sexy stuff...

[gerry1]

How do people get on with sex with thier partners, or anyone else they do it with,..lol.

gently yours

gerry

[Hidden]

something in the air or too much time in bed for the men due to rain stopping play lol justjane just asked the same thing lol

[Hidden]

on second thoughts maybe they are like hedgehogs ,,,,,,, hedgehogs do it with great care.....

[justjane]

Where theres a will...theres a way, it is hard ( sorry bout the pun) my husbands always afraid of hurting me and I do end up gritting my teeth on occasion. The physical bond is very immportant and cuddles are a must. Try on backs at right angles with your legs over him so no pressure.

Sorry if that's too specific. xx

[gerry1]

funny his name is will xx

[Spirit]

I can't - not withstanding the usual pain issues, I have a permanent flare "there".... *sigh*

[webby]

Ooh thak god we don't bother cuddle is enough ouch uouch. Lol xx

[gerry1 in reply to webby]

thank you anyway

xxxx

[Fibro-hater]

What was a great sex life, is something a really miss. Plus I feel so sorry for hubby, I always seem to be in pain, tired or simply there's no urge anymore. So wish things were better in that department. Simply cuddlling is wonderful though, but that usually isn't enough for men is it? I have to use other means to keep him happy.....I expect you can guess, even that causes great discomfort, so can't win really.

[gerry1 in reply to Fibro-hater]

he just wont let me touch him at all....."(

xxxxx

[Deb1701 in reply to Fibro-hater]

I can honestly say I have felt the same way. At first it was because hubby had just had major back surgery so I was scared of hurting him. Then I was diagnosed with FM and found my sex drive packed it's bag and left home. Something which was really hilarious, I started reading the Fifty Shades trilogy, steamy stuff. Well I found my missing sex drive hiding within the pages. 5 years of nothing and suddenly I wanted more. Imagine my horror when just 3 days later hubby was admitted to hospital with a heart problem. He ha a stent fitted which has improved his health immensely. However I am now too scared to even think of doing it again.

[Fibro-hater in reply to Deb1701]

Hi there Deb, I think I will give that book a try, if i can find it! I hope poor Hubby is up and running once more? I'm sure it wasn't your demands that caused the problem, only highlighted it.....thankfully he came out on top! This does sound a trifle rude perhaps.....but you know what I mean!

Wishing you well, Annette. We can hope can't we!

[Lyneet in reply to Fibro-hater]

Hi there have you tried endovan it has helped me tremendously no more sex pains. It took about 2 months but it works.Check out the website.

endovan.com/?gclid=CLTCh8m9...

[Chine1]

I always wondered am I the only one. Tx, I feel beter.?

[Hidden]

we do try, when he s not too tired and Im not in pain, its important to keep it going, it does help if the kids are out of the house

[gerry1 in reply to Hidden]

thank you so much

xxxxx

[Hidden]

What a brave a honest question.

I can only answer from distant memory but I'm 'lucky' in that I get mini-remissions. Also for some reason I don't get the really bad pain at the same time as the fatigue being over-whelming. So for me it was a question of timing. Not good enough for him unfortunately! Think I miss cuddles more than anything though.

Whippet x

[gerry1 in reply to Hidden]

thank you, yes the tiredness is big with him, mine is ok at the moment, thank you anyway

xxxx

[Bigmamma43]

i have fyrbo and osteo arthritis and ankylosing spondylitis and am in constant pain, sex was alwasy at the back of my mind, im too tired, in too much pain etc etc it was easier to not have sex than to endure the pain my hips gave me whne they got stuck, now im with my bf and sex is totally different as justjane says try lying on your side with your partner behind you with your top leg over his, it cuts down on the pain as no pressure is on hips etc, also i have found that it is true what they say about endorphines being released when you have sex and i find my pain lessens after sex, it does take confidance and trust in your partner i think, someone who understands the pain your going through

[gerry1 in reply to Bigmamma43]

thanx if only i could get him to......xx

[Hidden]

The release of an amazing orgasm is the best pain relief I've found. My partner knows as about all my health problems we discussed at length b4 we got together properly and at first treated me like s china doll,I said to him just pretend for a minute I have no illnesses or pain what do you see , he said a gorgeous sexy funny intelligent woman, l said ty very much well that person is still there always see her. I have suffered since I was 15 I'm 48 now so over the years I've worked out what I can n can't do, & there's lots of things you can do together that don't involve full inter course, I guess for md it helps that my bf is 19 yrs younger than me n is gorgeous but the fact he can see the real me past the illness tablets hosp visits is the biggest turn on of all. I guess it's just doing what's best for you but as the urge as someone put it is stronger than ever I intend to make the most of it as long as I can. Sometimes I suffer afterwards but think sometes km in this much pain when I haven't done anything & a memory that makes u smile is always a plus lol Karen

[gerry1 in reply to Hidden]

thank you, i have a great urge all the time any time, but he doesnt.....xxx

[gerry1 in reply to gerry1]

ps, i love the orgasms, but i cant do them myself, ive tried for year, but i dont get clitoral orgasms i just get gspot orgasms and i just cant do it myself......trust me ive tried.

xxx

[bareangel]

I will not give up sex, the pain i can bitch about when im on my own or share with you kind understanding girls and boys. this fibro and cfs has taken enough of my life im not letting it take my sex life it is way to importent to me and my best friend and lover,so bring it on fibro this fat lady refuses to sing.

gentle hugs all

mary xxxx

[gerry1 in reply to bareangel]

hi mary, i feel that ive lost such a big important part of us connecting, but his labido is just not there!!!!i'm so very gutted.

love

gerry

[Huggybear16]

I've had fibro since I was 10 and will be 48 on Sat I've found the endorphins great pain relief just have to try and find what best for u xxx

[Hidden]

Gerry 1, my hubby goes through the same problems a few yrs ago he had no desire or no erection, we talked and talked, it was all down to stress, we worked through it though and things improved, with starting his own business early this year its started again, the desire is there but he s so tired or stressed, but with love and understanding we get there, its not as often as before, but its important to try, I hope you can find a way to get your partner to get help

[lolly1970]

If your skin isn't painful try getting in the mood with a hot bath and a relaxing massage. The fear of being hurt during sex can make you tense up and so the pain is worse. If your partner is understanding then a gentle build up is the way to go the relaxation of massage combined with a position that doesn't put too much pressure on your sore points and the endorphines released during sex can actually help with fibro but it really is a mind over matter thing. I'm not sure about others but I find that I hurt whether I have sex or not or even whether I exercise or not and neither of those things makes my symptoms any worse, once I realised that it got me over the initial fear, you have to live your life in constant pain anyway, don't deprive yourself of a few moments of pleasure. Good luck. xx

[kazza66]

I have had Fibro for about 20 years and there is no doubt that my sex drive has diminished, however, I love my hubby so much and he gets very depressed about the lack of sex. When we do, he knows I will get an instant 'flare up' , so he feels guilty. What we do now, is make a date, and go for a lovely meal and a few drinks, then take it slow. I will then have a soothing massage the very next morning which really helps. XXXX

[mandajane]

It the one thing I refuse to give up. Some days its just not possible, other days we improvise!! good days mean a kind of normal sex life. I would say many men even when they are not sick can be off sex but communication is key. if its something you have to do alone then sex toys may be the answer. Everyone is right the best natural pain relief you can get. On a serious note we give up so much with this horrid condition we all need to try to retain intimacy....

[gerry1]

thanx all for your replies, if only i could get him to help.......................