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Hi everyone I have fibromyalgia, I've just had a litter of puppies 7 2 passed away I was bottle feeding all night I'm so unwell now I feel like I can't breath properly I have terrible night sweats and severe pain in shoulders I feel like I can't function I think it's a flare I feel off my head with stress I'm breaking out in hot rashes that come and go, I've just had enough. I really feel like this is to much to bear I have 3 children to and feel like a burden to them... Sorry to vent I suppose I'm just feeling depressed and I've lost the pups to x

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Head up, chin up. Keep on, keeping on.. There is always someone willing to listen x

Yassytina
YassytinaFMA UK Volunteer

Hi there, no wonder your so tired with lack of sleep, sorry you lost 2 puppies, I do hope with all the love and time you are giving the rest are doing well, having 3 children as well on top is a lot so i uve any close family in your bubble don’t be afraid to ask for some help ,sending hugs , xxx

When I was a child my mother was disabled and depressed and I found her very hard to be with. She was demanding, negative and what I did to help was never good enough. Ask your kids to help you and be loving and thankful towards them. That's all I wanted. Life is hard and you can show your kids that if you stick together you can all get through it. Love is powerful.

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Thanks lion cub my children are my life I just hate having this condition x

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Well, I'd be concerned if you loved it! Most people have something wrong in their life, that's just life. I try to keep a balance between recognising how awful it is and enjoying all the good things like puppies. I have a dog and he's so easily pleased. I wish I was him.

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Bless ya do u have fibromyalgia to? I was put on duloxotine it really helped but panic attacks are back and pain I think it's stress of loosing the runt and bottle feeding every few hours my nervous system is done in..

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Yes I do with panic attacks on top x

So sorry to hear about the pups. I do hope your flare settles very soon. 🤞🏻🤞🏻x

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Me to it's so bad I feel like death x

Sorry to hear about the pups, so sad, no wonder you feel worn out bottle feeding them all night , and. coping with a family as well, can you get someone to help you with the rest of the pups, how old are you children

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Other pups are fine thankfully she had 7 but two were just so tiny my children are12 8 and 5..

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Try to get a pet Foster carer to look after the dogs. The Dog Trust will advise you. The only dog you need in your life is a care dog. Sorry to be blunt but if you can't look after yourself properly, you shouldn't have a dog! I had a mastiff who was a great care dog but my son took him as he believed that he was too much trouble! I miss that dog as he was becoming a great care dog. Don't feel guilty, get rid of the dogs. Your health comes first!

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glochessum in reply to Hidden

Sorry but I find your comment pretty harsh . She obviously loves her dog or she wouldn’t be doing all she could for the pups. Hopefully the mother is feeding them now and it won’t be long before they have new forever homes.I’m sure once Leana has caught up on her much needed sleep she’ll feel much better and continue enjoying her dog. Would suggest she has her neutered though so no more puppies.

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Thank you I do love my dogs the reason I allowed a litter is because i wanted one and my grandad just lost his boxer last year so I want him to have one there little jack russle all the rest are doing really well but the two tiny ones were to small xxxx she's being spayed after first and last litter Im just having a massive flare up due to all stress xxxxxxx

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BTCCET in reply to Hidden

I don't believe that you have to explain your decision to have pups to anyone how lovely little JRTs 😊we just lost our one 3 weeks ago he was 17 and quite a character, we used to have 2 boxers as well and the JRT Used to keep them right under control😂Good luck with the pups and keep in touch about how they're doing xx

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Sorry but I'm a straight talker. Foster carers will look after the dogs and puppies until she's able to. As far as I'm concerned her health comes first. The Dog Trust are very supportive.

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it's quite possible to raise a litter and have fibro. Ive had fibro since 1987 and have bred dogs for 35+ years and managed quite successfully to raise litters and have them compete at top level. Dogs to some people are a great emotional and physical support and to remove them would be like cutting off their right arm. I'm not saying at all costs have a dog if you can't meet it's needs but equally a little time of it being hard work with a litter is soon over. The stud dog owner has equal responsibility and should be helping out. I am always available to people using my stud dog.

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I agree but the loss of puppies and the bottle feeding won't help her health wise and she also has young children to care for. Taking a break will give her time to build up her strength.

