First time on here.

[Lazar123]

Hi Guys, first time on here. Kind of a scary step. I've been in denial. My husband had a cardiac arrest in May 2012. Went almost 15 minutes without oxygen. He had a blood clot that went to the Lungs and stopped his heart. He cannot work or keep a job and financial havoc is now being wrecked. I didn't want to accept or believe it. The truth is I am so glad he is alive. The other truth is I cannot keep subjecting him to the torment of finding work then being humiliated when the quickly get rid of him. 😩 It is breaking my heart in two. He was a management consultant. He is 59. We have never gotten financial support from

The government in any form. But our viability is not sustainable any longer. Have exhausted savings pensions and property. We also have a critically ill daughter. So I am caring to some extent for both. The logistics and financial aspects seem daunting. I'm scared. I also feel very alone. Sadly he would love a little job. But how where what? He is so fortunate that he has mostly been affected by just being a lot slower at finishing tasks. There are a plethora of other issues but speed is the major issue. I am grateful that he has done as well as he has. Sorry to sound like I am complaining but I now need to live in the solution. And I have no earthly idea who to turn to.

[Kirk5w7]

Hi Lazar, I'm sorry I can't be of much help as I no longer work either. I exhausted the ESA before my pension kicked in but it only fell short by 2months so I didn't bother with PIP, and I am lucky my husband supports us.

The problem nowadays with finding employment is Risk assessments, I had to do one or two on jobs before my BI and I know that my problems now would mean I would be a nightmare to employ, so I never tried and the DWP agreed with that and granted the ESA and I am sure I would qualify for PIP, but I know these are not generous benefits.

Do you work? I'm sorry if this is intrusive but often needs must and I know that one wage can fall short nowadays anyway.

It may be that your husband will have to settle for a much less exacting role and they aren't easy to come by either, speed nowadays is the watchword in all walks of life.

Hopefully someone can help point you in the right direction.

Take care love Janet x

[randomphantoms]

Hi Lazar

First contact CAB and they can be of real help what you can or can't apply for and helping with the forms.

Contact Headway there might be a group in your area.

When you know what is happening with the finances it may be worth your husband considering voluntary work for his sanity.

Hope this helps

Love n hugs

Xoxo

[cat3 in reply to randomphantoms]

I can only echo what Random has said. Get financial help ; you're so entitled to it !

Speak to CAB to see what your husband's entitlements are and ask hospital for documentation of his treatment and diagnosis as further reference for claims.

And the voluntary work would be a lifesaver ; once settled into a post the work takes on a significant importance to voluntary workers and can be much more satisfying that paid work.

Also the Headway helpline is a really helpful source of support ; they're available on 0808 800 2244 9-5pm mon-fri.

All best wishes for better days for you both. Cat x

[cat3 in reply to cat3]

Oh, and the 'Benefits and Work' site is very helpful for advice and guidance, with information clearly stated and understandable.

Good luck Lazar. x

[leeleeleelee]

adult services are socail workers they may help for him and her

ring them see iff they will do owt

good look

[MXman]

Hi Lazar,

Well your in the right place for comfort, help and hugs. As said above call your local headway help line and get all the help you can get. Speak to people and don't be afraid to ask for help. Have a positive Sunday evening. Nick XX