Last week 10 eggs, this week we’re out. Feeling guilty!

[Darcy1996]

I knew our first round was unlikely to give us a success and was more likely to be a learning round but f€$k this hurts!

just got the call to say our last blastocyst isn’t developed enough to freeze or to biopsy. Taking it as a positive that our 3 eggs that fertilised (from 10 collected) made it to blastocysts.

Obviously they can’t say why they didn’t make it, other than if they didn’t make it to be biopsies, they probably had chromosomal issues. Feel so weird that a blastocyst that isn’t dead but can’t be kept over 7 days is going to be discarded too.

sorry, rambling!

[Newcastle12]

crap so annoying for you. Our first round failed and it really does hurt 😢 rant away!

[Darcy1996 in reply to Newcastle12]

I feel silly because it was never likely that it’d work, but I still dared to hope, esp as the 3 that did fertilise were looking strong and ahead even at one point.

[Newcastle12 in reply to Darcy1996]

I know I’m sure ❤️ we have none fertilised on our first round and it was a complete shock to us! We went for ICSI next but had very few fertilised again. Totally rubbish- you are allowed to be sad and be kind to yourself xx

[Greenleaves1]

Is it a freeze all round?

[Darcy1996 in reply to Greenleaves1]

It would have been yes, freeze all and PGT-A but they’ve advised the last one wouldn’t be able to be frozen either at this stage.

[Greenleaves1 in reply to Darcy1996]

Aww I'm sorry to hear that. I hope you are ok xx

[Darcy1996 in reply to Greenleaves1]

I described myself as realistically optimistic throughout the round so I guess today I’m realistic but sad 🤷🏻‍♀️🌈💜

[neonpg]

Im so sorry, I feel this hurt so hard! My most recent IVF failed in Feb. Nine mature eggs retrieved, seven fertilised but only one made it to early blast at Day 5 (was transferred but BFN). The other six were still alive at Day 6 and some became blasts but they weren't good enough quality to freeze. It truly is a rollercoaster.

Take the time you need to heal and I hope that your consultant can advise on what you can do to get a better outcome next time.

[Darcy1996 in reply to neonpg]

Thank you neonpg and I’m sorry to hear your outcome too. I think I’m going to take min one cycle out before launching back in as I want to understand what happened or if anything can be changed, or if it’s just my age 🤷🏻‍♀️

I hope you’ve got a plan you’re confident in 🤞🏻

[neonpg in reply to Darcy1996]

That sounds wise! I'll take at least two more cycles out before my third (and final!) IVF round. My consultant hasn't suggested changing the plan as apparently I was just unlucky. But I'm using this time to take higher quality supplements and some lifestyle improvements. I'm also doing a full thrombophilia screen and changing my sperm donor. If that doesn't work then, well, I give up!

[Darcy1996 in reply to neonpg]

That sounds like a lot of changes, and everything crossed it works for you, it has to!

[IVFtake2]

Darcy, really sorry to hear about your outcome, its such a kicker. Its only natural you would be upset and hurting.Deciding to start IVF and then go through a retrieval is a big step. No matter how much you try protect yourself you have to have hope as your doing it to get through it.

You definitely have to take the positives from this that you got as far as you did as so many people don't. Also as I learnt every cycle can be different and if you go again you could get a more positive outcome.

Hopefully your clinic can help you decide on your next steps when you talk to them.

Look after yourself for the next while.

[Darcy1996 in reply to IVFtake2]

Thank you, it definitely feels like an ice cream and bath kinda weekend this weekend, before researching what to do next

[IVFtake2 in reply to Darcy1996]

All the ice cream and whatever other comforts you need, ivf is the most stressful of rollercoaster rides.

[Sunshine809]

That really sucks, I'm so sorry. Lots of feelings come out and it's so hard having them all swirling around!

We had 3 day transfers on our first three rounds, then on the 4th round four of the fertilised eggs were looking good so they decided to wait and try to get a blastocyst. By day 5 however none of them were good enough/they stopped developing, so we therefore had nothing to transfer.

I found that much harder than on the other rounds where I had felt like I had a chance (even though the same thing happened to those embryos too, we just didn't know because they were inside me!).

It always helped me to have a plan, do some research, and focus on my next steps, so it's great that you're doing that. The clinic are learning how you respond from your first round, so try to think of it as a trial run and now they have some information to tailor your treatment and hopefully have better results when you try again.

Wishing you the very best of luck for next time xx

[Darcy1996 in reply to Sunshine809]

Thank you Sunshine. I was so determined/hopeful we’d beat the odds and be a successful round not a trial - whilst knowing at 42 that that was v unlikely.

I’m so sorry to hear about your experiences - there’s a lot of “what if” there isn’t there…whilst I know logically a blastocyst that wasn’t strong enough to freeze likely wouldn’t be strong enough to implant, it doesn’t make it easier. Thank you for sharing 🌈💜

[Sunshine809 in reply to Darcy1996]

I really thought the same - hopefully we will be the people who are successful on their first go...

Hopefully next round will be your time ✨️🎉🙏 xx