Devestated - empty looking sac at 7 week scan

[CarlottaD27]

Hello,

I’ve had a whirlwind of a few weeks which included a totally unselected BFP following our last round of ovulation induction before moving to IVF in the new year.

Of course I was anxious but really thought this could be my lucky break and naturally got carried away imagining future baby.

Today I had my 7 week (I’m actually 6+6) scan and there was a sac, a very small looking fetus and no heartbeat. I was told it was almost certainly an empty / non viable sac and will go back in on Friday to confirm.

I’m still in the process of coming to terms with it all and can’t quite believe what I heard this morning. I’m not sure how to pick up and get my head round it. I can’t believe another “bad luck” incident had happened to me and it’s got me so worried should I ever get a BFP again. Ugh it just all seems so unfair on dark days like these! Xxx

[Bookbroad]

I’m so sorry. Just reaching out as this happened to me 2 weeks ago so I know how you feel. Do DM me if you need someone to talk to, otherwise be easy and patient with yourself. Xx

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hi CarlottaD. Oh my dear girl, what a cruel stroke of bad luck for you both. You’re going to somehow give yourself time to heal and get your feet to face forward again - you will. On a medical note, make sure your Fallopian Tubes are good and perhaps have a hysteroscopy to check your womb and lining out. I shall be thinking of you next week. Diane

[CarlottaD27 in reply to DianeArnold]

Thank you, Diane. I was actually scheduled to have a hysteroscopy the month I fell pregnant so cancelled it, so will get that booked in again. Feels like something a bit productive to do when everything else feels out of control!

[DianeArnold Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK in reply to CarlottaD27]

Xxxx

[Poppygarden]

I’m really sorry to read this. I had a similar experience in March as I was still testing positive at my 7 week scan, but there wasn’t a sac so I had already lost the embryo. There is nothing more devastating than going into the scan and it not going the way you wanted. I really hope the next week is kind to you. Sending love to you and bookbroad too xxx

[CarlottaD27 in reply to Poppygarden]

Thank you for your message. I’m so sorry you’ve been though this too and I really thought it was so rare, so it’s sad that quite a few of us have been through this. I hope you’ve managed to pick up and move on, as it’s a lot to process x

[CardiGrey]

Hi Charlotte. I’m really sorry to hear this. I’ve not long experienced the same and it is truly heartbreaking. I’m still finding it difficult to even identify or explain what the feelings are. My thoughts and prayers will be with you on Friday. Send healing energy x

[CarlottaD27 in reply to CardiGrey]

Thank you for your kind message and I’m so sorry you have been through this pain too. I had tried to reassure myself this kind of thing wouldn’t happen to me as the chances are low, yet it happens! I totally get what you mean about feeling hard to identify the feelings. I’m struggling to sleep or find peace as it feels very unresolved and incomprehensible. Sending hugs your way x

[CardiGrey in reply to CarlottaD27]

Thank you. I think it’s good to be positive as I was the same and tried to reassure myself also. When it happened to me, I was in such a state of disbelief. I still don’t think I’ve processed it properly. I was the same as I had to wait from Wednesday to the following Monday for another scan. It worst the wait and then had to go back the following Wednesday and last week Monday. I hope you have some supportive people around you who can comfort you during this time. It’s really not easy x

[Twiglet2]

I’m so so sorry 😢 I’m going through this too and it feels like time has stood still as we wait for a final outcome. I’ve had a few losses and heartbreaks before but this one just seems so cruel! I’m be had to distract myself for it all to get some sleep and less anxious as the more I think about it or google it etc the more I wind myself up! Sending you love and strength and hope you are one of the ones it does turn around for 🤗💜 xx

[CarlottaD27 in reply to Twiglet2]

Thank you lovely and I’m so sorry you’ve been through this multiple times, it’s so cruel and unfair. I too feel restless and seem to be turning to google for answers or solace or something! I’m prepared for the worst on Friday and my partners says to treat it as a three week “blip” - but it’s such an emotional rollercoaster! Sending you lots of love and strength too. Whilst I’d never wish this on anyone, I’m feeling a bit less alone and confused by it all to know I’m not the only one going through it x

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I am so sorry xx

[LaulD]

Hi Carlotta, I’m so sorry. I had an empty sac at my 8 week scan a few months ago so I know how you are feeling. Just wanted to let you know that you are not alone and there are many of us going through a similar journey. Sending you loads of love and support Xxx

[CarlottaD27 in reply to LaulD]

Thank you for sharing that and for your kind words. I’m so sorry you’ve been through this too, it feels so cruel and unfair and I’m surprised by how many women have had to face it. I’m taking a few relaxed days at home to try and reset. Wishing you the best going forward too x

[Fruitandflowers]

