Was given last rights and heart stopped after RTA way back in 1996. only now I am reaching out for wisdom from people already going through this, why did I live when others died, did I cause their death? why can I not feel love anymore?... can I feel anything other than pain and frustration.
I do probably need to speak about this to a professional, but been there and got the t-shirt, good auld NHS physiatrist asked on greeting "how I was" today and on general reply "good thanks and you" was told "don't need to speak to you then , Bye"
still haven't opened up to my true feelings to my family as it would crush them. The best I can do is stay away from any alcohol so I don't take it to the next step.
don't even know why I am even writing this, maybe it will help someone know that they are not alone .
Hi, you are writing this, as many of us have in the past, not knowing what you need. Generic mental health services don't really get the brain injury. I would as for a referral to neuropsychology and possibly neuropsychiatry. The important part is neuro, they specialise in brain injury.
Just keep going (mine was 1998, ICU and all that, Glasgow Scale 8). Was I lucky, was I not, I don’t know - lost wife and business 1998, lost family and business 2019 - neither through death, bankruptcy or as far as I am aware my bad behaviour.
I stumble on, trying not to get ahead of myself. I will get where I want, don’t know exactly how, but I use what I can where I can.
As an aside, Pairofboots is a good guy but I disagree with him about people with a neuro prefix - as far as I am concerned they're all idiots whose only concern seems to be their own wealth. The NHS is a disaster run by academics and Universities who don't seem to have any idea of the realities of Brain Injury.
like me, think u need to encourage others that their is a reason to go on !! Similar history,not long after came out of my induced coma, saw three very dear people. 1 had previous week buried!! Rattled pearly gates. Was told I had a job to do so they would’nt let me in?!! Never been religious in any way!! Lost 2 sister as babies. We owe it to others?! To strive on, SMILE to spite tbi!! Keeps me going!! 😉
Hi Hidden,I am in Canada and go to a local society here which offers programs for bi people.
They do not let people with generic mental health issues in, and we are told to stay completely away from programs designed from for people with mental health issues.
This is because the approach that us successful for that group of folks will actually make bi symptoms worse.
(Yes, people with bi's can have mental health issues, and depression and anxiety are not uncommon due to the situation - that is different than the mental health isdue being the primary thing.)
So, I would agree with PairofBoots advice about going to a neuropsych of some sort, or at least a psychologist who specializes in bi.
It is slso true that nor everyone is going to be helpful. Bi is not well understood in general, and even neuropsch's can get into a rut depending on their approach.
So, you may find you are not a match with who you see first, and may have to find someone different. In this case, you just say so and so wasn't helpful please refer me to someone else.
It may also help to talk to Headway first and pick a goal to work on, or something to disclose, so they can see they can help you. Then, and you get ro trust them and they see you, more will unfold. We are often unaware of things an experienced pro can see and help with.
They also will know of other resources you may find helpful. Even if you decide someone isn't for you you can consider saying something like 'do you know someone who may be able to help me ?'
It really is not unusual for people's emotional landscape to change. Mine is quite a lot different than before, not all of it is in a bad way.
It can be difficult for those around us to accept the differences- and they do see them, even if we think we hide them well.
Maybe try talking to Headway and get some basic info on common changes and experienced after a bi and ask them what programs are available and if they can suggest a neuropsych of some sort in your area. Or, there also maybe dome sort if group program available. Ya, I thought I would hate that, and it has its moments, but you do pick up some good stuff.
Don't give up.
Oh, the benefit of a neuropsychiatrist is they can rx medications and people do get a lot of help from them, so don't rule it out . They do need to be done by someone who knows what is bi stuff and what is mental health due to bi.
Yes, my experience of the afterlife was different to what one might expect - no butterfly wings, no tunnels with light at the end - a judgment by committee. I gather that there was a slim margin to return me for repair rather than have me wiped and reborn in another body. Nobody told me why I had been spared and returned. I have been looking for the answer for four years now. I sometimes think I was returned to the wrong world and don’t belong here. I have no idea what distinguished me for the 8% survivors club. I should be happy but I am not and suicidal thoughts persist. I am incredibly lonely - most of my closest friends have died and I have few family alive. I have never seen a shrink and the last brain doctor spoke to me in 2018 when I wasn’t in a fit state to ask questions. The NHS has abandoned me and I am sure the doctors want me dead. I do think that, one day, I shall just disappear.
Whilst I haven’t removed the possibility from my agenda, I have found a receptive assessor locally who doesn’t rely on GP referrals. That should save me some money on getting the quack to do joined-up writing. I hope she can plug me into some sort of neuro-rehab.
hey,more practical approach maybe?dont read stories here that you no experience of.you clearly need support..why do you feel unable to speak your truth to family?whats the worst that can happen?just say it,how you feel.beleive me yr parents will hear you if you are honest,nothing more important..really,so do it
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