I’m 6 weeks 3 days pregnant but everything is worrying me.
I can’t go to the loo without thinking blood is gonna be there… ohhh it’s so nerve wracking.
Today my back aches on the right lower side.
And I feel I’m generally always experiencing a dull pulling / ache on my right side near ish my right ovary.
I’ve checked some past posts on this group and some say they had this and everything was fine. But my inner demon caved to googling it and now I’m really worried. I have my first scan next Wednesday, so gotta try to keep it together till then but it’s soooo hard.
For anyone else worrying or going out of their mind, I feel your pain!
Gosh, this process requires so much strength doesn’t it.
Xxx
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So this is literally me right now! I’m 6 weeks today, all day yesterday I had lots of cramping and pulling pains and convinced myself the worst was going to happen, constantly checking for blood. My scan is next Wednesday too. I’m overthinking everything and I’m constantly stressed out 🙈
It’s my first pregnancy so I can’t say whether all this is normal or not but just wanted to say you’re not alone! X
I feel for me it’s been a really hard stage, and I’ve heard others describe it as one of the hardest parts too. It’s a lot of waiting and being in limbo, my brain is yo-yoing between I’m pregnant but it could go wrong, but it could also be ok… I don’t dare get excited to protect myself from disappointment and every sign I see as a possible cause for concern, although on the other side I’m have moments of happiness and read that my concerns could actually be indicators that it’s going well!!! What a whirlwind!
We only have a few days realistically to get through, so perhaps we need to get very distracted! I will be thinking of you on Wednesday 🤞 (seems we’re on the same timeline!) . Really hoping it all goes well for us!
We all deserve a medal in my option whatever stage we are at, this ivf madness can take it out of you! X
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I meant to say that I messaged my clinic with my concerns and they said the following, they were quite reassuring:
“ …lot of ladies experience these symptoms in this early stage, it all sounds like normal aches and pains due to the changes being incurred by the progesterone and changes in hormones in your body due to the pregnancy. Try not to worry …”
I cannot explain how much you sound EXACTLY like me right now. My mental load is insane! I'll have moments where I feel nothing and am calm, then 2 mins later the twinges and cramps start and I spiral, and then go back and forth all day between reasoning with myself, worrying it's all about to end and that I got too 'cocky', reading everyone else's stories online of all the same symptoms and their outcomes, and then doing it all over again on a loop. And it's also never not on my mind.I've been having on and off cramps/twinges etc, some brown/pink spotting and a few other symptoms, and I don't know where I stand! Am only 5 weeks 1 day so my 7 week scan is nearly 2 weeks away, no idea how I'll cope that long 😅
I hope you're feeling OK and taking solace in those stronger moments, and knowing that those more fretful ones are just temporary. I have to keep reminding myself: your anxious thoughts are not the truth.
Also that note from your clinic is fab, thank you for sharing x
The whole process is just horrendous. I didn’t think anything could be worse than the TWW but this is worse by miles, I guess because we definitely have something to lose now!
I’m completely protecting myself and not letting myself get too excited, but every now and then if I have a wave of nausea and my boobs hurt I get a little moment of ‘maybe this is our time’. Just the same, I read about these symptoms being positive things but I get scared nonetheless. I’m just so guarded 🙈
Thank you for sharing the message from your clinic - my clinic said similar to me verbally when I last spoke to them but I can’t help overthinking everything. Fingers crossed these few days go quickly and we get the reassurance we need!
orangecatmum sounds like we’re all in the same stress boat! X
We really are! Reading you is like reading about myself, ha. It's that mix of self-protection and excitement, but we should be excited!
We SHOULD be thinking 'this is our time' because, logically, there is more chance of success at this point than failure, right? That's what I keep telling myself. X
You’re right, I’m gonna try to hold onto that thought! We gotta grasp all our personal resources and focus, we can do this! The scans aren’t that far away really, although it feels like they are, but think how much waiting we’ve all done already, years really! We got this!!!
Will be thinking of you and good luck to us all!!! Xxxxx
You’re exactly right. I think once I hear that heartbeat maybe I’ll be able to settle and enjoy it a little. I was reading last night on the NHS website you should tell your GP you’re pregnant as soon as you find out - I can’t even bring myself to do that until it’s confirmed by the scan! It’s just crazy really isn’t it xx
My IVF clinic said I didn't need to but actually I ended up needing to get a higher dose of levothyroxine (I'm seeing a private endocrinologist and he told me to go up) so I had to explain to my GP to get the prescription. But I didn't want to yet, ha! I wanted to wait until that 7 week scan. I feel like I've jinxed it - which is so painfully stupid. My brain has gone all medieval with superstition even though I am such a logical person 😂
And Saskiahope this is so true. It isnt far - in normal life a week/2 weeks is no time at all. But in this it's an eternity! And the thought of another 35 weeks of stress... 💀 ha
I think the same, if I do x y or z I will jinx it! I did CBT previously and that gave me loads of strategies for dealing with anxiety and reasoning stuff out - literally none of it works with this 😂 don’t know how I’m going to do another how many months of this.