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Even if I had no dogs I'd still experience horrendous flares and I'd still have a disease with no cure so not really much difference to be honest I love em to bits it is hard yes thanks for reply xxx

Dinkie
Dinkie in reply to Hidden

equally it may destroy her soul parting with them. Only Lena knows deep down what she can and can't cope with. I will support her whatever decision she makes.

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I didn't tell her to get rid of them. Just get pet Foster care until she's able to take over

Dinkie
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even temporary fostering can lead to people giving up - seen it time and time again. Will leave the debate here as it's not doing Lena any favours.

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I agree as everyone has their own opinions

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mattoid-mags in reply to Hidden

Yes and you are out of line!

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Your opinion

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I'm not a dog or pet hater. I just think that health comes first. If you don't take care of number one, you're not able to look after anyone or anything to the best of your opinion. As Dunkie said leave this subject alone and let her do her. She posted and I responded. Simple. We give advice from knowledge, experience fact or opinion. I gave my opinion based on my knowledge and experience! Let it go 🎶🎵

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Oh I must have MisunderRUDE you.

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I have Aspergers as well as fibromyalgia and others. Read from the beginning and you'll see that I wasn't being rude. Hence the name. I'm used to it. Glad to have helped you make a pun 😜

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mattoid-mags in reply to Hidden

I'm very familiar with Aspergers. Rudeness is not a symptom😝

Now I shall move on and Let it go 🎶

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Familiar isn't the same as living with it. I wasn't rude as I am not a rude person. Being direct is often misconstrued. Here ends my conversation with you. Glad to see your having fun at the expense of others 👍🏾

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Oh I live with it every day. You added the fun factor so don't turn it around on me. The end. Merry Christmas to you and your family.

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Merry Christmas and a happy new year 🎄🤶🎉🎅⛄☃️

Stay strong your stronger than you think xx

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I keep breaking down and panic attacks are back I thought the duloxetine was helping can u get panic attacks when ur having a flare?

Hi Lena, where are you? Have you bred before? I'd be happy to help or give advise. Regards Lisa 🙂

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Thanks for ur offer but they are all OK now lost 2 little ones as they were just so tiny xx

Hi Lena

If you need any advice on puppy rearing please PM me. I've bred dogs for 35+ years as well as judging them and being on various committees so have a little bit of knowledge :) As someone with fibro I know how difficult rearing puppies can be. Good luck

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That's a lovely offer Dinkie xx

Dinkie
Dinkie in reply to BTCCET

Thank you - but isn't that what we are on the site for to offer help and assistance if we can :) If it's one thing I can talk the hind legs off a donkey on it's our canine friends :)

BTCCET
BTCCET in reply to Dinkie

Absolutely it is! And the more doggie talk the better, in fact more often than not, I wish all the world was dogs😁xx

Dinkie
Dinkie in reply to BTCCET

It's that old saying the more people I meet the more I love my dogs! At the moment one of mine is in disgrace for stealing my toast!

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Thank u dinkie xxxxxxx

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Just need this flare to pass I'm so ill xx

Dinkie
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You hang on in there just PM me if you have any questions or need advice regarding the babies.

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Wishing you well Lena hun, take good care xxx

Can you find a foster carer for them through the local animal welfare society? I am sure there is someone who would be happy to help you until you can get some rest. There are a ton of animal lovers out there. It might mean boarding them out for a while but it would give you a rest.

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Wow, i rarely come onto this site, but on many of the rare occasions i do I am totally put off by the infighting that goes on. Lena sounds at the end of her rope and really doesnt need feedback containing comments about whose more rude than the next person. If your opinion isnt concerning the person asking for support then perhaps you should share it privately instead of Lena having to read through all the sniping comments. Just a thought. I hope you feel stronger soon Lena, try to utilise some time just for yourself where you can, clear your head. You know you can always vent on here, there will be no judgement and only support from the right people, take care x

Just calm yourself maybe take a nice bath abs try to relax. Sorry about the pups but there must of been a reason they didn’t survive. There are time when in a flare up we feel a burden to our family but then when we’re good we’re good !! So allow yourself to get thru this flare up it will pass. Let someone take a little care of you. Take care have a lovely cuddle with your babies 🐶

We are here for you to vent to always, you need to tell your kids to do the bottle feeds while you rest. I was up screaming in pain with my foot and hips last night because I walked too much yesterday and today my kids have had to do the washing up and cleaning they moaned but tough s h i t don't feel guilty you help them when they need it so they need to help you.

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