Blowing Off Steam on Those You Love

[Negeen]

So i'm upset about my circumstances and being mean to my family. I don't really know how to stop, but I hate that I'm doing it.

[iforget]

We do generally tend to let off steam at those closest to us... mainly because they tend to be " in range" and because deep down we know that although they may hate how we behave at times or what we do or say, they will still love us afterwards.

That said it can wear down relationships, especially if the situation continues without change or attempts at change.

It is all to easy to get stuck in the frustrated and angry mode and to blame the BI for making us like this and to resent others for not understanding... Yes BI sucks and it is true nobody truly understands what we are going through (and why should they?) , but it does not give us an excuse/licence or the right to treat others badly just because we got dealt a crappy hand.

Our families hurt when we hurt so none of this is easy for them either.

Have you tried therapy/counselling to address your issues? It can be really helpful. Maybe a family session or two might be useful...to help them to better understand what is going on and to allow you to hear form them too?

[Negeen in reply to iforget]

I have tried therapy. But my psychologist sucks.

[Sem2011 in reply to Negeen]

I started to suffer with angry outbursts about18 months ago. This could happen outside, shopping , and with family. I found social, noisy gatherings hard to deal with. I sought a neuropsychologist , and she is helping me to implement strategies and tips to help. My anger is apparently a build of anxiety, which in turn turns into anger, and she says this is common in BI. Keeping stress levels down, not overdoing it helps. My partner comes to some Neuropsychologist sessions, and it really does help. I just wish I had seen her sooner. We now live apart due a lot of family pressures and my BI but we plan to live together again. There is always hope. As this forum knows only we know what it is like to endure BI, but we have to try and make the best of it and live our lives. Good luck x

[Danslatete]

It seems I'm still guilty of doing this according to my ex- best friend

Not had. Happy two weeks at all.

[Winb143]

When I had my SAH my family went through some worrying times but they were there for me, I moan sometimes but am so grateful

to them for sticking by me.

They have been through it also so cheer up when possible and good

luck

Win xx

[Zoe2345]

They say we take it out on the ones we love most, it's a known fact. I do a lot, I just go to my room and take it out up there again and again, it's hard to do it but I have to punch things or hurt people.

I never hurt my parents physically, but I do verbally, saying I hate you and all that, but I've stopped trying to quit smoking and it soothes ma temper.

We have all been put in a position that we didn't want, with me it was a horse, not sure about you, but I'm getting there at coming to terms that I'm never going to be what I used to be, that girl has gone forever.

Get help before you get to the point I'm at, lashing out at everything and shouting and screaming at everyone, I started like that, it has a chance to progress, just get help

Goodluck, Zoe

[Zoe2345]

They say we take it out on the ones we love most, it's a known fact. I do a lot, I just go to my room and take it out up there again and again, it's hard to do it but I have to punch things or hurt people.

I never hurt my parents physically, but I do verbally, saying I hate you and all that, but I've stopped trying to quit smoking and it soothes ma temper.

We have all been put in a position that we didn't want, with me it was a horse, not sure about you, but I'm getting there at coming to terms that I'm never going to be what I used to be, that girl has gone forever.

Get help before you get to the point I'm at, lashing out at everything and shouting and screaming at everyone, I started like that, it has a chance to progress, just get help

Goodluck, Zoe