Holiday blues.

[Daughtersarah]

Going on holiday with rest of family. I am not sure I want to go. In pain a lot. Ibs comes n goes. Lactose intolerant and heat up alarmingly after eating dinner. We are staying in lodge in woodland. And I dont like travelling long distances. Should I tell them how i feel?

[Tuscany]

Hi there. Are they fully aware of the problems you are having with your health? Do they understand that you have to take things easy? I think it's important they know how poorly you feel. If you don't feel up to it you should tell them. If they are understanding they should be fine. If you can rest and relax the trip might do you some good. A lodge in woodland sounds like the perfect place to rest and recuperate xx

[Hazel_Angelstar Administrator FMA UK Staff]

I would say to them that you have done concerns how you are going to cope.... And maybe will need to take extra rests or not take part in everything they are doing.

I'm in a similar situation next year, in that I'm going on a villa holiday with all my in laws. I'm envisaging it will be party central for the whole week... Whereas I don't drink much and even on holiday like to be in my bed early.

Hope you are able to enjoy your holiday xxx

[maggi999]

Hi Sarah, Hubby and I were due to go to Tenerife for two weeks in April, just three months after my diagnosis with FM. I booked the holiday in January, before I'd been diagnosed and before I completely crashed due to the FM.

Hubby has a heart condition so I kept asking him if he wanted to cancel the holiday because I was dreading the thought of travelling, the heat, trying to sleep in a strange bed etc. He was putting on a brave face, thinking I would be upset if he caused the holiday to be cancelled. In the end we did cancel, due to his need for treatment and I was so relieved!

I may sound a bit selfish but I would have been anxious throughout the holiday, worrying about him as well - he's had his treatment and it a lot better now.

I went away last with hubby and friends for a long weekend, also booked in January, and I was dreading this holiday as well but I didn't want to let hubby and friends down by not going.

In the end I had a great time, the change of air and scenery did me so much good, I was fairly active but paced myself and I am so glad I went.

Please go if you think you can manage it - at best you may enjoy new experiences and distract yourself from the pain for a while, at worst you can laze around the lodge and rest but at least you won't be on your own.

Hugs and best wishes, Maggie xx

[TheAuthor]

I am so genuinely sorry to read of how you are suffering and struggling so much and I want to sincerely wish you all the best of luck. There is no harm in discussing this situation with them after all you are their daughter and they love you. I am certain that you can all reach a compromise?

All my hopes and dreams for you

Ken

[pjs_53]

I dont travel well to much anymore, if me and my hubby do, if it is a long drive,

[pjs_53]

I don't travel well either too much these days, if my hubby and I travel and if it is a long distance, I have to take a day down, before moving on to next adventure, then take a day rest, then move on...well m sure you get the idea. so you are not alone. clink of glasses...here is to having a successful trip. really...hope it goes good.

[Daughtersarah]

Thank you for sharing your experiences. I will talk to my family. From sarah