Fed Up - Is this normal?

Hello All,

The clocks have changed so its dark early and the weather is cold and damp - It's the time of year I feel a cloak of gloom sweep over me. I've had a cough for over a month that won't go away and I'm still weak from the virus. I can't get anything done because I'm so exhausted and foggy. I then get so mad with myself which I know is wrong but I do anyway. I have a lot of things to do, but just can't be bothered. It's a vicious circle and very frustrating.

Just wondered if anyone else gets like this and finds it VERY difficult to be productive? Does it make you feel you've failed as it does me?

Meditation does help (when I do it) but it's hard to do when I feel like this. I also did Alex Tech but I'm not sure about it anymore, I have many questions but can't find answers. It really helped physically but you need a good teacher and that is a tall order. So I thought of becoming a teacher but the course is way beyond my physical capability. And they are all indirect about everything which gets infuriating as I prefer plain speaking. I don't like medications or counsellors etc.

This is bit of a rant as I basically cannot accept this condition and just think I'm doing something wrong but I don't know what so I don't know how to solve the problem. I think this may have been triggered by what someone said to me so that is also a problem being sensitive to what other people say, and getting down because of it.

Does anyone out there feel like I do?

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  • Hi fibrofoggy

    I really am so genuinely sorry to read of how you are feeling at this time and I sincerely hope that it passes for you. I was wondering if you are experiencing SAD (seasonal affective disorder)? As this can make you feel quite down. It may be worth talking to your doctor about how you are feeling?

    I have pasted you an excerpt and a link below to the *NHS Choices cache on this:


    Seasonal affective disorder (SAD) is a type of depression that comes and goes in a seasonal pattern.

    SAD is sometimes known as "winter depression" because the symptoms are more apparent and tend to be more severe during the winter.

    The symptoms often begin in the autumn as the days start getting shorter. They're typically most severe during December, January and February.

    SAD often improves and disappears in the spring and summer, although it may return each autumn and winter in a repetitive pattern.

    Symptoms of SAD

    Symptoms of SAD can include:

    a persistent low mood

    a loss of pleasure or interest in normal everyday activities


    feelings of despair, guilt and worthlessness

    feeling lethargic (lacking in energy) and sleepy during the day

    sleeping for longer than normal and finding it hard to get up in the morning

    craving carbohydrates and gaining weight

    For some people, these symptoms can be severe and have a significant impact on their day-to-day activities.

    NHS Choices: Seasonal affective disorder (SAD)


    I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck, and please take care of yourself.

    All my hopes and dreams for you


  • Oh yes I understand exactly how you feel. I'm convinced I suffer from SAD and it seems to get worse each year - or maybe it just feels like that.

    I would dig a big hole and hibernate but I just can't be bothered 😠

  • Yes. Am off sick from work with viral infection on top of everything else n everything seems like such hard work. I have to concentrate n put all energy into the one thing in front of me. Have managed to get to OH for 8.30 appt. Taxi from half way as sooo exhausted but am here - early! Only thought in head is that as soon as I ' m finished I get go back home n lie down.

    I do find taliking- to an understanding person helps n being more encouraging to myself - leaving the 'critic' in me lying on the floor at home

    Working on doing not thinking today- for the next couple of hrs anyway

    Good luck

    Julia N

  • thanks really good suggestions, must do it.

  • I agree completely, I replied to another post yesterday and said I always feel I should hibernate in winter!

  • Thank you for the replies. I've woken up this morning wondering whether this is all part of Fibro. Yes things feel much worse in winter so SAD is an added 'bonus'. But there is something about how Fibro grips the whole body/mind. I don't have trigger point pains anymore but have all over weakness all the time which leads me to despair. Mostly I feel my internal engine is flooded and stalls every time I want to start it. So I never get anywhere and find my under achievement hard to bear. I blame myself all the time because often I don't believe this condition is real and think I should be able to do stuff and I'm lazy because I don't.

    I realise I'm wallowing in self pity, but I just want to know if others also get these crazy circular feelings and lives lost in chicken/egg?

    PS I just realised the above comment is a repeat of my post - my foggy thinking in action.

  • Yes totally agree, I've no strength or energy and get so frustrated at not being able to do anything, just having a shower wears me out, then I look back and think I used to wiz around getting everything done and sorted, so miss the old me, I'm only 45 and feel like this is it now, so hope you start feeling better xx

  • How long have you had it Dionne? I'm about the same age as you and used to be very active and loved doing things.

  • Hi, I've always had burning in my legs but in 2013 I had ards respiratory failure and since then I've totally changed so 3 years confirmed fibro, also had cervical spine surgery which I think resulted from tubes in icu, it's just so horrible because you don't feel like you anymore, what I'd give to wake up feeling normal, I think that's why we get so depressed and fed up xx

  • Dionne I think you hit the nail on the head. It's the comparison to what we were like that makes us miserable, and as you say not feeling normal or as I put it right in myself. It's also exhausting to hold the image of what I was to what I am, it's like punishing myself really.

    I decided to my AT course and had a lesson. Thinking 'up' and getting work on my ribs has helped my breathing. I feel calmer and more positive. I also asked the questions I had and all is ok, I don't think I've upset anyone.

  • Hi fibrofoggy.....I have a special SAD light (you buy them on the internet) which I use during the winter for 10-15 minutes per day and it gives you the boost you need when days are dark and cold. They aren't too expensive, I bought mine years ago and cannot remember the cost....my brother and sister in law also use one and find it really useful.....Chin up it may be the answer!! Hug x

  • I had special daylight bulbs in my kitchen but I've not bothered to replace them since they died. I had lots of lighting put in there so I'm using the back up, they're also daylight bulbs not in the centre and not ideal but not too bad either.

  • Hi fibrofoggy , I feel exactly the same and wish I could just hibernate every year! No energy or enthusiasm for anything, don't even want to do Xmas but have to for the kids.

    I hope you start to feel better

    Hugs Jo x

  • Yes hun I hate the autumn /winter months I,ve got enough fibro fog I don't need the weather helping me along!

  • Hey Fibro Foggy I agree with Ken re SAD have you thought of getting a light box ? It's supposed to help with this condition. Seeing as you've had your cough for a month now you need to get yourself to the doctors.

    I don't like the dark days either but as I can get out for walks with the dog I think that helps but I found today my back and shoulders were aching and my feet are sore - but I am trying to wean myself if tramadol I only take one morning and night I'm supposed to take more but they send me to another planet so I think I will have to admit defeat and start taking them again 🙄 You aren't doing anything wrong it's a condition you have and you know deep down it won't go away anytime soon - you may also be going through depression and if so this won't help you come to terms with it I would go and see doctor and tell them how you are feeling - I know it can mean more tablets to take but if they help take em. Sending you loads of hugs n kisses 🤗🤗🤗😘😘😘

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