I will try and keep this short! My son and his partner paid for me and his mother in law to go to Rome for five days. Family assistance was organised. First problem was a delay at check in. The woman just sat on the phone for ages, and it was my ticket that was a problem for some reason. I became quite anxious , the girl on check in said nothing, I said to my son 'look their family assistance is going through and we were not. We had no time and had to go straight to boarding.
We arrived and waiting a long time for hire car, whilst mother in law was speaking. In Italian. It was a long process and was late. I went straight to bed and the rest went out to eat. Next day had a quiet day, but did not go to dinner in Rome which was about 40 minutes in the car. The mother in law I always had a good relationship, but she can be overbearing (ex teacher, sorry and teachers out there!) I felt like we were on a bloody school trip!! Her son told her to shut up a few times and no he did not want to get up at 7 am as he was on holiday. We visited the Vatican , no mother in law as she had visited it twice, and went shopping. She dropped off at the front so had to walk for about 20 minutes to the back. Alex got a wheelchair for me, but I got very stressed about the stairlift and could not understand how it worked. I nearly didn't go to the Vatican, but thought I be in a wheelchair and okay.
We met Gail's (mother in law) friend for dinner and they laughed all bloody evening about the time they taught in school in Italy. And we met her another night too.
on the last day I was getting vibes from Gail that she wasn't that happy with me, and I said sorry my speak is slurred as I am tired, she replied we all get tired, so I said goodnight and got no reply. The next day our last day they went off to look t yachts and Alex and I sat down by the restaurants and said which one we should go in. He said wait for Gail and I lost it and said why does it have to be about .f....... Gail's decision all the time. Alex said I was fixating on Gail and that she was just trying to help as she knew the country, and noticed I had rolled my eyes earlier. Alex said I have spent a lot of money on this trip and he was trying to keep everybody happy (which made me think that something had been said) . I said I would give him the bloody money back, and felt like he was making it was me that was the problem. He said my brain injury had changed me as a person, and that I seemed shyer . It is hard to talk when Gail is around as she is constantly talking!!! It really hurt what he said and I got confused and he said he was not going to keep going over it. I said I was in pain and tired and he mentioned I had not looked happy , but when I tried to pin him down about it, he did not elaborate . I felt hurt and upset. I never thought. I would hear my son say those words. Yes I have changed, and fatigue makes it worse, but I thought he understood. We were driving back last night and Gail was sitting in the front and just rammed her seat back as far as it would go into the back of my knees. It was done hard and fast and no do you mind. Alex said all families have ups and downs and this is our family now. I am not sure I wanted to be controlled by a woman who clearly wants everything her own way. She practically lives with them. I feel hurt and upset. I know the holiday was too much, but I tried a couple of breaks. Alex rubbed my leg yesterday on the plane, but it does not take away the fact of what he said. I know I. am different, but I do not like the negatIvity of how my son said this. I think it was too much a responsibility for him, but I thought Gail would help more as she did in the past when I lived with them for a bit, but no. I said to my son Gail had made some not nice remarks when nobody was around, and all he said was Gail likes you. I felt he should trust what his mother says. He has fallen out with her before over a birthday.
Sorry for long post. I do not know what to do.