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So I’ve not posted on here since our BFP just before Christmas.

We have been so happy. 6 week scan was perfect with a healthy little heart beat.

We have been planning the nursery colours and buying odd little bits. Had to purchase my first pair of maternity jeans at the weekend as my bump is growing too tight for my jeans.

Only to start bleeding Sunday afternoon. 10weeks4days. After a tiring sleepless night in the assessment unit I eventually went for a scan this morning to sadly find our little baby had no heart beat! All appeared well with its size but sadly didn’t make it for whatever reason.

So I’m currently sat at home with major cramps which I can only imagine are contractions which come and go with heavy bleeding.

I hope this pain stops soon, we both feel so numb, lost and confused.

This was our one chance with IVF on the NHS so now we have to consider a large expense and trying again. I can’t even think about it right now but I know we are going to have to make the decision at some point 😞

I feel so empty 😢

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Draglife

Hi Babyblues

As someone who went thru the arduous ivf journey and suffered a miscarriage in the 6th week, I understand how it would have been. Stay positive and hope for the best. My thoughts are with you.

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Babyblues1 in reply to Draglife

Thank you, I hope you are ok too

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Lisaworthy1981

I no we’ve already spoken but I am so sorry!! I can’t believe this is happening as I’m sure you can’t either!!

I feel like we had lots of chats since December with one problem or another, and kept each other sane!!

We’re thinking of you both and do message me if you want to chat xxxxxx 😘

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Babyblues1 in reply to Lisaworthy1981

I know I’m still in shock!

We sure did keep each other sane 😊

Don’t feel like you can’t message me now, I can still keep you sane!

Thank you both for your kind thoughts, take care xxx

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Lisaworthy1981 in reply to Babyblues1

Bless you, thank you xxx

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Picalilli99

I’m so sorry to hear about your sad loss. Miscarriage is always devastating. But somehow it can seem even more heartbreaking after it took so much to get there and after things had been going well and you’d seen that beautiful heartbeat. I can relate as we experienced similar. Saw a heartbeat at 7 weeks - absolutely over the moon - then when we went for a private scan at 9 weeks they could no longer find a heartbeat. Sending you big hugs and strength to get through this difficult time. Try not to worry too much about next steps right now just try to be kind to yourself and look after each other. You will get through this xx

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Babyblues1 in reply to Picalilli99

Thank you for your kind words xx

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cls37

I am so so sorry xx

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Midge8

I’m so sorry to read this we conceived naturally and had a miscarriage at 11+5 I really understand the empty feeling. Keep on top of the pain killers codine and paracetamol alternate ever 2 hours took the edge off for me if it helps and lots of hot water bottles. It’s so hard and nothing will help right now, just look after each other and whatever you need to do to get through it just do and don’t feel guilty you don’t have to explain anything to anyone. Love to you both xxx

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Sweets1

So sorry to read this! Take time, and rest! Sending big hugs xxx

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Hollibob

Sorry to read this..it’s all very cruel x

I am so sorry to read this. Miscarriage is awful, especially when you have had such a promising start. Look after yourselves and take time to heal. You will get there and we are all here for you xx

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Wishingfortheday

I am so very sorry to hear this, I can only say I understand having been through this myself, and am thinking of you. Take care of each other, and give yourselves some time to heal xx

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry for your loss, truly devastating! Look after each other!xxx

My sincere prayers for you. God bless you

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Emma04

I’m so sorry to read of your loss, it’s hesrtbreaking to have to go through - sending love x

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kirstyblue

My heart breaks for you. Life can be so cruel. I’m so sorry.

Take care x

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Kempton

I'm so sorry. Sending you a big hug.

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Jebby86

I’m so sorry for your loss 💔 xx

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Kyell2

Such awful news😔. I hope that the physical pain eases soon, look after yourself xx

I’m so sorry 😢 xx

I’m so so sorry 😧

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Babyblues1

Thank you everyone your kind thoughts and words help a lot xxx

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TerryNaples

I’m so sorry for you 😞

I’ll be praying

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Novice_knitter

So sorry for your loss. Devastating news, thinking of you and hoping your body recovers quickly xxx

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Ajplus1

I’m so sorry for your loss. Please take care of yourself and your OH xx

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TRYING2016

Heartbreaking news, im very sorry for your loss. But the main focus is you at the moment, try and not to worry what you need to plan next. Have lots of rest and keep your fluids up and have pain relief regularly. I had a miscarriage at 6 weeks no heart beat and it felt like it was the end of our happiness so just cant imagine what you are going through. Lots of hugs xxxx

This is so heartbreaking , I'm so sorry for your loss XX

Sorry to hear that. That's so bloody unfair when you look forward to something only to have it result in nothing.

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Ayesha85

Very sorry

Don't lose hope God will blessed you a healthy baby very soon

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Poppy16

Devastated for you. I am really sorry to read this. Thinking about you at this painful time. Sending you a big hug.xo

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Babyjoshua

So sorry to hear dat but time heals all wounds just take some time out for yourself and your husband. I wishingyou all the best when you all try again. Sending you lots of pray and warm hugs.

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Elynn

So sorry for you guys... such a huge loss and shock. I hope you have loving support in your lives.

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Apples2665

So very sorry to read this xx

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Strawberrychaos

I’m so sorry for you loss hun, so heartbreaking 😢xx

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Rainbowhope

I'm so sorry to read this. I know the emptiness you describe. Everything will feel like too much for now. Thinking only one step at a time. You can overcome this heartache. X

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Maggie34

Hi Babyblues1, really sorry to hear about you loss 😢 I know exactly how you feel as I went through it in November. Nothing I can say right now will help but just know you not on your own and eventually it will hurt a little less. Sending big hugs x

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