I wish so much I could have posted a positive outcome. It’s 5:30am and I’m lying here , quite numb. No tears at all, just emptiness. I had a feeling it was negative but was still hopeful. Thinking surely this must be our time?!
I find the hardest part now is telling my husband, breaking his heart too. His mum died the day we started this cycle so I even more so wanted to be able to give him this.
I’ll continue my meds till Friday . Then just get through Xmas.
I’m not going to decide too much over the next few weeks but in the new year figure out our next step. I think we will go once more …financially and mentally that’s all we can afford. So I’ll be back on here looking for all advice from protocols to clinics (think we need to change clinic) . Maybe even go abroad . This will be the last so we will throw everything at it .
I really thought having the laporscopy surgery and the steroids would be it this time. I’m 43 in Feb so reality of having to accept it may not happen is so sad .
I should know this but I forget, once I stop meds, approx how long for period to come?
Thank you to everyone for their support xxx
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😔 So sorry. I'm also here with a negative result just trying to get through Christmas so around if you need to chat. Probably you are worried about breaking your husband's heart and he will only be worried about yours breaking. ❤️ 2-3 days is usual for the bleed. I took my last round of medication on Wednesday morning and had my period when I woke up on Saturday. Just remember to be kind to yourself and get through the next few days as best you can xx
Thank you. I’m sorry for you also. It’s horrible. Very emotional morning, my husband is lovely which makes it even harder. But we will get through it together . Sending you a hug x
so sorry to read this. It’s totally heartbreaking and even more so at this time of year. I wish the outcome had been different for you. Sending you lots of love and hoping your next cycle is the one ✨
so so sorry, look after yourself and like you say, no need to make the next decision steps just yet. Just spend time together with your husband and look out for each other. I also had a negative recently, and found listening to a few certain podcasts really helped (feel free to DM me if you want the specific episodes). And I also booked a facial and me and my husband went out to a comedy night a week after which really helped lift our spirits doing something different. Sending you lots of love xx
Of course…. So my go to has been the ‘Big Fat Negative’ podcast. Loads of great episodes there, and the titles of each episode are great at helping you navigate which episode might be the most useful for the situation you’re in / stage you’re at. The other podcast I love, is ‘How to fail - with Elizabeth day’. It’s not a fertility specific podcast, but as the host herself has suffered with infertility, it often becomes a topic of conversation with her celeb guests. So 3 great episodes that I think are really helpful in raising the fertility conversation are below… (let me know if the links don’t work and I can let you know specific episode titles if so).
Heartbreaking @Rol81. I was keeping everything crossed for a positive result. I just don’t know what to say. I would test again on the OTD just in case.
I hope you have some time off work atm so that you can cry and process some of the sadness/grief/loss that you’re feeling inside. I know you wanted to have some good news to share with your husband going into the new year.
Hopefully you have time off over Xmas holidays too and you can start thinking of your next steps when you’re ready, so that next year is one of hope and success.
Thank you . I will throw myself into work now tbh and then rethink at Xmas and new year.
I will retest Friday but there wasn’t even a faint line today so I kinda know . I’ll do one last prontogest injection incase maybe . The thoughts of it knowing it’s for nothing though 🙄
so very sorry to hear this. It’s the worst feeling. Think it’s a great idea to take a beat. Please take lots of care of yourself right now. Sending you so much love ❤️
I’ve just had my 5th transfer fail so I’m right there with you 😢 I also thought a change to my protocol meant this was my time. It being “the most wonderful time of the year” somehow makes it worse too I think. I’m not sure I have any advice cause I am one to wallow and just lock myself away, but I just wanted you to know you’re not alone and here to chat if you need.
I am with a great clinic in Spain so happy to share details if you decide to explore that route x
I also tried steroids before transfer and thought that might be my magic ticket but no… Take care and pm me if you need to chat/rant/vent in the future x
Oh Rol81, I'm so so sorry to hear this. I know there's no words to make you feel any better, it's just devastating and cruel and unfair. Here to chat if it helps xxxx
so sorry for you and all the others going through the same. Take care of yourselves over the next few weeks, rubbish time (but is there ever a good time?!)
I'm so so sorry Rol81 😓 sending you all the hugs right now, especially as things have been difficult at home not relating to fertility. As you know allow yourself to feel all the feels if and when it comes. Know that you have the support on here whenever you need it - we all understand how hard it is and the emptying feeling that comes with a failed cycle. As others have said, be kind to yourself and try to do things that bring you some joy over the Christmas period if you can.
I can't remember exactly but I think my period came a few days after stopping progesterone, not sure if any other meds will prolong it xx
same here, got negative result yesterday, stopped med, painful period today lying in bed now can’t do anything mentally crashed, however still thinking how to go on next step, I wish you and all the sisters on this journey will have a wonderful success next year ❤️
I’m so sorry ….Its our 5th cycle so I’m really broken, I know we will try again but right not I feel like you do… just mentally exhausted 😞Happy to chat if you want xxx
Sorry to hear this, I had everything crossed for you. Like others have said, take some time to be sad and look after yourself. The festive season can feel very lonely, but remember we’re all here for you. Xxx
I’m so very sorry to hear read this. Good idea to take some time to breathe before deciding on the next steps. Wishing you lots of strength and love. Xx
So sorry to read this. It is a tough journey. I understand the emptiness and numbness. Hope you feel better soon and that the new year will be better. x
I’m so sorry this happened. If it lifts your spirits at all- I also had a negative just before Christmas in 2020 it was Christmas Eve actually 😢 but my next cycle the following spring worked, and the following Christmas my little boy was born 🥰 so try and keep positive for the next cycle. I 100% know how hard this time is but it can work and I have everything crossed that it comes true for you soon xxx
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