Massive Decision

[Beingamum23]

my 41yr old daughter has just started her 4th (solo) round - her scan showed 8/9 follicles - today after stimulation scan, only 2 had responded 6 were exactly same size. She is devastated😔 got to decide wether to go-ahead with egg collection on Friday, or abandon (having already decided this is to be her last round) - obviously still no guarantee that she’ll get an embryo - thoughts advice appreciated x

[Football61]

I’m sorry to hear this. If your daughter has decided that this is her last round, I guess she has nothing to lose by going ahead with egg collection? Has her clinic tweaked/upped her meds - to try and encourage more follicle growth ahead of Friday? Wishing you all the best of luck x

[Beingamum23 in reply to Football61]

No that wasnt suggested or recommended and tbh she doesn't really want it. In the past hour she has spoken with another doctor at the clinic who has encouraged her to go ahead with egg collection on Friday in the hope that one or both contain a good egg. She has come so far on her own she feels she needs to see this through. ‘ You only need one egg’ 🙏

[Football61 in reply to Beingamum23]

I have everything crossed for you. As you say, it only takes one! I’m also on a solo journey, but I’m a fair bit older than your daughter (45). I did two IVF cycles with my own eggs last year, but it unfortunately didn’t work - and so I have moved over to donor eggs. Please feel free to DM me any time if I can help x

[Joeysjourney]

Hiya, is that the first scan after stims? It's always worth waiting till the second scan to see if things progress. A lot can change. I have had this before when I'd just 2 and I waited to make the decision until my final scan.

I totally understand her emotions, it's really hard when you don't respond. If she cancels collection and gets some money back, she can always convert to IUI and have a shot that way then pump the money she got back into another try? I tried again and got 10 eggs the next time.

Tough times and thinking of you all xx

[Beingamum23]

yes this is first after stimulation - she always has had ‘low’ egg reserves (never as low as this) and at 41 feels maybe her body is telling her something. She has decided to go ahead eith egg collection on Friday 🙏

[Joeysjourney in reply to Beingamum23]

Good for her! He who dares! We never know xxx

[Greenleaves1]

On my day 8 scan i had 10 follicles but 4 lead ones, they decided to trigger that night. On the day of EC they got 6 eggs, only 3 mature, only 2 fertilized, only 1 made it to blastocyst. That one was transferred on Sunday. Good luck to your daughter, i'm doing IVF solo. Had my first son via IUI.

[Foxglove_daffodil]

Hi, just wanted to say good luck to your daughter for her egg collection. I hope it might help to hear I had a similar story - I am doing this solo too, and am 40 with low AMH. I only had two follicles big enough and was advised to cancel the cycle. I went ahead with egg collection, got two eggs but only one fertilised. I had a 6 day blastocyst frozen transfer at the end of January and I just got a positive from pregnancy test yesterday. It’s early days but like you said, it only takes on egg. I’ll be wishing all the best for your daughter 🙏 xx

[Tir-26]

your Daughter has made a good choice. I had the same choice to make, to collect or not. personally I think moving forward is best,

Best wishes to your daughter with her egg collection, sincerely hope it works out for her x