Has anybody successfully managed to do this? Or has anybody been persuaded by a family member that they should stop drinking? What tactics worked?
My brother had a TBI after a being a victim of a hit and run 4 years ago. He is pretty ok socially, although does have a lack of empathy and can be argumentative and aggressive. When he drinks alcohol it's exaggerated x 10 as I'm sure many of you have experienced. His behaviour is completely over the top, often ending in violence. He has assaulted me and my parents on many occasions, resulting in cuts, bruises, concussion, pulling out hair etc. He denies there is a connection with him drinking alcohol and his bad behaviour. Mostly he is in denial about his behaviour and says that we are exaggerating or that he was acting in self-defense. Last night he smashed a wine glass in a restaurant and stamped on my mums iPhone smashing it to pieces.
If we contact the police or ask them to have a word with him to 'scare' him about the repercussions of assault, criminal damage etc. then it will isolate him and turn him against us. He is already very untrusting of everybody in his life.
When we tell him how alcohol affects him he will not listen. He associates drinking alcohol with his 'previous life' and thinks it makes him normal. He's not an alcoholic as he isn't always desperate for alcohol, but when he does drink, he completely loses control. Not every single time, if he had a glass of wine or a beer he would be fine, but usually he doesn't know when to stop. If we encourage him to drink less, he drinks even more in defiance.
I would really appreciate anybody's advice or opinions on this, as I fear that his behaviour will one day end up with the death of a family member and/or him going to prison.