Fibromyalgia Action UK

Working with fibromyalgia

Hello, just want some support and advice please, here my post.

I have recently been out of work for 6 month due to needing time off due to depression and now I am back in work in a retail shop. The manger wanted to hire me as she see that I have potential and confident. My first day was a few days ago and what I can say about it was awful I felt really ill I felt like collapsing I was that tired, I was just stood round doing nothing which made me feel worse but I also suffer from anxiety and depression and I was really quite too, I just wasn't keeping an eye on anything just my head wasn't in the right place. And I had today off due To my car being damaged by anther one last night which is now going to cost me over a £900 to fix which I'm in tears about, just worried about tomorrow now as I'm back in work and I worried that people will treat me differently now and that I will feel the same as i did on my first day. Any idea on how to beat the fear and be confident too, any idea pleases I'm scared really scared, I'm gutted about

My car, I'm fed up I keep crying, I've had enough

Of feeling like this. :( feel like no one care I feel like I'm getting no support too. Ahhhh help before I give

Up😢😔

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Hi it's hard to get support with all these conditions you have.a lot of people don't understand.you no got best friend .Or your boyfriend no understand.your work only my opinion people do encourage people to work or get out a out a bit more.with reading your post I'm not sure you should be working or in right state of mind to work.to beat your fear you probably need some input wot you think no

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Ooh sorry about your car - why is it gonna cost you? Wouldn't insurance cover it getting repaired? Also why would people treat you differently on only your 2nd day at a new job? Your bound to feel nervous still at a new job - I think everyone has that nervous feeling at a new job. I know I certainly did - would always take a little while to start to feel settled and like I knew what I was doing. Are you still being treated for depression? Do you maybe need to talk to your doctor about your anxiety?

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My insurance won't cover it as I don't know who did it. :( just that I feel and act around other I'm constantly yawning and shaking.im away nervous. I'm going to book an appointment with the doctor Before work.

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Oh that's too bad re the insurance. Good idea, hopefully the doctor can give you something to help with the nerves and anxiety. :)

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I can't afford £900 to fix it. I'm so gutted I've got so much on my mind with work and now this. I can't stop crying. I cant even afford Christmas either :( x

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To be honest, if I had a £900 bill for my car I'd be crying too. And do you know, I once cancelled Christmas 'cos I couldn't afford it. It was quite a few years ago, before I had kids and I was unemployed and had no money. Told everyone not to get me anything as I couldn't reciprocate and refused invites to lunch. My parents still got me a gift anyway and gave me a bit of money and I had a day to myself - think I had a lamb chop for my Christmas dinner lol. The highlight was walking a couple of mile there and back to an open chemist to get some tablets as I had a baaaad cold. I bought paracetamol with my Christmas gift money. Sometimes life sucks.

Hope you got to see your doctor today. Getting your anxiety under control will hopefully help your in your job situation. :)

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Hayley95 there are some good schemes about now for interest free credit, have you got a credit card? PM me and I,ll tell you who to try for a a balance transfer to pay back over 20-40 months it makes life so much easier.

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Hi Hayley

I understand how you feel. You are New on the job and things might feel overwhelming. Lots of people feel anxious on their new job as I know I did especially suffering with fibromyalgia too. But don’t give up. I am glad you are going to the doctors to get help for anxiety. Also try to do some deep breathing to help you to relax. I don’t think people will treat you differently. As you said your manager wants you as she can see your potential and confidence so you are definitely an asset to this company. Just try to stay calm and remember you are s valued employee. If in doubt of what to do ask questions. Take deep breathes as this had helped me and may help you.

Take the Christmas thing one day at a time

Sorry don’t know much about cars but hopefully you can get the funds or help to sort your car out😊

Much love to you x

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Are you able to maybe have another chat with your manager and explain how you are feeling? Maybe when you go in today the situation will have changed and you will feel loads better? Do you have a local garage that you use? Mine use to let me pay my bill off in instalments if I was having a tight month xxx

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I might have a chat with her but I told her I can do full time but it made me really ill. X

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Maybe you need to adjust your hours hun xx

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Maybe,

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Working with full blown fibro is a nightmare! I wouldnt say any job standing for long periods is at all a good idea, maybe go to local job centre and ask about retraining, there are some good schemes about with long term temporary positions so that if you find the hours too long or the work too exhausting you can go back to a designated officer and discuss reduction they will also tell you about getting ESA to support a lower income.

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Don't be so hard on yourself you have taken on a big challenge to return back to work. Pace yourself don't expect everything to be perfect as that will take time. Fantastic that your manager saw potential at interview level . Well done for doing that. I am sure once you get use to this new world you taken on you will be fine. There are many achievements you have made by taking this action. Others do Care but you have to trust that you will be great once you settle down . Good luck . Big hug.

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