Life is full of annoyance now....

[becky41060]

Think my tbi has turned me into a miserable old git.... I now get wound up and annoyed at everything and then it's worse when people tell me to forget about it, it's not your problem winds me up even more. I think I've now turned into a cantankerous out fool where other peoples greatness I couldn't give two hoots to and certainly don't want to hear about it, gggrrrrrrr is this what I have become.....

[paxo05]

Hi Beck.

Join the club. Welcome to the grump old fats club in fact.

I know I am not usually grumpy but find myself being grumpy more and more. Is it bI or old age.....or maybe it's the combination of both.

It is strange when I mean to always look at the funny side of life but find myself just being a grumpy old sod.

If you find the answer please let me know.

Seriously is it constantly being in pain or the extra effort needed to do ordinary things. It could possibly be being frustrated with ourselves and taking it out on others...Not good.

Whatever it is we must at least start off looking for the good around us.

Just had a thought it could just be that the world around us deserves being grumbled at.....mmmm now there's a thought.

If anybody else can shed light on this problem let us know.

For now yours grumpily

Pax x

[copes1]

Me too! Everything and anything can wind me up. My hubby says chill and that makes it worse. Even when I stop to think about it, I can't see why other people aren't angry too. It's very confusing.

[Ghost-on-point]

I've been there too, probably with a bus load of "Headway-ers" too!

Healed past it I think. But probably returns in winter..

Now & again I find myself boiling over inwardly. Peoples pets, cat cafe, music help me climb down from meltdown.

YouTube is Awesome for Animals rescues / miss behaving / skilled to Lift the spirit.

I can't wait for afew years to be able to get a Furry Helper rescue dog / cats.

[sca2013]

Speaking as one who sustained a brain injury and have experienced what you're talking about. This is what I found is happening when this occurs for us - We're running on norepinephrine - basically from an extreme fight or flight response. The trick is in getting out of that mode. How does one do that? The first step is to get us out of running on norepinephrine is by switching our brain chemistry to running on serotonin and then to dopamine. The unusual thing about this is we can actually change our brain chemistry without drugs, herbs, or other potions. The actions I now describe will move you from operating from norepinephrine to serotonin and then to dopamine, where you are in your control power center. To move from norepinephrine to serotonin do one or more of the following - Lie on the floor for a few moments, or do some light fiction reading, or listen to soothing music, or do some coloring or work some simple puzzles, or go for a mild walk outside.

Then to move from serotonin to dopamine do one or more of the following: Read educational or philosophical books, or listen to upbeat music, or laugh, or watch comedies, work more challenging puzzles, or do strength exercises or tai chi, or get a massage, or do creative projects, or do things with your non-dominant hand, or learn something new, or go someplace new.

To take it one more step –

1.Make a list of 10 things you really like to do.

2.Next, narrow that list down to your top five.

3.Then your top two

4.Finally pick your top one.

5.Then write a story describing that person who his doing that thing and all the things they would be experiencing while doing that thing, including the qualities that person has.

Next - Answer the question – Who would I be if I lived this quality 24/7 (Write this from the perspective of this character.)

If you have questions, please feel free to let me know. I hope that this can be of value next time you have one of our signature overreacting experiences.

[bingbing75]

I think part of it is "you don't have a clue!" When you see people just do life easily, without a care or perception of tiredness, brain fog, the effort to have a conversation at a social event! They just don't realise your effort or adaptations we have to put in place every day!