I think the reason I’m scared of jinxing it with the GP is when I had a chemical last time I started bleeding just after I came off the phone to the clinic to tell them I had a BFP 🙈
It’s crazy what we get in our mind isn’t it! My therapist said there are many things we can’t will (such as getting pregnant), and I think we have to apply that concept to everything… things will either go one way or another and it won’t be due to what ever said or done, it will just be how it is. But it’s hard to keep level headed isn’t it!!! And also the fact that there is no real control can be so hard too! Roll on successful scans for everyone please (fingers crossed, touch wood… lol 🙈🙈🙈🤞🤞🤞) !!! Xxxx
I’m a bit confused by these posts. Technically I’m 6 weeks but based off Hcg not rising enough they’ve told me it’ll just end in a chemical so I’m waiting to bleed. Are you not having your Hcg tested regularly?
Thank you. Thinking of you. This journey can be so brutal, I hope you’re holding up. Reading through posts there seems to be quite a bit of hope after loss, I hope you get to where you want to be soon x
I am currently just over 16 weeks pregnant. This is not an IVF pregnancy, as after a couple of rounds, we decided not to carry on and let our faith decide whether or not we will have children. The pain and aches you are describing were very similar to mine. I panicked every time I went to the bathroom. Try to stay positive and do not think about the worst. Period pains are absolutely normal at any stage of pregnancy. I am sending you a lot of love and wish you the best during your pregnancy xxx
Thank you so much, that’s quite reassuring although I’m sure that’s made you feel nervous at times! Sounds like from lots of people it’s rather common.
Wishing you all the best and hoping things continue to go well for you x
I have never been pregnant so I’m not sure why I’m chipping in but I think if I were pregnant I would be the same. I think I’d be doing pregnancy tests every morning, symptom checking and juts generally feeling up and down about it for the first trimester. I just feel like when you have struggled so much and you’ve read so many stories you can’t help but doubt whether it’s finally actually happening. Sending love and luck xxxx
Sounds like you totally get it, and good luck moving forward with your treatment!
I think it’s the struggles we’ve been through that amplify the worry when we do get one step further in the journey. Plus something I realise about my personality is that to protect myself somehow I’ve developed a habit of expecting the worse… and have battled that at every stage. And then mix that with the hormonal changes and it’s a perfect storm for worry and anxiety!
I have found this group has helped me to understand that the worrying is a shared experience. It’s given me support and also helped me to communicate with my partner about how many people worry in our boat, and it’s not that I’m not coping as such, but it sort of perhaps comes with the territory for some of us.
Sending love and strength to all.
One foot in front of the other, one day at a time. Xxx
Exactly in the same position as you, feeling so anxious, I’m also spotting on and off which is nerve wracking, I had a scan on Thursday saw the heartbeat which only helped with my anxiety for like half a day Ofcourse I was very happy as I never got to this stage but as soon my boobs are not as sore or I see the spotting again I feel like everything is going wrong!
It’s so so hard, I have another scan next Friday with my immunologist before my intralipids infusion but just feel absolute helpless 🙁😒
I’m so sorry you’re feeling like this, and it’s no surprise after all that you have been through, it’s so tough isn’t it!
Someone said earlier about holding onto facts and what you know, and one fact you could try to use to feel less helpless is that you are indeed pregnant and there is a heartbeat, that is true now, so try if you can to stay in the now rather than thinking too far ahead.
But I do know that’s easier said than done.
I’ve read countless posts on here about people spotting all the way through their pregnancies and their babies being absolutely fine. I also read that it’s natural for pregnancy symptoms to come and go… judging on the fact you’ve already had one good scan I’d say the odds are in your favour, I will be thinking of you and I hope when you get the all good with that next scan it might reassure you. But again we can all just message if we need more reassurance, we’re all in this together .
I think the truth is in many ways our symptoms don’t tell us a huge amount as they can mean things are going to plan or something else, so us overthinking just makes us suffer. So tough isn’t it.
