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Hello, wondering if anyone else is having a transfer this week and want to try keep each other sane? We have a FET today following our fourth egg collection. This is our one and only embryo from this cycle (we did an elective freeze) so feels like the stakes are quite high, but we’ve been here before and I know we can survive whatever the outcome. A quick TMI peasant question… I’m on 2x400g cyclogest vaginal pessaries. I had to take my pessary before 8am this morning but then had a bowel movement shortly after and I feel like a LOT of the pessary came out then…. I feel a bit worried that it will impact my progesterone levels at a critical time. I’ll talk to the clinic about it later but any advice? Xx

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1418rose

Me I'm having mine today at 12pm I'm currently sat in the train station car park debating a coffee I'm booked in for 12pm my clinic is in London... its so much easier to jump on the train than the manic roads xx sorry no advise on the pesseries side if things I feel I loose alot of my pesseries anyway either on panty liner or when I wipe after a wee I do lay down for the 20 mins after pesseries like my consultant told me too.. I took my daughter to school then went home for my nervous poop before heading to the train station and I had my pesseries at 6am so about 2 and half hours just hope enough asorbed xxx good luck today xxx oh and if you have been on the pesseries for a few days I started mine Wednesday along side prontogest injection every 3 days so I'm sure you will be fine xxx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

ooh good luck! Mine is at 11.15. I just got super stressed as I had miscalculated the time difference for an important work meeting that I thought was this afternoon but turned out to be at 9am so I’m now totally flustered and can feel my stress levels are super high so now I’m all worried about being so stressed before the transfer 😭

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1418rose in reply to lmno

Take 5 minutes breath and grab a cuppa, and try to calm down before transfer I'm sure a little stress wouldn't effect it but it just makes you feel a bit pants xx

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Annbiel in reply to 1418rose

I'm on 7DP5Dt at 'work' = who am i kidding, i'm like frozen staring at the screen not being productive and reading this forum, as what else would i be reading... Just read your comment and giggled out loud at the nervous poop part as I can relate to that so bad 😆. Good luck with your transfer! xxx

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lmno

thank you that’s exactly what I have done! Wishing you all the best with your transfer x

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butterfliez

wishing you the best of luck for your transfer today & also good luck 1418rose best of luck for your transfer too 🤞hope you both have a calm & quick two week wait

I have my frozen transfer booked for Wednesday, last embryo from 3rd egg collection. Hopefully we can all keep each other sane in the wait x

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lmno in reply to butterfliez

thanks - it was all very straightforward which is good so now just a waiting game. Wishing you all the best for your transfer on Wed! Xx

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lmno in reply to lmno

Thinking of you today butterfliez x

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Rebecca2022

Hi Imno! On my transfer day the midwife of my clinic always says no to put the progesterone pessary in the morning as they will put it in after they’ve done the transfer and that varies a lot, as we are all given an appointment “in the morning” and then the embryo can be transferred at 10, 11 or 12 according to how busy they are and how many pick up’s they have that day.! So I wouldn’t say the timing and grade of absorption of the pessary that day really counts ;).

By the way, I’ve asked my consultant to skip to insert them rectally as I find it less uncomfortable (almost no discharge on my panties) and she agreed!

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Rebecca2022

Best of luck on your transfer, I hope your embryo sticks 🌸!

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1418rose

Well thats it now its the dreaded 2ww mine was so lovely and straight forward sending all u lovely ladies lots of baby dust xxx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

So glad it went well! Hope you have some lovely distractions planned x

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1418rose in reply to lmno

Awww I hope you have too... I've got some cross stitch I've been wanting to do so I guess now is the perfect time xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

Oh that sounds lovely. I'm planning on burying myself in work!

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SianieShorts

good luck to you. My FET is booked for Thursday. Feeling very nervous, not very positive and progynova has made me feel like rubbish 😩. Wishing you a speedy 2ww xxx

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lmno in reply to SianieShorts

oh sorry to hear that. I found the first week or so of progynova awful. Hope you begin to feel a bit better and wishing you all the very best for your transfer on Thursday 😊 x

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2cherry79

Mine today in London at 2pm! Last embryo and last chance

Solo mum but called a friend last night and she's coming along as I'm tired of doing them alone.

God I wish I could nervous poop! The constipation on these drugs is chronic!!

