Should I prepare for the worst?

[madmammyccp]

I have managed against all odds to catch on naturally at 46. This is following a failed FET. My last LMP was the 27/9/24. Had a positive test 9DPO. Went for a reassurance scan at 5w5d - because I at least wanted to make sure it was in the right place. All they saw was a gestational sac and a time yolk sac - and the radiographer assured us this was fine at this stage. So the week later we went for another scan at 6w2d expecting to see a fetal pole - still nothing, still reassured this is fine. I went into anxiety overdrive and went for a scan without telling my partner - this was 6w5d.....still nothing. I am beginning to think this pregnancy is doomed - has anyone else been in the sae situation and had a positive outcome? We have a rebooked scan tomorrow - and I am trying to stay positive - but I cant help but think this is a blighted ovum.

[Millbanks]

Hello lovely,

I'm sorry you're facing this uncertainty - it's incredibly stressful.

I had a similar experience and unfortunately for me it wasn't good news. We saw an empty sac at 6+4, at 7+4 there had been some growth of a small fetal pole, but it was at least 8 days behind in size, at 8+4 they confirmed no more growth.

The difference is though, mine was IVF so we knew the exact dates, with a natural pregnancy the dates are far more ambiguous so you may have a bit of flex in terms of exactly what should be happening and when.

If you check my previous posts, a few people had seen nothing on a scan at 6+3 but then had caught up a week later - so it's not all doom and gloom.

Everything crossed that it's just too early and everything is looking good at your next scan

xx

[madmammyccp in reply to Millbanks]

Ah, sorry to hear of your loss. Although this is natural, I have been keeping track on ovulation and BBT etc with the my fertility friend app, so I don't know how much wiggle room I will have. I am keeping my fingers crossed for the best tho!

[Millbanks in reply to madmammyccp]

I often feel like we know our bodies so well that you just get a feeling.

But you never know. I really hope it works out for you xx

[emma_g87]

Hi lovely, I have had experience with missed miscarriage (IVF pregnancy) and know how stressful it can be. So I mainly came here to say 'look after yourself' and that I hope it all turns out OK. Without trying to offer false hope, I would say that at this stage it is still so early - the variation between different scanners could be a factor here, and also the fact that you can't know the exact timing of ovulation/implantation due to it being a natural pregnancy (even with tracking). Keeping everything crossed for you.

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi. I must admit that unfortunately it’s not looking too hopeful. U will say we always did 7 week scans without any previous testing, and we got positives. I hope you’ve got plenty of support around you, just in case. Thinking of you. Diane