Just a wee update- after finally getting 3+ on the clearblue at 5+5 i still didn’t feel things were ‘right’ even though I had no pain or bleeding and did have some symptoms so booked a private scan yesterday at 6+5
They couldn’t find anything on external so did an internal and they did find a very tiny sac with possible yolk sac but measuring more like 4-5 weeks so no fetal pole even when there should be a heartbeat and a much bigger sac etc. they thought they might be able to see some bleeding near the sac too.
I’ve called the clinic and waiting to hear back but the outcome is pretty conclusive form the scans .HP Tests are all really strong still (still say 3+!) and no bleeding so my body is obviously still hanging on even though embryo has stopped developing, which is probably the scariest part for me as normally my body tells me and deals with it naturally with an early loss so goodness knows what will happen next!
We are gutted as other than my ‘gut feeling’ everything was pointing to finally having some success with my over 40 eggs this time 😭
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Oh no I'm so sorry your scan wasn't more positive. Sometimes you can't see a heartbeat till 7 weeks . There is always early pregnancy assessment unit you ca. go if you don't from your clinic soon. . I hope they get back to you soon and manage to fit you in asap ❤️Xx
Thank you lovely. I think if there was just no heartbeat I would have had some hope but there was nothing at all really and having had scans with my wee boy at 5.5 and 6.5 I knew what it should look like and it was just too small with no activity at all 😢 I dont have any bleeding etc so no rush for EPU as all they could tell me really is the same as the private place so will wait for the clinic to call back and hopefully they will do some bloods to see if HCG is dropping now and hopefully things will happen naturally as I really don’t want any of the alternatives 🫣 xx
I'm so sorry. I've never scanned that early but as you have you know what to expect 🥲It must be such a terrible shock to you with no bleeding or cramps and tests are so strong 🥲 it doesn't make sense 🥲 Hope the clinic can at least offer clarity . It's so cruel and unfair. Been there a few times myself it ( 1 late loss and 3 early losses). I wish I had better words but thinking of you Xx
Thank you, nhs clinic have just said the same as the private place that the sac is far far too small with no fetal pole or activity but no signs of body letting go yet so I’ve to go back in a week and see if it happens naturally by then. They have confirmed that is the sac though in the right place so defo not ectopic etc. so I guess that’s a positive and I’m now under nhs care with familiar faces at least as the private place just made me feel awful! Xx
Oh I'm so sorry 🥲 it's such a shock when you think all is well ( we had that with our late loss) .the shock of it leaves you reeling. So glad you have a supportive team behind you now. I won't do private scans at all ever we don't trust them . I had one with our daughter Amelia who said everything was fine with her and 2 weeks later at 20 weeks she had died ( no signs or warning) . Then our last miscarriage ( I couldn't face a scan without my husband as Covid times & weren't allowing partners to early pregnancy unit) she was awful. She came up with lots of random theories that spun my head inside out. .. I call them baby photographers that's all they are they can't diagnose medical issues. Hopefully your body will deal with this soon so it's not too drawn out for you. With my MC had to go back and forth as they could not see a pregnancy luckily the HCG dropped and it was all over in a way it was a relief to have it come to a conclusion . I didn't find the bleeding at 7 weeks too bad it was like s heavy period ( I'm used to heavy cycles with endo!) But if you bleed a pad or more an hour seek medical assistance.
Forgive me if I'm wrong but did you say you had other losses? Some clinics will refer after 2 miscarriages with ivf to miscarriage specialist . They will be able to run tests for peace of mind. I'm not saying you would definitely find out the cause but it might put your mind at peace. I was referred after 3 in a row they didn't find anything including full post mortem on Amelia while we wanted reasons it also meant there was no reason another pregnancy couldn't be successful ( after that we had our rainbow Eliza sibling for our eldest daughter Francesca) They did allow me steroids which I had with Francesca but were banned during Covid. A miscarriage specialist would also give you 2 early scans with next pregnancy. It is brutal being pregnant after losses💔
I hope you have lots of support and do as much grieving as you need to 🥲💔 Xx
Thank you so much that is all really helpful info and thank you for sharing your own journey with me I know it must be tough to relive it 😥 I was thinking about asking for a referral or self referring this time although I think I know the answer will be that it is likely a chromosome issue with the embryo as im over 40 as I’ve been on clexane already in case of sticky blood and I’ve had extra progesterone and those levels were really good even a bit high this time. I had a loss before my little boy at about 6 weeks (embryo created when I was age 37) and then one quite early before Christmas last year and a chemical earlier this year. It was quite painful for an afternoon the very first one at over 6 weeks and I passed the sac really clearly and then the pain and bleeding went to normal period, the others have just been heavy periods so I’m prepared for both those situations. Totally not prepared if I need medical intervention though but glad I’m now with the right place to get that help if I need them 💜
I lost Amelia 3 years ago In November and I am a much better place than I was . It's probably having Eliza has helped tho we will never forget Amelia ( some days are tough but most days I am now able to live a normal life which in the early days I didn't think would be possible but I think she want that for her older and younger sisters).
