Stroke heart surgery post surgery relationship

[NIGHT_SKY]

Life after stroke.Marriage to roommate.

My spouse had a clot stroke in October. He is healing and going to a speech therapist but married relationships is more like roommates.

I don't pressure him and understand that the way he thinks is a bit different now because the stroke damaged or changed a portion of his brain. I have seen him thru heart attack, open heart surgery, DVT deep vein thrombosis and now a stroke. I will always be here as his wife, his friend, share a home/room and love with him but I have to learn to live with the new relationship. I know he has serious vascular blockage problems that doctors state is managed only by medication not surgery -- so I need to be here for him. I believe the gradual change is God's way of preparing for the future stepping gradually apart for when he passes away and we part ways . It is difficult because weeks before the stroke a family member moved to our state for a new job, we offered them temporary housing to help with the transition but then my husband had the stroke - having house guest for months at this time is not ideal and is stressful for everyone.

[James1984]

Hi Night_Sky, I'm sorry to hear of the difficulties you are going through at the moment. I know recovery can vary a lot between people but I would think he would show improvement as time goes on. Perhaps that will help restore the connection in your relationship somewhat. You are a good person for sticking with him throughout this ordeal. Make sure you take some time for your own mental health and well-being.

Yes, God is Good, and He works in ways that are beneficial for us in the long-run. May He bless you with what you need to get through this ordeal. Through Jesus Christ we pray.

[skydivesurvivor]

y one in a million!! My husband left me after 3 years of living with the new me, all my friends went with him. Now a sad cow blight of my day is to go get paper, sit outside Costa & watch the world go by, no support from council. Met people at day centre which closed due to funding lack. Learnt life goes on!! SMILE to spite my brain injury!!

[Graceissufficient]

I think it would be very reasonable for you to tell your guest that you are so overwhelmed in supporting your husband that you have, regretfully, to ask him/her to move on. You would love them to remain in normal circumstances, but as it is, you can't continue.