Couldn’t make this up

[Alwaysbelieving]

It’s the night before my first double embryo transfer tomorrow (which will be our 7th transfer) 2 Chemicals so far and 4 BFN’s. I have literally just injected and a WhatsApp ping comes through with a video of my sister in law’s two toddlers holding scan photos working out what this means and if there’s a baby in mummy’s tummy! These announcements really nail the timing don’t they!! I’m sat here crying wondering how the hell I expect my transfer to work tomorrow when nothing has changed in the protocol. I recently had a d(eft) which came back as inconclusive and was told to do another transfer and if it doesn’t work to go back for a re-test…there was a discrepancy with the timing. What an absolute sucker punch. Why is this so hard and unfair!? Just when I felt like I was doing okay too…

[Hidden]

Try keep your head up! Youve got this! Just try to remember while it’s a punch to hear this news their baby and their story will never be yours! Try focus on yourself! That’s what I have been doing and spend more time convincing myself this than anythin but I hope it may help you! Best of luck in your transfer x

[Alwaysbelieving in reply to Hidden]

Thank you that does help. I just hate feeling these emotions and then hate myself even more for feeling that way x

[Hidden in reply to Alwaysbelieving]

don’t be mad at yourself we all feel them! It’s completely normal be kind to yourself! ❤️ I hope the transfer went well today x

[Daisy-Delilah]

I’m so sorry- it’s so difficult hearing others peoples news when you’re going through this. I don’t really have any advice but wanted to send love and hugs.

I hope all goes well. I’m thinking positive for you! Fingers crossed 🤞🏻💕 xxx

[Alwaysbelieving in reply to Daisy-Delilah]

Thanks so much x

[ttcsolomummytobe]

Hi, I'm so sorry to hear this, sometimes the timing part almost feels the worse, we know other people will be getting pregnant and it all appears so easy but it is that hit of timing.

A friend of mine who wasn't trying (and opening said she didn't want a child yet) found out she was 8 weeks pregnant just as my first IUI failed and she called me to ask to explain the pregnancy tests and what the next steps were. It was heartbreaking, she has now had her baby (he was 2 weeks 2 days late, which dropped on the day of my IVF baseline scan, purposely delayed it to after baby was due to try minimise too much emotions) and although we had a chat about it before she was due and I felt liked I'd prepared myself the constant influx of pics on Insta stories and the odd ones she's sent through/info she gives all just feel so hard hitting to the point I have muted her on Insta and even logged out of it and muted and archived her WhatsApp chat. Although the hurt to you is done from this message that was sent maybe this is worth doing while going through this difficult time, for any future unexpected announcements/updated.

I only check it when I'm feeling in a good/strong position, or sometimes even look at at my WhatsApp photo album first to see the pic she's sent and then read the info later.

It's hard because she could be telling me that a newborn baby is brutal/lacking sleeping/struggling in everyway possible and I think there would still be a part of me that wants to scream "I'd do anything for that!"

As others have said, to trying to focus on yourself and sending big hugs and positive thoughts for this next transfer 🩷 x

[Alwaysbelieving]

Thank you I totally get the ‘I’d do anything for that’ and sorry to hear your experience too. I have deactivated my Instagram and Facebook accounts which has helped me a lot but that’s a good tip for WhatsApp. You are so right about the timing more than the announcement itself or for timing of tests etc. just worked out our test day will be Father’s Day and my last test fell on my birthday (which was a BFN) Really hope our transfer today is the one but 🤷🏼‍♀️ Wishing you luck on your journey too x