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hifer
hifer

Hello lovely ladies,

I’ve deliberately not posted and have actually been very quiet on here for a good reason! I’m still not sure whether people will find this helpful/ encouraging or not but I’m hoping the positive will outweigh anything else. I know it’s been such a tough tough time for everyone with treatment being delayed (myself included). The long and the short of it is, I’m pregnant! I found out 2 weeks ago, in the middle of lockdown, and as you can imagine, I was absolutely gobsmacked. I still am to be honest. I had a scan on Friday and we have a heartbeat and I will be 7 weeks today. I will have another scan in just over 2 weeks. At the moment I’m just taking one day at a time. I had a mmc before between 7-9 weeks so I’m not allowing myself to get excited. The anxiety is pretty overwhelming at times but I’m having weekly counselling to try and get it in check. I don’t know if you can ever have a ‘normal’ worry free pregnancy after fertility treatment and a miscarriage etc.

Just wanted to update you on our journey I guess and say that I’m thinking of everyone hopefully starting treatment again soon. It’s a very stressful time and I feel for everyone going through it.

Much love

Xx

76 Replies
oldestnewest

That's wonderful news x wishing you a healthy and happy pregnancy hun x x

hifer
hifer
in reply to Lots8788

Thank you x

Brilliant news, congratulations lovely! X

hifer
hifer
in reply to Solly-44

Thank you x

Wow! Amazing news. Congratulations lovely xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to CLDxxx

Thank you x

Holy moly.....love, love, love this post!! Congraulations! Im super happy for you lovely, this is amazing news!! Great that you have had your first scan and all good. Wishing you all the best and look forward to more news later from you!! Take care!xxxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Cinderella5

Ah thank you so much. It still feels very surreal and like I say, just taking one day at a time due to my history. Have you had any news at all from your clinic? Xx

Cinderella5
Cinderella5
in reply to hifer

No, completely understand, that anxiety is hard to manage when you had suffered loss before but as you say.....one day at a time!! Nothing much happening with me, Athens has coped really well with Covid, they only have around 149 deaths so far and are coming out of lock down however it is being monitored very closely and they havent opened borders yet. Trying to be patient for more news, they are hoping to allow tourists in after July 1st so just watching this space really. Look after yourself!xx

That’s absolutely fantastic news!! Many many congratulations!

So was this natural or did you have treatment? Sorry I’m not on top of all of the posts at the moment! Xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to londonrc

Thank you. No, no probs at all. I haven’t posted in ages anyway! It was a natural pregnancy. I was just waiting to start my 3rd egg collection when my clinic shut! How are you doing? Xx

londonrc
londonrc
in reply to hifer

That is honestly truely fantastic news!

I’m doing ok- 24 weeks now after my transfer in dec!

You are right you won’t be able to relax - it’s very hard - but I wish you all the best and hope your pregnancy continues perfectly - such a blessing and such good news at this strange time. Xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to londonrc

Thank you so much and wishing you all the very best for yours too. Hoping you’re not worrying too much😘xx

Wonderful news Hifer!!! Wishing you a healthy pregnancy. Stay safe XX

hifer
hifer
in reply to Baby_gurl

Thanks so much x

Ahh this is amazing news!! Huge congratulations xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Lavender96

Thank you x

Aww congratulations 🥳 happy news in these dark times. Hope you can relax and take this blessing day by day. Well done xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Mimisami

Definitely day by day! Thank you x

Wow! Super congratulations! Amazing news. xxxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to ttcemmie

Thanks hun x

Amazing news, congratulations to you xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Miracle43

Thanks hun x

Wonderful news, congratulations xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Peanutchips

Thank you x

Such lovely news very happy for you 😁 all the best with your pregnancy hope all goes smoothly. These stories give others hope & that’s so important & hard to have on this journey xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to jess1981

Thank you. It’s just a very sensitive time and I wasn’t sure if people would want to know or not! I was hoping people would take hope from it xx

Huge congrats and all the very best of luck. I found out two days ago that I was, after TTC , surgery, IVF referral. Still in shock. My gp has been great and arranged an early scan for me soon to check it’s not ectopic as i’m high risk. All the very best and i’m sure will give hope to others

hifer
hifer
in reply to Run4ever

Amazing!! Many congrats to you too. That’s great! God it’s a miracle anyone gets pregnant at all. It all seems so hard!! Keeping everything crossed for your early scan. Keep us posted xx

Run4ever
Run4ever
in reply to hifer

thanks so much

This is wonderful news. Congratulations xxx do you mind me asking do you think the counselling is helping. I’m having a really tough time at the moment and wonder if it would help but with the lockdown I don’t know where to start looking for help xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Chowlady14

