Just wanted to pop on here to say that our journey has come to an end sadly. I’ve just had our 8th transfer and at 9dp5dt we’re still negative. I know some of you lovely people may say that it’s still early but I think we all know that the vast majority of tests are positive by now if they are going to be (and all have been in my case). It’s a relief to all be over if I’m honest. It’s been 8 years of absolute trauma (and one success with a beautiful daughter). I’m glad I don’t have to go through any of this again. It takes such a toll on the mind and body.
Thanking all those that have given me the support over the years. You’re all absolute titans and wishing you luck if you’re still in the midst of it. I wouldn’t have been able to get through it without this community 🥰.
Much love
Lindsey
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I’m only nearly three years into this and can completely understand the relief. Enjoy your beautiful daughter and know unlike others who haven’t experienced this how unbelievably lucky you are- you’ll never not appreciate it all xx
I’m so sorry for all that you have been through. What incredible resilience and strength you must have to have kept going for so long. Bravo to you for coming to this decision. I hope that life can now finally start for you with the beautiful family you already have. xx
Hey Lyndsey, I'm so sorry your final journey didn't work out as you'd hoped but great to hear that you can move away from the arduous, heartbreaking turmoil of constant transfers. Wishing you and your family all the best. Lots of love and hugs my fellow warrior.xxx
We are good thanks. The wee lads are grand, 3yrs old already, full of beans and have no fear🤯....life is pretty hectic but not complaining.🥰 How are guys doing?xxx
That is so great to hear. To be honest life has felt somewhat on hold until now. I think the end of this chapter will open up a new life for us in a way. I can’t wait! Our daughter is just amazing though. We know we got so lucky. Just doesn’t stop the hurt of the other losses I guess. Onwards and upwards. Xx
No, the thoughts and memories never leave sadly.😢 However forever grateful that we have what we have. Losing both my parents shortly after getting the boys was probably the hardest challenge I've ever had but the boys gave me reason to fight on. Hopefully a more peaceful time for us all ahead.xxx
Sometimes making a decision is the most difficult part, but you made up your mind there is a feeling of relief....you have taken a very brave one...sometimes I wonder how long it will take for us to say enough
We got to the end of our donor eggs and the embryos that were made using them. Mentally I can’t take any more transfers so I knew it was enough. It sounds an obvious thing to say but I think you’ll know when you’re done. I did Wishing you all the best in the meantime xx
Oh lovely - we were in touch before (Daisy1245), I am sorry that this round hasn't worked.. but I am so glad you have your daughter. We are stopping at one too and whilst it's very hard to admit defeat, I think there comes a time when enough is enough in terms of body, mind and spirit! Wishing you all health and happiness xx
Hello 👋. So great to hear from you. I’m totally with you. Enough is enough. That’s exactly the phrase! I’m with you. Wishing you the same my lovely. We’ve been on this long road together xx
I am so sorry to hear that your round didn't work. I can imagine the relief of knowing that you are finally done but it doesn't remove that sadness of the hope. I have done three years, two ec's, three transfers one of which is my beautiful son. I said I was done and then my last one failed and I've managed to talk myself (ourselves!) into one last attempt but knowing that this will be it and we can move on with our lives after will be something of a relief.Enjoy your plans and your beautiful child! You have put all your efforts into this crazy journey and deserve some chill out time xx
Thank you. Just some time not thinking about IVF sounds wonderful! I’m wishing you ALL the very best for your last transfer I really am. We’ve all been through so much xx
My love, I’m so proud of you for all you’ve been through - it’s such a shitty, unfair journey but you and I have been so lucky to get our miracle babies.
I know it’s not the end you were hoping for but it’s an end, and in so many ways I can imagine the relief. No more drugs, no more appointments, no more probes, no more invasive procedures, no more horrendous transfers.
Sending you all the love in the world for the future xxx
You too lovely lady. I’m very proud of you too my fab IVF titan. You’re still on your journey and I have absolutely everything crossed that it works out for you as you know. We’ll be invested in each others next chapters I know that for sure xx
You did a great job and tried everything, you are so brave!! You never know what life reserves you going forward... miracles, surprises anything is possible. I never thought I will get naturally pregnant after almost 7 years of infertility. Life is just unpredictable. Take care of yourself 🥰 lot's of love 💕
Your strength and resilience over these 8 years are truly inspiring. I can imagine it’s a mix of relief and sadness to see this chapter come to an end. Thank you for sharing your journey and supporting others along the way. Wishing you and your beautiful daughter all the happiness and peace moving forward. xx
I’m sorry that it didn’t work this time but I just want to say well done for all your effort and everything you have put yourself through for your family, you are amazing 🫶🏻👏🏻 and you should be so proud of yourself! I can understand your relief of stopping and getting very close to doing the same myself. Enjoy your beautiful family and your IVF/treatment free life 🤗💜 you deserve it xx
We have one Frosties from egg collection in March that I am currently in a down reg to transfer next month. We were going to move to my wives eggs (reciprocal IVF) after that but her BMI is too high for the clinic we are at and my age is too high for the other clinic near us that takes her BMI. We looked into going abroad but they won’t take our sperm donor as it’s an open donor and we wanted it to be the same donor as with our son so it just feels like if this frostie doesn’t work the universe is saying to stop as it’s so much hassle and the misscariage at 10 weeks at the end of last year really took some of the strength I normally have out me and I just want to start my IVF free life really soon!! Will see how I feel after this transfer as I don’t like putting that ‘final try’ pressure on the 2WW but it is feeling just now like I just wanna be free!! Xx
I hear you on so many fronts. I’ve said I’m done on many occasions. I even posted here after transfer 5 that that was it. Then went on to have 3 more transfers (and a miscarriage). I’m so sorry for your loss. It takes an unbelievable amount of strength of come back from it. The only thing I can say is that you’ll know when you’re done. Wishing you lots of strength for this transfer xx
Thanks lovely, I think I will know and it’s actually really helpful to see your post to know your thinking on it too. Thanks so much for sharing this part of your life with us xx
I am so sorry that your journey has come to an end, be proud of yourself that you had the strength to persevere over these last 8 years which takes so much from you mentally and physically, although the trauma of IVF and the losses you have suffered never leaves I hope you can move forward peacefully knowing that you did everything you could. everything goes on hold during treatment not knowing what will be so I hope you can have some relief now you have made this decision. wishing you and your family all the best take care xx
We have decided to stop IVF and start a new life chapter too after a private clinic in central London made a traumatic mistake in our treatments. After that, we felt emotionally and financially drained. I think it takes a lot of courage to move on and see hope beyond IVF. I admire your courage. x
And yours. I’m so sorry to hear you had such a traumatic experience. I heard about embryos being mismanaged so I really hope this didn’t happen to you. Wishing you all the very best in your next chapter too x
Hey you are such a warrior and incredibly brave you put your heart and soul into this, but you are blessed with your beautiful daughter and now that you have made your decision it's time to live your life with your beautiful family and enjoy every single moment wishing you the very best xxx
I’m so sorry your latest transfer didn’t work but I’m pleased to hear you’re at the end of the rollercoaster of a journey that ivf takes us on. Wishing you and your family all the best as you start a new chapter in your life - you deserve all the happiness Lindsey! Xx
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