Another emotional Day

[Dragon80]

Hi Everyone

I’m day 4 post egg transfer, has been my worse day so for being emotional during my whole IVF journey .

I’ve spend most of the day crying, which was triggered with a run in with my sister. Feel like now I’ve stressed myself too much & ruined my chance of my embryo implanting.

Anyone else feel like this x

[DreamingOfTwo79]

Hello, I am very sorry you are feeling so fragile at the moment. Hope you have some support around you that you can lean on. If it is any consolation, I just went through a FET and had the most stressful time at work with very little sleep for a good week post the transfer but my embryo safely implanted anyway and I am currently just shy of nine weeks pregnant. Like you, I was worried sick that my emotional and mental state, never mind the physical exhaustion from all the meds and rushing around was going to impact my chances but I do strongly believe that while having a positive mindset and feeling calm and relaxed in the 2WW might be the ideal scenario for some, the reality is often that life goes on around us and not everyone has the luxury to carve out quiet me-time around transfer, nature will do what nature will do! I hope you and your sister will reconcile in time, please don't be hard on yourself, you will be feeling very hormonal and transfer time is what we're all working so hard towards, of course you will be feeling extra tense and things can easily spiral. Take a deep breath, maybe go for a walk, treat yourself to something nice, whether that's a food treat or a film at the cinema, anything that will make you happy. The 2WW is the hardest time for anyone on this journey, we're all here to support each other, you've got this, lovely! Much love, keep up the faith! x

[Dragon80 in reply to DreamingOfTwo79]

Hey

Thanks for your kind words, yes all fine with my sister thanks only a small fall out. Wow great news for your pregnancy, hope it goes smoothly for you. Yeah I’ve got a good network of support, not sure they understand sometimes the pressure of IVF as I’m 43 next week so probably my only chance.I’m doing daily walks & trying to sleep during the day but yes your right life doesn’t always stay calm & quiet. Good luck xx

[TopGuntastic]

I found 4dp5dt really difficult for some reason too but back to feeling more positive again now. A mixture of excitement and nerves, as I’ve been the full journey!

Sharing this as I hope it helps you feel more optimistic that how you feel today will pass ✨☺️💗

[Dragon80 in reply to TopGuntastic]

Thanks I really appreciate your kind words.I’m not very good at being positive but I’m trying as it’s the first time I’ve been though IVF & seems first time doesn’t seem very successful. I’ll try very hard to be more upbeat in the following days. 🤞🏼

Good luck with your journey too

[Positive20]

Hi Dragon. My 5th transfer that failed I reacted like this, cried non stop the day after the transfer then few days later cried again (rang fertility network just to speak to someone). It was like I couldn’t deal with putting myself through it again. Xx big hugs xX

[Dragon80 in reply to Positive20]

Hey Positive

Thanks for your kind words, I’m just finding the emotional side hard as I’m not really one for crying. I’ll keep trying be positive as test next week 🤞🏼. Hope your journey goes well xx

[Positive20 in reply to Dragon80]

Thank you, I’m actually pregnant but it took 6 transfers to get there! Yes I am usually not emotional even when things haven’t gone right with the IVF but I was crying a lot through my 5th transfer, it just felt like I’d put myself through too much. You will get there just be kind and look after yourself xx

[Dragon80 in reply to Positive20]

wow that’s great news congratulations. I hope so as it’s my first round, fresh transfer plus we got one frozen emybro which limits me. I’ll try my best too be kind xx

[Weareback2]

Stress and being upset honestly has no link to weither it will work or not. It is purley down to luck! I had a round in july and was on holiday during tww, did lots of lovely things and started bleeding really heavily so new it hadn't worked. Had a FET the day after my dads funeral in november. Was literally on the bed, crying talking about the funeral to the staff with my feet in stirrups as they put the embroy back in me. Can laugh about it now, but was so emotional/embarrassing at the time and was obviously emotional over the tww....i am currently 30 weeks pregnant. So honestly it is just down to the embroys etc! All the best of luck.

[Dragon80 in reply to Weareback2]

Thanks for the advice, wow you’ve had an emotional journey. I think I was really emotional yesterday but seem abit calmer today just trying to keep busy & positive.

Best of luck

[Beeswax79]

How you are feeling will have no impact on any result, the best embryo has been placed in the best place possible and will do what it's got to do.

I did multiple attempts and the one that stuck was when j was most stressed having lost my father not long before.

[Dragon80 in reply to Beeswax79]

thanks for your advise, glad to hear your good news. I’m just trying to keep busy & positive 🤞🏼