menstrual cycle messed up after failed transfer worried about next ivf cycle

[Lemons1986]

Hi everyone

I had a failed fresh transfer in February. I had my withdrawal bleed and period as soon as I stopped the progesterone . It was heavy as expected and quite long .

I should have had my natural cycle on day 25/26 however I’m on day 30 now and the only sign I have is mood swings . I was hoping to go for my frozen transfer mid April however it seems my cycle is a bit off . I assume this is normal?

Grateful for any help or advice . I actually was encouraged to do back to back transfer but I pushed back as I wanted to give my body and mind a break .

Now I’m worried as I’m nearly 38 and preparing if my frozen embryo fails that going back through a full one I’ll get no eggs .

I had 6 eggs from 10 follicles and 5 fertilised .

1 failed fresh transfer and 3 frozen and 1 collapsed . After PGT testing only one embryo was viable .

[Endofitall]

My cycle following a fresh IVF cycle has always been longer (31/32 days rather than 25/26) due to ovulation being delayed. I think it’s quite normal.

I know it doesn’t feel like it but having 6 eggs and 5 fertilised, 1 for fresh transfer and 1 of 3 frozen embryos euploid after PGTA testing is a good result. Many will have a much bigger drop off and there’s always a chance none will be euploid. Keep hope your euploid embryo FET works ❤️

[Lemons1986 in reply to Endofitall]

Thank you . I think I’m just so tired. I know compared so some I’m lucky and only at the start . But 3 years of trying naturally and being written off by the nhs as my husband had a child to being diagnosed unexplained infertility had taken its toll . I am dreading going back through stims again if this one fails .

[Greenleaves1]

Hi - similar boat, my cycle was 24/25 days then after my first IVF cycle it moved to 29/30 days before I got my period. Ovulation was a few days later than usual then Estrogen delayed my period a few days. xx

[Lemons1986 in reply to Greenleaves1]

Did this resolve or did it stay the same? I’ve always had short cycles so wondered . Thank you for your reply xx

[Greenleaves1 in reply to Lemons1986]

I don't know as I've started my second cycle after that - hopefully I'll not have another period for a while if this goes well lol xx

[Lemons1986 in reply to Greenleaves1]

Oh fingers crossed for you! Hope it goes well! xx

[Greenleaves1 in reply to Lemons1986]

Thank you xx

[Rainbow_23]

hi lovely. How are you doing?

My story is similar, although you did better than me with the egg numbers. I am also nearly 38. Our fresh transfer worked but resulted in a chemical. This was back in December. My cycles really messed up after this, first month I went to day 40, then it was 20 then back up to 28. Don’t be disheartened it’s just all those hormones.

I know how you feel about starting again. I’m so scared 😢 I wish there was a way of sugar coating but there really isn’t is there. Just know you’re not alone.

Always here if you want to chat x

[Lemons1986 in reply to Rainbow_23]

Thank you so much for reaching out .

I’m sorry that you had to go through that in December. I can’t imagine how horrid that was . I’ve never managed to get pregnant I never tried until I was 35 and then it’s been a journey I never thought I’d be on .

I still have no cycle but I think it’s coming! The PMS is real! And I noticed some discharge changes today .

I’m dreading the next round and then probably having to go through stims . My doctor says time is really running out and changes are very low for natural or ivf . So much conflicting information.

[Rainbow_23 in reply to Lemons1986]

I’m the same as you, didn’t start until 35. It’s been the worst years of my life. I’ve said before that I’d consider myself a strong woman but this process has broken me.

I hate that our age is classed “old” for pregnancy, I hear stories all the time of woman having children past 40. Why do they say such low chances and make us feel so terrible 😞

What supplements are you taking?

I’ve gone rogue and have started taking DHEA against my clinic’s recommendation.

I can’t see how most clinics in the uk recommend it yet mine doesn’t. I figure I’ve not got much to lose anymore.

That period is on route, don’t you worry. Like I said always here if you want to chat xx

[Lemons1986 in reply to Rainbow_23]

Hey what is that supplement? I’m in the UK and on impryl because cut a long story short my husband had to take it .

He basically abstained to long for the dna fragmentation. Tests and cost us thousands as we then had to have multiple tests to check the sperm county . Cost us 3 months and he was recommended this . His count lo and behold increased ridiculously when he did what he was supposed to . But out of paranoia I’ve kept us on these supplements .

I’m so tired and I’m getting to the point of how much more can I do . I’ve given myself this year . I’ll try our frozen embryo then one more stims cycle and then I’m out . It’s messed with me so much . I’m grieving for a life I never had .

Also you’re right I hear so many stories . But in reality I’m like why not me?

Everyone is so optimistic but I’m so far down the tunnel . IVF certainly isn’t the fix everyone thinks it is .

Thank you again xx

[Natasha2012]

you are the same age as me , I’m 38 in June and really feeling so exhausted and feeling old all of a sudden 😩 I had 9 eggs but none pgta tested and really , really regret not doing that . My clinic I have given no real guidance to me and made my journey so much more difficult . I’m here if you want to chat . X

[Lemons1986 in reply to Natasha2012]

It’s horrid isn’t it! I just feel my dream is gone and we will never have a child together.

Which clinic are you with? Are you private ?Mine are really brutally honest but I do like that .

The Pgta testing is so expensive though it was 500 an embryo with the same set up fee cost .

xx

[Natasha2012 in reply to Lemons1986]

I have sent you a pm . Yes I am private . I haven’t done any pgta testing and really regretting not . It was never mentioned to me by my clinic x