i was involved in a bad car accident 5 years ago on the motorway. I don’t remember it but insurance worked out what happened and it wasn’t my fault or anyone else’s. Since then my mum has been worried when ever I drive. Does not want me ever going on motorway again tho I have been a few times she doesn’t know. She likes me to text her when ever I go out driving alone when I get where I’m going. I go to a BI group every week by train I drive to train station and text her when I’m on train so she knows I haven’t crashed. She will not even listen to the fact it would be better for me to drive to the group if ever trains are not running. It is faster on train and easier but if they are on strike or missing out my mum thinks I should not go to BI group rather than driving there. I have only driven once as the trains were on strike so had limited service and I wouldn’t have got there in time otherwise. My mum doesn’t know this or she would go mad.
The other person to be overly cautious which I can sort of understand is the man who runs BI group he’s had BI himself so knows what it’s like. He feels responsible for everyone there while they are there understandably. Yesterday he wasn’t there as he’s been in New York running a marathon. I was talking to the woman who also runs group she hasn’t had BI but has a brother who has. She does do more with us who go there. She’s got a few of us with fitbits to count how many steps we do a day she’s planned for us to do a 5km run/walk next month. Not everyone doing it as some wouldn’t manage it. I am doing it and yesterday she said the man is also going to do it with us. She said he wasn’t sure about it at first as he didn’t want to be responsible for all us who are doing it. She told him he doesn’t need to be as it’s not an event they have organised. Also next year the woman has planned for some of us to do a total warrior assault course. The man has been wary about this as obviously it’s going to be tough he’s thinking we may struggle. The woman has argued our case that she knows we will be ok. I saw his cautiousness other week we had been on about me doing some running and walking with him after he gets back from New York which will be next week. He mentioned he was going to walk the 3 peaks in Yorkshire again next year he must have noticed me listening and straight away said I wouldn’t manage them. So it got me thinking I will walk them next year with the man and woman and got a few others joining from the group. The woman said yesterday she thought it was insaulting how fast the man said I wouldn’t manage the 3 peaks, but I told her it just made me determined to prove him wrong. I love going to the group and get on well with everyone so will just prove I can do stuff. As far as I’m concerned it’s me who should be responsible for myself and same with everyone else. I know people can be classed as vulnerable after BI but once they have been to group few times it’s clear what they are like if they think they can do more or less than they can. Everyone who goes regularly is capable of being aware what they can manage. There has only been 1 woman who has needed looking after. It was a woman with very bad memory anything after half hour she would forget, she needed constant reassurance that someone was coming for her and couldn’t go anywhere by herself. She doesn’t come any more as it got too much for the woman who runs group. Everyone else is capable of looking after themselves.