My main problem that I can't control 20 years since frontal lobe damage after RTA. Scared and worried.

I've been a bit snappy to people since living here. Once to someone who stepped in front of me to get to a cash machine and just now when someone was walking really slowly in front of me as I was leaving a shop. Felt really embarrassed after. I never noticed in London as everyone's a bit pushy and maybe I didn't care as much back then. Would never be rude in front of my son as setting an example at all times but I let myself go a bit when I'm on my own!!! Will be talking about that next week at my appointment at Headway. Need to get that problem resolved- don't seem to be able to bite my tongue

[StrawberryCream]

I have a similar problem as also have a frontal brain injury. I have 'lost my brake' and I will have expressed my irritation in an instant!

[Hidden in reply to StrawberryCream]

I am so aware of what I'm doing wrong socially- think I used to cover up my faults with alcohol and the party lifestyle. I cannot wait for my appointment at Headway as they said they'll write to my GP and help me in general. I feel lost as I have always worked and even became self-employed until I couldn't do it any more. I can barely do my leafleting work door to door, which is quite manageable as I'm alone with my thoughts and there's minimal interaction with others. I think I will be a hermit soon!

[StrawberryCream in reply to Hidden]

I haven't been able to access any help to find out if there are any strategies to lessen the problem a bit ........so I have become a hermit! I find it very hard to accept this difficulty and my dysexecutive problems because particularly at work I was a good people person and definitely not this fiery person I am now that I don't like. I hope Headway are able to help you and you can access some good help.

[steve55]

aqua79 same as me only problem is im not bothered, i only know ive said something wrong because my wife tells me off.

[randomphantoms]

From personal experience I can say that I sometimes fall into the trap of being so concerned about my own difficulties and trying to do things safely that I forget that other people can be like me.

I look normal so there is no reason for anyone to expect to have to adjust for me.

I repeat this to myself before I go out shopping or to an unfamiliar setting. I think because I have this in my mind I can say things like "excuse me" without it sounding like a tiger ready to tear someone's throat out.

Doesn't stop me having a moan when I get home!😤😀

Love n hugs

Xoxo

[19KMcG87]

Yep me neither! The more I have on my mind, the more stressed I am, the worse it gets!

[Hidden]

It is like there is a naughty child in my head who just blurts stuff out and I can't stop it because I don't even register the thought in my head- it sort of skips the thought process! Feels like I'm possessed!!! It has got better but now I am more able to do stuff the devil is just coming out at very inappropriate times. I've massively improved though as I can think of only 2 instances in 2 years. There is light at the end of the tunnel and we will all improve more and more as time goes on. To be honest, I wouldn't notice or care about it before...

[jayne_h]

Could you keep a diary and see if this happens more on days when you are tired or stressed? Might help to pinpoint areas you can work on like fatigue management or stress management.

[Hidden in reply to jayne_h]

Thanks for your reply but I am tired and stressed every day so I don't think that would make a difference. I think it's because I am so used to shopping (I used to spend a long time concentrating on self-service) that now my mind is picking up on other vibrations- ie, my mood, so I'm actually on a higher level of thought. Which is a good thing for me but I felt so sorry that I snapped and said 'come on' to this guy who was staring at his phone and walking at the pace of a snail. See I am actually attaching pictures of creatures onto members of the public in my mind- that is so far removed from basic thoughts

[Hidden in reply to jayne_h]

Actually, this week I've done the first 3 days of leafleting work which I haven't done in just over 4 years (stopped promo work due to pregnancy). That may have been the trigger that made me snap at the fellow!!! I cannot shop for food the week I am working that means- I will stock up some food next time! I must have had brain-overload yesterday. Completed my leafleting work this morning

[jayne_h in reply to Hidden]

Sounds like this was a potential cause. Well spotted.

[Hidden in reply to jayne_h]

Thanks- you got me thinking it through, desperate to suss out the cause of this terrible affliction!