I am new to this site.
7 days ago we had to call an ambulance for my wife, Ally. She was battling pneumonia but went down hill fast. Her O2 saturation fell to 65% by the time the ambulance arrived.
She COPD and gets pneumonia 2 - 4 times a year. Doctor usually prescribes prednisone and within 3 days she beats the pneumonia. Not this time. I arrived at the hospital a few hours after. I got the kids, ages 14 and 12, fed and settled then I went to the hospital. I was in no rush to get to the hospital because we have done this so many times I was not overly worried. I just thought we had another 2 - 7 day stay while they treated my wife's pneumonia. I was wrong. By the time I got there she was sedated with a breathing tube installed. They said they were shipping off to a different hospital right away because they had a bed available in the ICU.
They said her lungs were not working properly and were not fighting off the pneumonia. Within 24 hours the told me they going to use ecmo on her. I had never heard of this so I looked it up on line. My heart sank so low. I read it was a last ditch effort. There was nothing else to try and it has a 30% - 50% of working. I don't know what to do. It kills me to see my wife and best friend in a situation like this and so close to death. I am trying to stay strong and positive but it is so hard. I have to strong for my kids and I cannot show them how scared I really am.
One of my biggest dilemmas is wether I should take the kids to see her or this just totally freak them out. With the breathing tube in her mouth, the ecmo in her neck and all the iv's. I have told them about how sick she is, about the breathing tube and the induced coma I have not told them about the ecmo because I do not want them to read about it on-line. With all of my wife's medical problems over the years we decided a long time ago to be honest and upfront with them about what is going on. But I thought leaving out the ecmo was a good idea.
Anyway, does anyone have any insite about bringing the kids to see and talk to their mom?
Also I want to thank everyone else for sharing their experiences. After reading some similar stories I am more positive about a good result tonight than I have been all week. It is day 6 on ecmo.
Thank you everyone and I look forward to your responses.