I'm sorry you're going through this. I had a similar experience earlier this year only we knew a little earlier from the HCG results that it wasn't going well. Still all the scans are hard, especially when you keep testing positive (and that can go on for quite some time). Hopefully the clinic will keep a close eye on you and support you through next steps but if you feel unwell, get pains or develop a temperature please see your GP or EPU. Concentrate on getting through each day for now but if it helps in any little way, just because this has happened once doesn't mean it will again. x

[CarlottaD27 in reply to Fruitandflowers]

Thank you for that. It’s true that it’s so hard when you keep testing positive and have all the pregnancy symptoms! I’m trying to take comfort in those words “just because this has happened once, doesn’t mean it will happen again” - that’s a really good reminder to try and not let all these negative experiences make me so fearful for the future x

[Hopewhite]

hi Carlotta, I'm very sorry that you're going through this. We had a MMC also found out at viability scan close to week 8, this was following an early bleeding scan at week 6 where they had found heartbeat and a hematoma, they warned me it could go either way, and said many pregnancies reach full term. So it was a complete shock to find out then. Please be kind to yourself and take one day at a time, it's an awful heartbreak to go through, so just focus on your recovery and allow time to heal back slowly, everything else can wait. What helped me was thinking that nature is wise, but it was very tough for a few weeks. I hope you have good support around you to help you bounce back from this, hopefully you'll come to terms with it on your own time, sending you a big hug xx

[CarlottaD27 in reply to Hopewhite]

Thank you for your message and I’m so sorry that you’ve been through this too recently - quite poignant that it’s baby loss week. I do hope that as you said this was nature’s choice and that the embryo wasn’t viable anyway. It’s cruel to be led alone! I hope you are doing okay and the worst of the miscarriage process is over x

[Hopewhite in reply to CarlottaD27]

Thanks Carlotta, this was in June/July, so I’ve had a bit of time to dust off and bounce back, now waiting to start medicines for FET. I hope you have a smooth process, as much as these things can be, my experience was a bit too long it took a month in overall, but I think that was just odd luck. I know this is too soon for you ,I’m not sure if you’d already know about it but there’s an implantation clinic part of Tommy’s in Warwick and you can self refer. We have decided to just try luck again with an FET, but this is definitely a plan B if the worst happens again. Also if you opt for surgical process I believe they can do tests. Sorry don’t want to seem too pragmatic, I do know it’s a tough time to go through and I hope you’re surrounded by love to get you through it xx

[CarlottaD27 in reply to Hopewhite]

I’m glad you’ve managed to make progress and hope having the upcoming FET gives you something to look forward to and focus on.

I’m in that tough stage having stopped progesterone and waiting to miscarry naturally, hoping it will happen asap as I want to be able to move on and make plans too!

Thank you for sharing the info on Tommy’s. I definitely find it helpful being pragmatic and knowing there’s a plan if I have a third early loss, totally get your pragmatism

Best of luck with the FET, it’s about time for some good luck! X

[Hopewhite in reply to CarlottaD27]

Thanks Carlotta , all the best of luck for you too! , I hope you get over the worst soon xx, look after yourself, big hugs x

[CarlottaD27 in reply to Hopewhite]

Thank you! Sending you hugs and strength and lots of luck too xxx

[Dragon80]

Hey Carlotta

I'm sorry to hear you are going through this, I totally feeling your pain after recently going through I similar situation I ended having a miscarried miscarriage at 7 weeks. I really hope your looking after yourself with good support as will be an emotional time. Sending you big hugs xx

[Dragon80]

Yeah its alot to take in, my situation dragged on for several weeks which made it worse. 🤞🏼we both can deal with this in the best way for ourselves ❤️xx

[AshleyJB]

Reading your post is like reading about my own life a year ago almost to the day. I'm so very sorry for your loss.

Take lots of time to grieve and be kind to yourself.

I'm now a year on and have had two rounds of IVF and have 8 embryos in the freezer.

Wishing you lots of love and luck for the future feel free to message me if you need someone to talk to that's been through what sounds like the exact same thing xxx

[CarlottaD27 in reply to AshleyJB]

Thank you for reaching out. Your eight embryos gives me hope! I am likely starting IVF soon with a diagnosis of very high AMH and suspected PCOS so may well message you as I can see youve been through similar x

[AshleyJB]

Sounds like we are similar! My AMH is 260 so like you very high! I'd lice to hear how you're getting on. Xx

[CarlottaD27]

thank you all for your heartfelt responses. I hope this question isn’t TMI but I was wondering how long it took to miscarry naturally (is that was the route you took) after stopping medication? I usually bleed two days after stopping cyclogest and since it’s nearing four days I’m getting impatient and wondering whether to ask for medication to speed things along x