Homehelp, yet again....

[19KMcG87]

Yet again my homehelp (the woman just keeping me company, sane, helping a bit keeping on top) has left.

Yet again I’m lost, and feeling such a burden on my family, friends and struggling to focus and know what to do next. Yet again frustrated at being physically ‘fine’ and only having hidden underlying difficulties you only know being close to me.

Sorry a very self centred post, just needed a bit of a release so thank you in advance! Just totally clueless and I don’t want to have to try and find someone again, to explain over and over and nine out of ten times to be disappointed, let down, left feeling inadequate and weird - highlighting the differences.

Hmmmmm...

[RecoveringH]

Well done for sounding off, better out than in. Its late, possibly tired. Things always look better in the morning. Get a good nights rest. Take 5HTP to ensure you are sleeping through. Without quality sleep of at least 4 hours, brain is not supported to heal.

As for home help, there will be others. Burden you are not. Write to yourself in a diary before bed or when you wake up so that you are in constant communication with your thoughts and emotions. Sounds like your executive function is struggling a bit.

Headway have a help sheet on little exercises to strengthen executive function. Will help you to plan your day better. Make a list of things tomorrow morning you want to achieve tomorrow. Pick one, aim to finish it. If you don't, don't get upset, say OK I'll have the same aim tomorrow.

When my executive function was bad, I would start up to 25 things in a day and not finish any of them. I would literally be stepping over piles of things on the floor, little projects around the house, unfinished, because I lost my thread of thoughts, I went into a downwards spin, I needed a cup of tea, I forgot which project I was doing, I needed a sleep etc No ability to strategize or plan left me feeling overwhelmed and inadequate. Once I had the help sheet from Headway, I could put a label on what I was experiencing, and started to take back control, by acknowledging that even small things like making a cup of tea, was a completed activity and if I could do that, I could scale it up, but need to take baby steps, one day at a time.

All the best healing to you

[19KMcG87 in reply to RecoveringH]

Thank you 😊 step by step...thank you for responding x

[Elenor3 in reply to 19KMcG87]

It's frustrating to have you explain yiursekf to people isn't it? I'm so sorry to hear, especially as you've just by the sounds of it settled with the helper you had. I hope you find a new help soon, but why not try to bit by bit make a list of all the things you find difficult each day (between now and meeting the new person), which you could email to her. Just to save all the explanations. I do understand how you feel. It's like yet another thing to do when you don't feel up to it.

Good luck with finding a more permanent person. x

[19KMcG87 in reply to Elenor3]

Thank you much appreciated x as per I’m taking it step by step and trying not to drown with the busyness of my life! But thank you x

[Elenor3 in reply to RecoveringH]

Great reply I too am a person who starts a million jobs at once. The pick one that you definitely plan to finish is a great great idea which does give you the ability to say (at the end of a chaotic and crazy day) ....... 'I have achieved xxxxxx' and you can at least feel good about one thing.ngreat reply