"moving on"?

[Dogsabighelp]

hey all,so been in over a week of issues with son.when i visit he writes,speaks(mostly swearing as i have said before,perfect diction there!)there was an incident last week when he was trying to facetime me and he lost the plot.anyway i was very upset and requested meeting with unit manager.this happened on friday.as most of you know i am very direct and we had some clashes before.she was i think very honest in her approach.pointing out that sean is a young man who is very frustrated and the only people he has a connection with in regards to fellow residents are 2 which are very much older than him.she had said that she feels its time to move on to the next step for him,in other words,perhaps this was not the correct placement for him since last may.i have to say i respect her for saying what she did,its not often you can come to such with the people we deal with ,in particular someone you have crossed swords with...i appreiciate this and hope she has more luck with social services than i have had...my son was quite happy with outcome.having made a lot of facebook posts about "prison" and lots more!on the plus side..still decorating.found a box of socks old toys and i can still juggle 3 balls!!!

[cat3]

Hey D. So what's the 'Next Step' likely to be ? I'm not familiar with aftercare options or availability but I'd really like to believe that Sean's future care will be an improvement on the past 9 months.

Have you heard any more about his home visit assessment ?

A box of old toys .....sounds familiar. My son's old bedroom still has loads of sentimental stuff in drawers & cupboards. I get a pang looking through childhood & teenage stuff (daren't throw anything out) but I'm lucky he's only a few minute's drive away & living a normal life. I so wish it was the same for you & Sean m'ove....

I played 'Three Ball' at home & school against a brick wall for most of my childhood but never managed it in mid-air. Well done you !🤩😃

Hope you're taking care of yourself missus.. Xxx

[skydivesurvivor]

he is very frustrated with what he is capable of, not aimed at you! Have been in his position so I know. We love our parents/carers sweetly but are trying to come to terms, recognise our inabilities?! Keep up the excellent work?!! He is grateful, just can’t show it ! Adding to his frustration. For u it is bitterly frustrating, my parents went through the same. All I can say to give u hope is that in time, after he has had the time to adjust/accept his new life. He will be calmer. Took me years, but adjusted and was able to show my love,appreciation many years later. Spent 20 years trying to make it up to mum n dad. Good luck & revisit this site whenever u need support please. Mum n dad no longer around so still trying to show my thanks by supporting other in my past situation

[Alibongo60]

Hi D, so as cat says what is the next step for Sean, he does sound like he’s very frustrated and stressed out at the moment, he’s had to accept an awful lot. Would coming home be an option with a lot of support, because as a carer in my past life it’s no easy job, either in work or at home, but I know given an instant you would jump at it. Lots of luck my friend love Alice xx

[ksws]

Hi D, I bet you could juggle 6 if you tried hard enough! 😁.Tough one for you... not sure how old your son is, but trying to find somewhere with younger people is very difficult. I am not trying to burst your bubble, just giving you a heads up really. X