Am I being crazy?

[Kmcdon]

I think I might be being crazy! So today my 5th DE transfer earlier today and I’m convinced already it’s over. I know that sounds stupid but every time I’ve had a BFN I’ve had a migraine afterwards. Today I had a migraine before I even had the transfer. They gave me some paracetamol at the clinic but it didn’t shift it.

I do normally get migraines which are connected with my cycle. One normally just after mid cycle and one a couple of days before my period. Had one before last week I think and they have always been connected to my hormone levels.

I feel pretty nauseous and my head is really sore. I could blame a late night (flight was delayed), not eating very much and being dehydrated but I just have a sinking feeling. I know I’m maybe being premature but I do know my body. I don’t think I’ve had a migraine before transfer but I am just at my wits end. For those of you who know my story will get how stressed I feel. Last BFN cycle I woke in the night with headache. The times I’ve got BFP (which later needed in miscarriage) I felt like I was getting a migraine but it didn’t come to anything

I’m not sure why I’m posting, probably just need a bit of support or advice l I will continue medication but already feeling hopeless. The clinic seemed happy with transfer and said progesterone levels good.

[OurMiracleBabies]

Hey Dear, I hear your reasons for your thoughts.

But surely, that's too quick for any assertions, right ?

I am taking it is a medicated transfer, therefore, your natural hormones levels aren't what is being relied upon, but that the meds will step in.

Sending you best wishes, and hope you get to tell us in a few days how crazy you were for thinking this 😜

[Kmcdon in reply to OurMiracleBabies]

Thank you. I’m just really fed up. I haven’t had a migraine starting before transfer but I always get on after if BFN. I’m going to carry on with medication etc but not hopeful. I think migraine is starting to go but that’s the same as my last cycle. Thanks for replying! Xx

[Luce_16]

Hey darling,

You are NOT crazy! We're on the same boat. I had my transfer 8 days ago (no symptoms at all 😔) and I am feeling hopeless. The clinic keeps telling me to wait and be positive but it's so hard. TWW is torture!

Just remember... It is too early to know - the headache could depend on hormones, tiredness, a bit of anxiety, who knows... Try to stay positive, sending you good energy!

[Kmcdon in reply to Luce_16]

Thank you!! 😘 Totally relate! I think there could be lots of reasons for headache (was tired etc) but I think my past experience tells me not good news. Trying to get myself out of this negative mindset and buck up my ideas - as you say so hard! Sending lots of love and luck to you too! 💕

[Ewf1]

It's probably a stress headache. Far to early to tell. You are pregnant until proven otherwise. Try to watch things that make you laugh and feel positive. The 2ww is awful 😖 I feel for you. Baby wishes to you xx

[Kmcdon in reply to Ewf1]

Aw thank you so much for your kind message. It really helps. I think it’s because it has happened previously with BFN whereas with BFP it hasn’t to the same extent. I’m trying my hardest to stay positive. Xx

[minnesota_girl]

I'm sorry for the stress, I understand how hard this stage is, especially if you've gone through it multiple times already. I was second guessing myself all over the shop. I think at least for today try and think about the fact that implantation wouldn't have happened yet so it's really still in limbo - hasn't worked, but hasn't failed either.

I will cross everything for you 💕💕

[Kmcdon in reply to minnesota_girl]

Thank you so much for your reply. I am so clueless about it even though I’ve been through it so many times I wasn’t sure when implantation happened! That helps. I’m so up and down with it all, one minute positive, then next negative with a bit of distraction time in between!! Xx

[minnesota_girl in reply to Kmcdon]

Totally reasonable for your experience xx

The days will pass 💕💕

[IAAM21]

Agree, the two week wait is mental hell. I've tried before to be positive but its so hard. If you can find a place of neutral than negative. Yes you know your body but it can do weird things at this time. It's a bit hippy but maybe talk to your body, know that its doing its best and all that it can. I found writing really helpful. There is a podcast by Gabriel nerstein called the universe has your back. It may not give you all your desires but I found it useful. Talk to your support systems, friends this group. I really really am wishing you all the best. I've been there 3 times and know how it feels. Xxx

[Kmcdon in reply to IAAM21]

Thank you. I think I’m getting to a more neutral space. Xx

[HollyT7]

I resigned myself to the fact that it hasn’t worked….with both my boys. Fingers crossed for you x

[Kmcdon in reply to HollyT7]

Thank you! I’m almost at the stage where it’s easier to think it will be negative so will be great if it’s positive. Fingers crossed it’s the same for me as it was for you! Xx