terrified stress is going to cause a miscarriage

[Systema23]

hi my fellow warriors

just needed to rant a bit I guess. I am terrified that I will lose this baby because if all the stress I am under.

my partner and I broke up part way through the last cycle due to his behaviour and treatment of me. He consented to me continuing because in his words, well it’s already paid for.

at this point he exhibited opinions that I do not agree with which were bigoted, classist and homophobic, and it was at that point that I decided I didn’t want him involved. I have always wanted my child to grow up knowing tolerance and inclusion, and feeling able to tell me anything. These views are the direct opposite of that.

He never came to any further appointments and I had to do my transfer alone. He doesn’t know I am pregnant, he said if I proceeded he didn’t want to know.

Out of the blue he is now refusing to sell the house just now because he thinks he will get a better price if he waits a few months and we are having lots of arguments, and at one point he became so aggressive I thought he was going to hit me and I had to threaten to call the police. He also told me if I was pregnant I better get rid of it. On top of that my uncle has just had a very bad stroke and is bedbound in hospital.

The reason for being in a rush to sell the house is twofold. Firstly, I will struggle to get a mortgage on my salary with a dependent and secondly I don’t really want to be moving either at the end of my third trimester or just after giving birth.

This might seem weird so early on but I don’t feel as pregnant today and am terrified of losing this baby after a miscarriage last year so I have decided to move in with my parents to get away from all the stress.

not really looking for advice just needed to let this all out

sending you all hugs and baby dust xxx

[CardiGrey]

Hi Systema23. That sounds beyond terrible what you’re going through. I’m not surprised you are worried as you are under a lot of stress and pressure. I’m glad you’ve been able to move to your parents and that you have a safe space for you and your growing baby. If you don’t mind me asking, how far are you? I’m only asking this because I’m thinking if there is anything you might be able to do at this stage to ease your mind and worries. Symptoms can come and go- this is a natural part of pregnancy. Regarding your property, there are lots of solicitors who offer one hour free legal advice. Maybe you could contact them? I’m sure everything is OK with your little miracle and I’m sure your parents will look after. Stay safe and if there are any further threats, you should still log it with the police x

[Systema23 in reply to CardiGrey]

Hi Catdigray.

I’m not far along at all. My transfer date was 21st November so just a few weeks so the hospital can’t check anything.

Thank you for the advice about solicitors and for the reassurance about the symptoms coming and going. I am going to ask for sone compassionate leave from work and get moving tomorrow if I can. Xxx

[Christianbaby]

Hi Systema23,

I am so sorry to hear everything you are going through right now. But, let me say Kudos to you for knowing when to leave a very toxic relationship! It's good to know you are able to move and stay with your parents - you need all the support you can get right now. I wish you all the best. Love and light xx

[PeppyMiller]

Hi Systema23,

I'm sorry you're going through this and can't fully enjoy the moment you've been waiting for, I can only imagine how stressful the whole situation has to be. But like Christianbaby said, you should be proud of yourself for walking away and doing what's best for you and your baby.

Hoping your little peanut is a warrior like their mama and you find the happiness I'm sure you deserve. Feel free to rant all you need x

[Systema23 in reply to PeppyMiller]

Thank you

I did a little test over lunch since I was panicking and all ok for now. I have got emergency leave from work for the next 2 days which I can use to move out and get myself settled for the time being. Xxx