Hey hun, thank you. Yes I’ve had loads of counselling and it’s always helped! I’ve had some really dark times going through IVF so I couldn’t recommend it enough. Does your clinic offer counselling? Normally they do so I would start with them as you will get specific fertility counselling. That has helped me and they will be doing phone consultations now if they do offer it. Otherwise the current counselling I’m having is CBT (cognitive behavioural therapy) through my local GP. They referred me and now I have weekly calls with her. It’s not fertility specific but we tailor it to my fertility anxiety which is really helpful. I would get a call with your GP and see what they can do. Don’t be at all worried to say that you are suffering with a lot of anxiety and need help. I’m sure they will do what they can to assist. Good luck xx

Chowlady14
Chowlady14
in reply to hifer

That’s really helpful thank you. I’m going to take some active steps because it’s affecting my mood daily and it’s so unfair on my husband and kids. I’ve got spotting most days and when I see it I just plummet into a dark place which combined with lockdown is horrendous. Good luck with the rest of your pregnancy xxxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Chowlady14

Agreed. The anxiety is bad enough without the lockdown on top! Definitely see if you can get some help. Good luck xx

Congratulations! Amazing news, so chuffed for you x

Thank you x

Awwwww amazing.... congratulations and wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy 😘😘

hifer
hifer
in reply to destiny121

Thanks hun x

Congratulations x

hifer
hifer
in reply to gcw104

Thank you 🙏 x

Wow what amazing news! And what a lovely surprise. Huge congratulations lovely xxxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Picalilli99

It def was a surprise! Thanks hun x

Fantastic news!!! So well deserved! Masses of luck lovely xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Daisy1245

Ahh thank you. I’ll take all the luck 😉xx

Congratulations!! Good luck for your next scan. Wishing you a happy and healthy pregnancy xxx

Thank you so much. Just need to stay sane until the next scan!! Xx

That'll be difficult! But if I'm honest, as soon as you leave the scan it all starts again lol. I've got a 16week scan last week and it will have been 4 weeks since precious scan and 4 weeks until 20 week xx

Oh god! Just take one day at a time then. I think it’s just really bad at the mo as I have previously miscarried between 7-9 weeks which is where I am now. Hopefully once I’m passed that stage things might get a bit easier! Good luck for your 20 weeks xx

Yeah it's difficult until you get passed that stage, I was 10 weeks but baby was 6 so at viability scan we had already got passed that but i still didnt believe it lol. Sorry that was meant to say next week, only 15 weeks today. You will get there, wishing you the best of luck xxx

Hidden
Hidden

Congratulations Hifer, this really gives me lots of hope, we were buddies in the last transfer. Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy 😊🥰

hifer
hifer
in reply to Hidden

Thank you. Oh I’m so pleased it has! I’ve been to despair and back during IVF so I know how it feels plus I’m not out of the woods yet! Are you coping ok? X

Amazing news. So happy for you 😘 keeping everything crossed x x x

hifer
hifer
in reply to Drives

Thanks hun x

I'm so pleased for you, what a wonderful shock! Hope it all goes smoothly from here on in xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to MissSaoPaulo

It certainly was a shock! Thank you x

Wonderful news Hifer 😊🙏🏻 Praying for a safe pregnancy for you xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Tiger321

Thanks lovely x

Congratulations lovely that is wonderful news 😘😘

hifer
hifer
in reply to ChristineB05

Thank you x

Wonderful news congratulations!!!😍😍😍😍😍

hifer
hifer
in reply to Kiedy84

Thank you x

Wonderful news. Congratulations. Pray the rest of your pregnancy goes smoothly 🙏 xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Sammy246

Thank you x

What a lovely surprise! Many congratulations to you xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Italy300618

It certainly was! Thank you x

Hi Hifer many congratulations. I am delighted for you! Do keep us updated with your progress 😍😍😍🥂🥂🥂🥂🥂

hifer
hifer
in reply to Mmmpudding

Thanks hun, will do. x

Congrats! Enjoy your pregnancy! X

hifer
hifer
in reply to Dreambaby

Thank you xx

Beautiful news! Massive congratulations, wishing for you a smooth and healthy pregnancy!!

hifer
hifer
in reply to Rella22

Thank you x

Congratulations fantastic news hope the pregnancy goes well xx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Core

Thanks so much x

This is amazing news! It’s so good to hear success stories. Sending you lots of positive thoughts to ease your anxiety. I use the Neom stress relief pulse point it’s about £8 and it’s amazing! and listen to anxiety calming music on you tube. I’m now 21 weeks pregnant and it really works!

Wishing you a healthy pregnancy xxx

hifer
hifer
in reply to Sweetie123

Congrats on your pregnancy too. Thanks a lot re the Neom tip. Really helpful. I also listen to calming music on Calm (the app) before I go to sleep which is really helpful. Wishing you a very healthy pregnancy too xx

Congrats 🥳 wishing you an easy happy pregnancy ❤️

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