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[Kerrywright]

Looking for help my husband has a brain injury after a moterbike accident it has changed his personality his mood are up and down he disagrees with everything I say and seems to very angry a lot he also has short term memory loss which can make him very angry at me it's very hard sometimes

[itsallinmyhead51]

Hello Kerry,

I have had three brain ops,and understand how your husband must be feeling.I dont think he is doing it intentionally,in my case it was the amount of pain i was going through,and a constant head pain wears the best people down eventually.

Have you seen the G.P. as regards anti-depressants,to lighten his mood ?

Or maybe some effective pain relief ?

just a thought as i'm on both and it really helps.

Kevin

[Kerrywright in reply to itsallinmyhead51]

He is on both some days are better than others he has the brain injury but also has major trumer to his right hand side of his body it will be a year soon and he has not been able to walk yet has to have operations but not looking good on him getting back on his feet has he also has a stomer bag as well he get very frustrated as sometimes he speaks like he has had a few drinks just seems like nothing has changed since the day he left hospital all we get from the doctors he is very lucky

[itsallinmyhead51 in reply to Kerrywright]

hmmm,my neurosurgeon told me it was likely i was going to be in a wheelchair,and im not,so dont lose hope,the mind can do a lot of good,but the path to recovery is different from person-to-person.Stay strong.

Kevin

[sospan]

Hi Kerry

Sadly one of the most common symptoms after an injury is mood and personality. A normally placid easy going guy can be transformed into a monster in a split second over the slightest thing.

It really is like some inner demon inside us takes over and the only thing we want to do is hurt the ones nearest and dearest to us. Quite often partners complain that their injured other half seem distant and remote. A lot of this is down to the injured one, wanting to isolate themselves from things that trigger off these feelings.

There is also a lot of inner rage because the things we used to be able to do pre injury we can no longer do and we are now dependent on others.

One of the things that does help are Neuro Inhibitors these slow the brain down. Slowing the brain down has several purposes; it aids the brain to develop new pathways, it evens out emotions and forces the person to take more rest. The most annoying part is that GP's call them anti depressants which most people then refuse to take. At the time when I was injured my GP asked me if I wanted some anti depressants as his diagnostic doctor software told him to offer them. Neither of us at the time understood why - i found out several years later and told the GP....

I would also contact Headway, partly for a chat, reassurance and also to find a local branch near where you are. Most centres have sessions for both the injured and carer where you can get information, help and let your feelings out.

All the best on your journey

[jhr9]

look for a local headway group and attend ..main headway I think supply free 4 booklets if you contact them on internet ,,brilliant book to read is by a guy called trevor powell ,please try to purchase 0r borrow .fab info in it