In my 2ww wait and feeling helpless and deflated after testing too early after FET :( any advice to stay hopeful? X

[Ree_Laine]

Hey Ladies,

In my 2ww I thought I’d be one of those lucky ones to test early and see at least a faint line. I’ve tested 6dpt and this morning 7dpt and they’ve both been negative. I don’t know why I caved in. I’ve been crying this morning thinking I’m out! I have 5 more days left for OTD which is meant to be on Boxing Day. I thought having a transfer before Christmas sounded like a great idea in the hope of getting the best Christmas present I could ever hope for but now I just feel so deflated 😔 and I’m finding it hard now to remain positive throughout what is meant to be a cheerful time of year. It’s been such a long journey to get to this point almost 3.5 years just to complete my 1st round of IVF (male infertility, donor selections, clinic delays of treatment, surgery to remove 18x10cm fibroid) , I have no Frosties as this was my one and only special embryo that made it to a day 5 blastocyst. I think testing early and reading everyone’s symptoms that I really don’t have has made me feel worse. I’ve felt bloating and mild dull cramps but I know it could just be the meds I’m on. I have a very strong faith and know everything happens for a reason but I feel really tested right now. I feel I didn’t come this far just to come this far 🥺 If anyone has any encouraging words and has been in this position I’d really appreciate it. Thanks xx

[leo1980]

I am sorry to read your post this morning. I can image how grief stricken you are. Just wanted to say that I am 8 weeks along (non viable pregnancy) and whilst I didn’t test until test day by doing blood test at the clinic and I let them give me the news as I have always done. I had no symptoms at all. I was convinced it was a negative. In fact I felt better than ever aside from twitches from progesterone) . So don’t worry about lack of symptoms. My first ever BFP and I had no clue!

I am sure I read somewhere that it needs time to implant. So you are still in until OTD. Look after yourself well until then ok.

[Ree_Laine in reply to leo1980]

Hi Lovely, congratulations 💕and wishing you a healthy and magical pregnancy. That is really reassuring to know you had next to no symptoms, makes me think there is hope for myself as I cannot identify with many posts regarding potential symptoms 😩. I am going to try and stay hopeful until OTD, maybe plan a few distractions and things to do until the big day, thank you x

[leo1980 in reply to Ree_Laine]

Good girl. No more testing until test day and no symptom spotting. Tis the season of joy and hope so do things that make you happy and bring you joy whilst you wait for your OTD. Watch telly, read, online shop, jigsaw.. plan your activities for next year…lots to do to pass time :). Best of luck

[Hidden]

it’s still early  Ree_Laine . I think most don’t start getting positives until 9dp5dt and in some cases only with the beta blood test on OTD.

You have been through challenges my dear… I’m really hoping to hear some good news on Boxing Day.

Take care my lovely and in the mean time sit it out (if you can, I know, easier said than done) and watch the Christmas tv!

[Ree_Laine in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Ms_Here ❤️ I’m definitely not doing anymore tests until OTD as my heart cannot take anymore disappointment. Feel -good Christmas movies and online retail therapy it is. Fingers crossed that I’m able to report on good news Boxing Day! X

[Football61]

Sorry to hear you’re going through such a stressful time. This forum is brilliant for getting support and advice, but I find it can sometimes be detrimental in terms of comparing your symptoms to others. No two people are the same, and these ‘symptoms’ are often the result of the transfer procedure or the Progrsterone. Day 6/7 is quite early to test. I know it’s easy for me to say, but try and enjoy your Xmas and then test on your OTD. Wishing you the very best of luck ❤️

[Ree_Laine in reply to Football61]

You are very right! Symptom checking has been detrimental in my case so I won’t be doing this anymore day by day. I’ve also removed the cheap hcg tests out of sight. I feel so much better already. I’m going to do a bit of a baking today to take my mind off all of this. Thank you so much for your well wishes have a fabulous Xmas xx 😘

[Hidden]

This is a very emotional time of year so to add in fertility treatment as well is mind blowing! For extra support take a look at fertilitynetworkuk.org - Learn about fertility scroll to Webinars and click link to our Youtubechannel to access " Coping at Christmas whilst trying to Conceive "

Take care

Janet-Partner

[Ree_Laine in reply to Hidden]

Thank you Janet for the link 💕I will take a look.

[HollyT7]

I did this and was gutted… he’s currently watching mr tumbles ….❤️

If it’s going to change, it can do that right up to otd… don’t lose hope xxxx

[Ree_Laine in reply to HollyT7]

Awwwwww this was such a lovely reply 💕💕mr tumbles! Bless him 🥹. Hearing that has given me such a boost, to know I’m not alone and to not count myself out this early. Thank you xx

[Christianbaby]

Hi! Sorry to hear about the stress you are going through. It's a bit early to be testing. So, I wouldn't say it's a NO at this point. Sending you lots and lots of good vibes for the testing day. Good luck. xx

[Ree_Laine in reply to Christianbaby]

Thank you for your reply and well wishes! 💕 The support has really giving me a lift and I’m ever so grateful for this forum. Have a lovely Xmas and new year xx

[HopefulSibling]

I was where you are just a week ago! I started testing at 7dp5dt hoping for a faint line...nothing at all until 9dp and that was so faint I still wasn't convinced. 10dp was even fainter than 9dp and I thought it must be a chemical. I asked my GP to do bloods at 11dp and 13dp and lo and behold HCG at 11dp was 189 and 13dp 505 so currently 4 weeks, 6 days pregnant with our one and only emby. Best of luck and baby dust to you!

[Ree_Laine in reply to HopefulSibling]

awww Congratulations 💕what a lovely and beautiful outcome. 🥹. and to hear it was your one and only emby like ours makes me hopeful Hearing successful stories ✨. I’ve promised myself to no longer test until the day now. My clinic asked that I email or call over with the results so I’m unsure if they book blood tests but a blood test would be nice and much more reassuring. Thank you for sharing your story and the well wishes. Wishing you a healthy pregnancy for you and baby xx

[Bookloverblue]

My clinic have said that my OTD is Christmas day (14dp5dt) and although I could test tomorrow at the earliest (as if it had been a 3dt) I could still get a false negative. I would try your absolute hardest to wait now until OTD. It's absolute agony and I can't imagine how upsetting seeing a negative test must be, but it's still early and completely possible that you could have a false positive. Sending you all the love and luck in the world xxx

[Ree_Laine in reply to Bookloverblue]

Oh bless you! Your OTD is so close to mine, a day apart. You have great will power to not be tempted to to test early and I do believe this was for the better and I should have done the same instead of having a wobble , it is agonising but we’re nearly there. I have my fingers and toes crossed for you on Monday. To go through such a turbulent journey of emotions with IVF we have come so far and is a testament to each person or couples strength as it isn’t easy. I pray and hope for the most beautiful and special gift you could imagine with a positive outcome. Good luck lovely and thank you for your well wishes xxx 💕