9dp5dt BFN

[Here4ivfinfo]

Decided to do an early detection pregnancy test to put myself out of my waiting misery. BFN. I feel okayish about it. I did one last night and I felt very little other than “I knew it hadn’t worked but I will check that in the morning”. This morning I had a weep and then I just thought “No. it’s your first attempt, it wasn’t statistically likely to work on first attempt. It’s just a process and even if you never have a baby you will make good of your life.” I imagine I will keep switching between these modes over the coming days. I’m only meant to test on day 14 so I will retest but I am going along with the result I currently have. I will keep up with my meds but wish I didn’t have to. My thinking now is: “is it just one of those things or was my partners sperm not good enough? Are my eggs good enough? Do I have blocked Fallopian tubes? Is my womb hospitable? What can we do to make the next one stick if anything?” I think the not knowing is the hard part. Xx

[BabyDust23]

Hi hope you’re okay. Im sorry that you have got a bfn, the tww is awful and it’s so hard to wait to test, I’m currently 3dp5dt. However I have read some people not get their BFP until 11dpt! Test again in a few days as you planned, I’ll have my fingers and toes crossed for you that it’s a different result 🩷 Xx

[Here4ivfinfo in reply to BabyDust23]

Thank you. I hope yours works and that you’re handling the waiting okay. I am glad I tested early. I have already mentally come up with a plan of action 😂. It’s mad that on the NHS you don’t get to speak to anyone for 2-3 months.

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

Hard to do but best wait for OTD before retesting Make sure using 1st pee of the day as this is the most concentrated so ideal for testing Try to keep yourself busy - eat well - drink plenty and rest when you can And keep taking meds as instructed

Thinking of you

Janet-Partner

[Here4ivfinfo]

thank you for this advice, it’s very kind of you xx

[Keepingfaith85]

Ahhh sorry to hear about your BFN. You have honestly done so well, just think of everything that you have been through to get to this point. You are right that statistically it is unlikely to work on first attempt but it’s so hard to get that crushing disappointment. Just remember you are one step closer and doing everything you can. Be gentle with yourself the next few days. You sound like a very strong person but it’s a lot to go through and juggle xx

[Here4ivfinfo]

It is a lot to go through but I think when you have been through a lot worse you kind of trust in your ability to carry on a bit more. I’m sad but I am still hopeful and I can see the bigger picture x

[Keepingfaith85 in reply to Here4ivfinfo]

That’s a really great outlook. I’m sorry you’ve been through worse. It was the same for me and it certainly gives you something else to focus on. Wishing you all the best! X

[Emilioh31]

ah sorry to hear that, I was hoping you’d say the 🩸 was implantation. I agree with others about testing OTD but I understand why you think it’s probably not your cycle. The first cycle is the worst as I think it’s the one where you hope you might be the lucky one who falls first time. You are strong enough to get here though, you’ve made it this far and you can do it again (when/if you decide you’re ready). Best of luck whatever you decide x

[Here4ivfinfo in reply to Emilioh31]

I’m already ready for round two 😂. As soon as the nhs comes back round to me I will be keen to go again. I definitely thought maybe I would be lucky because it was male factor infertility but I have been told I might have adenomyosis so I do wonder a bit about that and will maybe question that. I think it’s hard when you don’t have a really strong reason to work with like “it was just a faulty blastocyst” or “your womb is inhospitable” 😆. I like a definite answer. I will retest and update if I am wrong.

[Emilioh31 in reply to Here4ivfinfo]

That’s great news! Well done for picking yourself up so quickly ☺️ but do also give yourself time to be mad/upset/disappointed as that’s fine too. Also remember there is still actually hope until your OTD.

[PinkPanther1234]

So sorry it did not work for you this time. We always hope to be one of the lucky ones it works for first time, but in reality the vast majority of us are not successful on the first attempt. It's great you have more on ice, FETs do seem easier on the body in my experience. Look after yourself for now and plan lots of nice things for you and your partner to look forward to x

[Here4ivfinfo]

Yeah, I really hoped I’d be a lucky one. Especially when they initially collected 22eggs and 19 fertilised and made it to day 3! Things looked very in our favour. Now I do keep thinking “gosh maybe it really won’t ever happen for us” but I am trying not to entertain those thoughts. Thanks for your support. X

[PinkPanther1234 in reply to Here4ivfinfo]

I remember the feeling well. Sounds very similar to me in terms of amount of eggs collected, I had 3 egg collections and got around that figure for each one. Fresh transfers never seemed to agree with me. My husband also had low sperm count. My 5th transfer was the lucky one for me, I now have my beautiful twins.

You will get there, try to stay positive though I know its hard. X

[Crie1983]

I’ve been thinking of you since your last post. Sorry to hear this.

You sound like you’ve got a great mindset about it al which is incredible as I know it’s so hard to stay positive.

I’m praying you get your BFP in the not too distant future. Xx

[Here4ivfinfo in reply to Crie1983]

Thank you ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Here4ivfinfo in reply to Crie1983]

I’ve just read your bio to see where you’re at. It sounds like you’ve been on a real journey. I hope you get very lucky soon 🍀

[Crie1983 in reply to Here4ivfinfo]

Thank you. Pregnancy blood test on Friday for me 😬. Xx

[Here4ivfinfo in reply to Crie1983]

Oh wow! 🤞🏻

[scotchegg]

Your attitude sounds like mine. I think it's a good way to self-protect. My first, fresh cycle failed but I'm currently pregnant following the frozen transfer that followed 4 months later. Stay philosophical! If all is ok with you, the chances of a baby once embryo transferred are actually the same as with natural conception in people without fertility problems. In every round therefore the odds get a bit better so hopefully onwards and upwards x

[Here4ivfinfo in reply to scotchegg]

Congratulations on your pregnancy! I am hoping that round 2 is the one that sticks because it’s a frozen but I guess any of the transfers could be the one and you just have to keep going. Did you do anything differently between round one and round two in terms of meds or lifestyle?

[scotchegg in reply to Here4ivfinfo]

Thank you, the anxiety continues as I await scans etc!Nope, didnt do anything different whatsoever, think it was just luck of the draw x