oh-h-h, excuse me please I’ve merely missed your reply. Thank you for wishes! We like her name too, it’s amazing like spring outside. There is beautiful weather now in Kiev, I think maybe it would be normal to call the babysitter and have a little walking along the central avenue… just for the relax.

We’ve been waiting not more than for one month and half. I guess It will happen as soon as possible. Don’t be worried. Start thinking that her appearance isn’t an important factor for your baby’s health, because she has a role of carrier, you see? She will not convey her biological information to your baby.

Our whole process took approximately a one year since the date of our signing.

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lainnie33 in reply toBlooo33

A month has been passed already but they didn't find a surrogate. What's is wrong with us? I'm worried about it.

I texted them million times, they told me not to worry before the time. They do their best in order to make things move faster.

All the feedbacks I saw on this forum were positive and it's needed to wait. But the time is killing me softly, I become nervous and angry in some way...

How to overcome my feelings, I would be grateful if you tell me your methods of being calm..

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Byernblo

I’ve recently finished to read your third post. I need to know it’s amazing story, you are truly strong and brave woman. You deserve what you’ve got now.

I am excited by you. The experience that you have lived through is wanted to be learned.

I think nothing bad can happen, You will cope with everything! You can I saw.

If one day I call to your clinic it will be thanks to Your journey and your story told.

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Blooo33 in reply toByernblo

Wow, you even can’t envision how it was pleasant to hear such words. I didn’t think that my stories could find so thrilling response in your soul, only can state I appreciate this very much

Thank you. For people as you I write.

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Byernblo in reply toBlooo33

That is so, don't mention. I wish you have a quicker ending of your docs preparation.

Most of all I want to walk the same successful way as you.

Have the good last days in Kiev! don't forget about updates, please

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Blooo33

Hi! (VIPersons here) haha hah ! Everything was great, we're satisfied the service we had got. We were accommodated in laaaaarge apartment, really big. It was situated at the center, but we weren’t disturbed by the noise.

We liked it! It was a proper choice!

xxx

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Blooo33

That’s cute, really! Hah I can reveal mine. I remember some amazing moments with our housekeeper. When we had a spare time she was agreed to show us a city. We were at the center, walking along the streets, eating the street food. She didn’t understand anything but google translate’s voice helped us.

We found out her politeness and amicability, that was wonderful. We lived through hard experience and long journey, but these moments have beautified our days.

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Blooo33

Hi. Pleasure to hear such warm and sentimental words. I’m glad to know you were touched by my brief story. I agree with you, never before we experienced such great luck, so strong impulse, this push to be alive again. if I cry watching her these tears poure by their selves, because I remember that long impassable way we have had to overcome. And I feel hot in my heart.

Thank you for your attentiveness<3 for your presence! be happy! :)

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NicollineS

Wow!!! Such a great news! I am so happy to hear about this! As I have already written, I am waiting for my egg donation in biotecom clinic from Ukraine. My best friend succeeded and she couldn't ever imagine that she will become a mom! I will share my journey with you!

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