Most of the tests I had with Amelia but miscarriage specialist did check blood clotting issues as well as thyroid full profile. The best thing is you get extra care in the next pregnancy- you get 2 early scans one at 7 weeks one at 9 weeks makes the early weeks a bit less daunting. I wound definitely get a referral when you feel ready to. Tommys have more tests which you can get a referral to ( I think their tests are more in depth) or could write the tests and see if the NHS miscarriage specialist thinks they are suitable for you 🤗 Tommys have lots of useful information on testing 🤗 I like tommys 😊losing a baby isn't "just one of those things" and they are changing attitudes 👏🏻I think it's such a shame ladies have lose 3 babies to get help my ex fertility specialist thought it was cruel and would refer after 2 ( sadly he retired as we had our first daughter) he was a great man a real humanitarian 🤗
I hope it isn't too awful physically tho I know with loss the emotional side of a pregnancy loss takes much longer to recover from 💔🥲 Sorry you've had to go through this too many times. It's awful when it's one after another 💔🥲 Take care and come back fighting when you feel ready 🤗Xx
So sorry to hear that! I know the feeling. I’m nearly 41 and had a negative this morning after 9 months process as I had a endometrium polyp removal half way through the treatment which prolonged it. Sending you lots of hugs xx
I’m so sorry to read this post Twiglet! That is so heartbreaking and sending you and your family lots of love. Hope that the clinic get your hcg tested quickly and you get a definitive answer as soon as possible. Xxxx
Yes I know exactly how you feel I honestly do as I’ve been through it. You know it will get better. The only thing that makes it better is time and lots of communication (when you’re ready) be it with partner, friends, counsellor etc xx
Yeah defo I said the same we have so much to be grateful for in our lives we will need to focus on that and work through it together (no one else knows we are going through IVF again since our wee boy)
My wife does make me laugh though she suggested couples yoga might help earlier 🫣🙄🤣 she’s been trying to sell me this idea for years 🤷🏻♀️ I dont know why she thinks that’s what I’m up for right now 🤪 but did me make smile tho!
Thank you, I think that’s the hardest part when your body is still hanging on 😢 it does help to hear I’m not alone though and others have been here and made it through xx
I’m so sorry. I’d seen your recent posts and had a similar timeline to yours also testing positive around the same time as you. I went for a scan yesterday and was told it was a blighted ovum. Booked in for a D&C Monday. I’m reaching out just to say you’re not alone and to offer an understanding ear if you need it. No one can say anything helpful or comforting right now I know, but I’m around if you need to speak to someone who gets it. Take care of yourself xx
Aww gosh I’m so so sorry 😢 thank you so much for reaching out it really does help to hear we are not alone as it can feel a really lonely time I really appreciate that xx
I’m so, so sorry to hear this. I’m going through this myself and I never imagined it would be so difficult. I wish I had more words of comfort to offer but there really is no feeling like this. The only solace there is is time, and even then it’s just learning to live with the pain. I truly hope you have the best family and friends to support you at this time. You’ll be in my prayers. 🙏🏾
hi Twiglet, so sorry to hear your distress. Did the sonographer not offer to give another follow up scan. At 6w4 days they saw nothing in my scan just an empty sac and even said I was going to have a miscarriage and to stop all meds. Thank god I didn’t I went the following week and everything was there.
Thank you, yeah they offered a rescan in 2 weeks but I’ve got in touch with my clinic who are getting me in tomorrow . If it was an empty sac or no heartbeat etc it might have had some hope but the sac was just too small it had clearly stopped growing bit my body had hung on to it so not sure on next steps so would prefer to just go to the clinic for that xx
Hi Twiglet2, just wanted to message after reading your post and say I'm sending you lots of hugs, I was thinking of you last few weeks and hope you're doing ok xxx
Oh I’m sorry to hear that, thinking of you. My sister has went through something similar so I know how devastating you will both feel. I have everything crossed for you and hope you hear some positive news soon xx
💔Beyond devastated when I saw your message pop up! Really had everything crossed for you. So so sorry 😢 there are no words to make this any better! Hope you’re ok & get in to clinic asap. Hope they can monitor your bloods. Sending all my love and hugs. This constant rollercoaster of a fertility journey is a very cruel one. Take care of yourself, cry lots & hug your wee boy and Mrs. Big hugs 🥰 always here xxx
Hey lovely 😊 how are you getting on? I’m doing okay thank you, still in the ‘waiting for something to happen on its own’ stage I went back for a follow up scan on Friday where I thought we would be discussing options on how to tell my body what’s happening but a very small fetal pole and heart beat that was very slow had appeared in the sac (all weeks behind so not viable beyond a miracle) but that’s why my body isn’t miscarrying as the the embryo is still developing just too slow! They can’t move to next steps as nothing has stopped or gone backwards so they can’t diagnose a miscarriage more waiting and another scan on Friday 😢 it’s such a slow painful few weeks that feels like time has stood still but is also racing ahead somehow! 🤪 xx
Awww I’m so sorry. Did they say there is any hope for it to be ok and continue developing? What a time for you all. Even worse having to have it drawn out. Hope you’re ok. Thinking of you xx
he just said there has been some development so I can’t diagnose misscariage today, and I had to be cautious with what o read into the development. he wanted me back in 2 weeks but I asked for just the one week as it’s truly torture! Feel like someone has hit the pause button on my life! I’ve booked a holiday for December for the 3 of us to help us get over it all though so at least something g is moving forward xx 🤗
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lots of virtual hugs. I hope you’re ok. Hope it’ll all be smooth and quick for you xxx
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