Very conflicted/confused

[Dogsabighelp]

Hi all,just had another lovely visit.a little confused as to how son is so,"on the ball"?he has given me pin number for his locked mobile phone(still don't have his property back from police!)what I do know,is,if that number he gave me unlocks phone,they have a problem,because he has told me other things too...many things?big fan of police academy films,has them all.when I asked if I could bring d.v.D's in he was very specific that I bring 4th one.I always speak with him in a calm/measured way,he is normally more volatile impulsive type.he seems very controlled and calm somehow these days,almost as if he stores info up to give me when I visit.he would know I would be the person to consider all before I react,and also the correct person to take on an issue when required.as such,I will wait to get the phone back.if the pin he gave me today is correct,then I'm very conflicted for many reasons..

[Painting-girl]

Sounds worrying D, hope you'll both be ok x

[Dogsabighelp in reply to Painting-girl]

Thanks,p,if that pin turns out correct,I won't be the one that needs to worry?

[Painting-girl in reply to Dogsabighelp]

Take care, and stay safe D x

[cat3]

Things seem to be shaping up really well with your son D. Some types of information we learn by rote such as times-table, songs and important telephone numbers or codes, so that memorized facts can come up seemingly out of thin air !

Maybe this is the case with your son. If your son's pin is correct then the truth will out and will be dealt with one way or another.

Try not to overthink this D ; what will be will be, but it might come to nothing... Thinking of you.... Cat x

[Dogsabighelp in reply to cat3]

Hey lovely lady!as usual radio 2 on Elaine Paige.we love it!I've been doing battle with garden for two days,The grass is as high as an elephants eye...socks got bit by hornet,I've grown extra nose,anyway...perhaps conflicted wasn't correct word?I'm holding the fort here,getting nowhere fast..my boy is so very strong,I think I'm just struggling with my own issues at this point,that's OK though.honey cider vinegar does work for record,but if you get hit in face with a thistle..I'd need to take the "high road"..

[cat3 in reply to Dogsabighelp]

I've overdone the gardening this past week D so I'm good for nothing today (garden looks great though !) Poor Sox getting bitten ; hope he's not suffering too much poor love. It's good to hear you're getting down & dirty outdoors - garden work might be hard on the back/knees/joints etc. but it's good therapy for the soul....

Stay upbeat m'love, and dream of better days to come. xx

[Dogsabighelp in reply to cat3]

I'm so tired...

[cat3 in reply to Dogsabighelp]

Bless you m'love ; take time out from everything apart from your son, looking after yourself ....(and walking Sox). x

[Nanapal]

Hi D, so pleased you had another good visit with your son, good signs of progress - I hope the phone is able to bring some help/answers for you both.

If you don’t know mind D would you give me your thoughts on The Bridge ( see my post yesterday) good or bad points as it may be the next step for our son - long term care placement. I understand if you would rather not say. Thank you. Take care Nanapal. x

[Dogsabighelp in reply to Nanapal]

Hi n,just sent you private msg( hope so anyway!)

[Nanapal in reply to Dogsabighelp]

Yes, received. Thank you N. x

[Pairofboots]

Hi, until you get the phone back, there is nothing you can do, unless your son wants it given to the police, they have ways of cracking most phones anyway.

It might be an idea, unless he has already made his wishes clear, to check as much as you can why he has given you the pin.

It sounds like his awareness is intact, so all good from that point of view.

It might be worth having a chat with the staff to see if his presentation has been noted to have had a marked change?

It might just be that he has settled? It might be something else?

Wishing you both and the dog well. Ian x

[Dogsabighelp in reply to Pairofboots]

Hi ian,hope you are well.read news feed this morning was very worried to see another ian making some comments?I've also msg nanapal we will speak privately later.I wanted such conversation on such important issue private.I'm hoping I can be of help,I can certainly promise honesty.my son is quite clearly aware of his accident,has" told me things"?I guess the conflict comes from uncertainties more to do with myself than anything else.18 weeks is a long time in most extreme times not to be able to comfort and support your child...I really can't explain it better,but to read that someone is done/don't contact etc goes against my/ sons last six months.frankly I'm gobsmacked..