I wonder what we could all do to help each other or ourselves… perhaps we need to start suggesting distractions! I watched all of Bridgerton for example and that for some moments took my mind off things…
I have also been thinking about how our hormones are really messing probably with our perspective. My lovely lovely partner made a comment about a film we were just watching and I felt I was going to burst into tears, plus I was a mess during the opening ceremony whilst listening to Céline Dion last night, I can tell my hormones all over the place, so this is bound to impact how we feel about the process and how we react to it too, so try to be kind to yourself because you so deserved to feel okay.
Thinking of you and sending you lots of well wishes for your next scan and for all of us! We got this xxxx
Thank you so much for such a thoughtful reply, you are absolutely right, I do try to be hopeful as much as I can and also distract myself I started watching Game Of Thrones again and this helps me forget for a bit, it’s a though journey but we have been through so much and we will get through this one day and one step at a time. Sending you lots of love and positive energy xxx
I love GOT! Have you been watching the new series House of the Dragon? It is really good!
Perhaps we just have to accept that sometimes we will feel really worried and all over the place, and other times we will succeed in being hopeful and distracting ourselves and it’s all part of the process and totally normal … and you’re right, we will get through this one day at a time
orangecatmum said our anxious thoughts are not the truth, and I’m gonna try to remember that, whilst keeping the positive facts in mind, and then distraction distraction distraction, I might go back to GOT too!
I’m doing well, still anxious and can’t properly relax even though I had my 8 weeks scan with my recurrent miscarriage clinic and everything was well I was ahead a few days instead of 7 weeks 6 days I was 8 weeks one day based on measurement and unexpectedly heard the heartbeat too was very emotional.🥹
However today back to overthinking again as some of my symptoms are less and that’s driving me crazy.
Sorry for moaning again that’s why I didn’t really post here because despite everything going well I still don’t feel positive and worried something will go wrong!
Please don’t worry, you’re not moaning, you are just worried because you’ve been through so much and that it totally to be expected. I’m having a few conversations on this forum and we’re all feeling worried, are overthinking and cannot relax, despite getting various pieces of good news, because I think that’s what having a fertility journey like some of ours produces. You’re totally normal in my opinion and I really identify with your words.
Really cool to hear you have seen the heartbeat ! I think we may be almost at exactly the same stage! I’m currently 8weeks and one day and was lucky enough to see the heartbeat last Wednesday for the first time at my first scan :-))))) (honestly I’m already thinking I may book a private reassurance scan between now and 12 weeks, just to break all the waiting up a bit and hopefully top up my sense of reassurance!).
Despite the reassurance of that scan I do still worry daily, my symptoms come and go, I have lots of cramping and I think I just have a defence mechanism defaulted to expect things to go wrong, so I’m trying to manage that and it’s a minute by minute battle.
Sometimes I think with symptoms that perhaps they come and go depending on lots of factors like where we’re at, what we’ve eaten, how our day has gone, sleep quality etc., and also what is happening hormonally with the pregnancy and different growth spurt stages and development etc., and some people get no symptoms or have spotting and all sorts of things (many shared on this group), so in a way there is no normal and we are all normal lol!
I think when we really get worried there is no harm at all to message on this forum and share and be honest , as it helps us and it may help someone else later down the line who is looking for some reassurance because their symptoms come and go or they have spotting or they are going bonkers, we’re all in this together and no one quite knows how hard this journey is as well as the people on this group.
I hope you can find some peace and distraction for the rest of this weekend did you enjoy HOD? I loved it! I heard mixed opinions though. I’ve just started the spin offs of The Walking Dead… the Rick one (The Ones Who Live) seems good so far if you’re into that. The Walking Dead did go down hill in my opinion as time passed, so I’d not bothered, but this new series may prove to be a good distraction for me!
Anyways.
This is long lol!
Sending all my best wishes.
We will get there and time will pass and with time I think may come reassurance xxxxx
That’s amazing news that you seen the heartbeat soooo glad for you.
You are right that the symptoms really depends on the growth spurs and the situations as seen it in myself lately, I have never gone this far so I guess I have to be a bit more hopeful and positive, but sometime we just have to feel the feelings and move on to the next day.
We are exactly on the same timeline I’m 8 weeks and 2 days today. 🤗
I’m still distracting myself with GOT and HOD which really good 😬
Thank you for for your reassurance and I wish both of us and whoever is on this journey the best of luck. We will keep in touch
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No more bleeding?!! What is going on??????
What is going on? :( 
6 week viability scan - good news!
