Donor embryo, eggs or OE? 🤔

[TeddyBear5]

I’m 43. AMH 9.8, cycled in Nov 22 with OE. 8 eggs, 8 fertilised. 2 blastocysts not PGTA. I have transferred both one fresh, one frozen and both BFN.

My FS says I’ve got 5-10% change of a pregnancy with OE but 80% with DE.

We use donor sperm due to male factor.

What would you do??? My husband not keen on another OE cycle due to cost and low odds.

He’s open to embryo donation and egg donation depending on cost.

I’ve got a 7 year old son from ICSI.

thanks all!

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

For more information about donor eggs take a look at hfea.gov.uk Treatments and scroll to Using a donor

Good luck for the future

Janet

[TeddyBear5 in reply to JA-fnuk]

thanks Janet. I’m actually in Perth, Western Australia so different but similar rules etc here.

[Kmcdon]

I’ve done both DE and donated embryo. PM me if you want any more details about clinic used etc. Good luck!

[TeddyBear5 in reply to Kmcdon]

thank you! I did consider overseas but I think I’m going to stay in Aus and look at local options first - or there is a company that ships eggs from Europe.

[Kmcdon in reply to TeddyBear5]

I’m sorry I have no clue, I’m in the UK. Good luck. Xx

[Ivfgotadream]

it’s a very personal decision but I would say since you are already using donor sperm and have an older child presumably who is biologically both yours and your partners then I don’t think I would go down the egg donor route and would continue with own eggs

[TeddyBear5 in reply to Ivfgotadream]

🙏 thanks. We used donor sperm for my son as my husband doesn’t produce sperm.

I would love to keep trying my own eggs but it’s an expensive option for an unlikely reward … just can’t decide! Going to another clinic for a second opinion.

[Positive20]

This is really only a question that you can answer and depends on a lot of factors….

1. Depends on financially whether you can afford further cycles with your own eggs and if it failed whether you would look at double egg donation or happy to end the ivf journey there

2. Depends on whether you feel well enough to carry on with cycles that could continue to fail (no guarantee with either despite 80% with DE) or whether you want to try another option with a better success rate.

3. Depends if you are happy to use DE. Counselling can offer help with making this decision. Having children isn’t all down to biologically and genetics it’s more than that but people have different preferences as to whether they have children through adoption, DE and DS, it’s a very individual decision.

[Bonaire12]

Hey

I’m in a similar situation by the sounds of if. I’ve had 2 cycles and not positives yet. Consultant gave 10% chance with my eggs and 50% with DE!! Husband would go DE without question, as he sees what I’m going through and ultimately the end goal we want is a baby. I have to admit, I’m not adverse to DE and I’m also tempted now just to go straight for them, although I think we will probs have one more shot at mine ( we have appointment on Monday with consultant as have done a load of bloods etc to do all baseline tests again) so guess we will know more then. Sorry more much advice from me, but I feel your predicament! X

[TeddyBear5 in reply to Bonaire12]

thanks for your reply. We are progressing with donor embryos - fingers crossed!

[Bonaire12 in reply to TeddyBear5]

Best of luck to you!! 🙏💕 x