im going to try and keep this as posative as is possible...
i arrived at new unit maybe 10 mins after sean,ambulance was still outside,doors open so i knew.sean "match ready"full w.h.u only thing missing was a rattle.had a suitcase i had brought with me posters etc and we set to putting them on walls.im thinking where is his stuff?after an hour or so of him bossing me about i realised that his stuff wasnt coming...he asking etc.sean had lunch,pasta bake,get this guys it came with a "cloche"!!!manager came as soon as she heard i was there as did s.a.l.t lady who came back with note pads,pens etc.then,my beautiful freind nanapal came to say hi,our boys are neighbours how fab is that though?
it gets a lot darker now..nothing,no underwear,toiletries,cds,d.v.ds,bed linen,lap top,tablet,and his framed queens jubilee medal plus service medals,just a suitcase of nothing...just one suitcase of stuff thrown in.even a purpose built chair left behind..the staff at hawthorns brilliant,phone calls made etc.sean continued to ask where his stuff was and became more and more distressed,there was not anyone close by who didnt witness this,including our freind.he smashed one side of his chair,he will have some serious bruising to legs.i started crying again...social worker was contacted,she had organised transport this morning and had contacted bowes to be told all was correct and in order.she had gone on to another case in sunderland when she got the call.this lady travelled to bowes and picked up all of seans belongings in her car(there was a lot of stuff)at 6.15pm she requested a trolley.she was calm and collected,but brought with her drugs anti seizure which should have been priority as they are locked medication.there was a point today when sean would have easily gone into a situation of seizure,the staff would not have been able to help sean due to change over of gp etc.
i would imagine now(when i left his lovely was putting on quilt cover)they were very caring.i feel almost as if these former are challenging me,i really dont get their point?obvs s/services will be an issue.am i missing something here?did i not do enough?do i need to push them into the graves they dug themselves?its not a problem for me,im a mother(nothing stronger).tommorrow..
today was not good,tommorrow and what follows will be better,lordy what happens to the rest that dont have?...
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Hi D, it was lovely to meet both you & Sean yesterday - pity my son was having a ‘sleeping afternoon’! Plenty of time though to meet his ‘new neighbour’ in the coming days.
It was such a shame Bowes unit made what was always going to be a stressful day so much harder - totally unacceptable they hadn’t got all his belongings & medication packed up & with him.
I truly hope Sean soon settles in and you are both happy with Hawthorn’s. As I already said building is a little tired decor etc wise but is in the process of a complete update including a proposed additional rehabilitation unit. That said it is the staff who are the most important element & we have nothing but praise for them - I am sure you will soon get to meet & know them all.
Hi D, that place needs shutting down, how dare they do this, obviously knowing how Sean would react without his stuff, in a new place, but not knowing the new place is far better tolerated to brain injury reactions than they were. They wanted him to make a good introduction didn’t they, at least your Sean is better off out of there now , I hope Sean was able to settle down was he got his stuff , and I am sure nanapal was very understanding of the situation. As far as not sending medication, that is a very dangerous situation to be in and should be dealt with. Hope Sean’s able to settle and relax now and you in turn too, I’m sure having nanapal so close will help, love Alice xx
HI DBHGosh, those people at the old place seem completely dysfunctional , and cruel....not sure what you can do, but you'll do what you can. Your MP and army contacts come to mind- they will keep an eye on their own if they know to watch...which may be the wedge...
Thank goodness you are both out of there, and the bonus is knowing your neighbours.
I hope this w orks out well and things settle out now.
Glad to hear Sean has finally moved. Having read a few of your previous posts, the mind boggles on the level of care he has been receiving and perhaps smacks of what might be a sad, dark hidden epidemic of poor care not just there but elsewhere around the country, especially as concerned relatives’ voices are seemingly drowned out by those ‘in charge’. But having said that, it sounds like there were several big positives to outweigh the negatives on the transfer day (a social worker worth their salt, for one?) and may the positives continue. Here’s to brighter, less stressful days ahead for you both.
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One of those days!!!!
More than another day.
The day I came home😁
SAH - Waiting for that \"day\"