I'm sure all ok with the pessaries!

Best of luck everyone. I'll be back to check in soon no doubt!

X

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lmno in reply to 2cherry79

oh wishing you all the luck in the world. So glad you’ve got some moral support for the transfer. Haha loving that this thread has become half transfer buddy support/ half poop related updates 🤣🤣🤣

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Mrsjaytee

hi… I transferred our embryo yesterday too. This is cycle no.5 for us & our 4th transfer. It’s our last embryo & last attempt for a sibling for our little girl who was also IVF.

We have been told we only have a 20% chance as our embryo was pga tested & came back as a high level mosaic, however, there is still a chance.

Hope you are feeling good today & resting up xx

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lmno in reply to Mrsjaytee

oh that sounds so similar to us. This is round 4 for us and our 5th transfer and we’re also hoping for a sibling for my wee girl who was conceived through ICSI and born in 2020. We’ve also been given low success rates due to egg quality issues but not had this embryo tested (our last embryo too). I have a bit of an intense work day but I’m actually kind of grateful for the distraction - I don’t do too well with too much time to think! My blood test is Wed 29th but I’ll probably test at home on Monday. Wishing you all the best for this round and hope we can help to keep each other sane!

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2cherry79 in reply to Mrsjaytee

Similar to me too. Last attempt at a sibling for my little girl. Very difficult. Was so lucky the first time with my daughter. I thought in 4 embryos I'd be ok. Fingers crossed for this last one. Best of luck to you!

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Mrsjaytee

Definitely.

We don’t get blood tests, just been told to do a home urine test on 2nd April.

Keep trying to remember how I felt each day with previous ones but I can’t remember.

Our daughter was born in 2021. She is keeping me busy today lol

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Kclaxton89

my transfer is on Thursday …. I’m a surrogate and this will be our third and final attempt … I’m a little nervous but those last embryos they got from a new donor and tested they all came back high quality grade 4 AA and this time on top of the progesterone and estrogen I’m on a blood thinner and steroid shot …. Also trying acupuncture I’m really hoping this baby sticks

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lmno in reply to Kclaxton89

oh that’s a beautiful thing to do for someone 🧡 wishing you all the best for Thurs x

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1418rose

How you feeling today lmno x

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

yeah ok thanks, been travelling for work today so a bit tired but no time to overthink things which is good! Feeling weirdly chilled about everything so far. How are you doing?

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1418rose in reply to lmno

Yeah I'm doing good, got a bit of a nasty headache today.... and dreading half hour time as gotta have progesterone in oil jab 😭 and they hurt so much... xx

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2cherry79 in reply to 1418rose

The bottom ones?? They are no fun at all! Hoping for no phone call in the morning to say I need those too!

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1418rose in reply to 2cherry79

That's the ones they blooming hurt my husband tries to be gentle bless him but doesn't matter how gentle he is they hurt xxx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

Oh ouch that doesn't sound fun. I've only ever done pessaries which aren't the most pleasant but have got used to them. Hope tonight's injection went ok and you have a good rest x

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2cherry79 in reply to 1418rose

Warrior! They are not easy. I'm solo so had to do them to myself 🤦🤦 nothing like jabbing yourself in the bum with a whopping needle. When I managed to do my first I literally leapt around the kitchen shouting "YOU LEGEND!!" (Not the usual way I talk to myself 🤣🤣🤣Very well done! And best of luck!

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2cherry79 in reply to 1418rose

P.s. don't be ashamed of using ice!

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Mrsjaytee

Hi…. So how are you feeling today? I wish I’d just get some indicator of implantation. Dizziness, nausea, sore boobs… anything. Why is this such a long 2 weeks?!?!

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lmno in reply to Mrsjaytee

Hi, oh I totally get that - probably a bit too soon to be feeling anything though. I find the first few days easiest as I don't expect to feel anything. It's as the 2WW goes on I start driving myself crazy.... How are you feeling?

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lmno

Hi Mrsjaytee 2cherry79 1418rose Annbiel butterfliez SianieShorts Kclaxton89 how are you all doing today? xx

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butterfliez in reply to lmno

Hi  lmno unfortunately my transfer was cancelled yesterday, got to the hospital and told our last remaining embryo had failed the thaw process, we are devastated. this had happend to us in 2020 so was always aware it can happen, but because my last two FET embryos survived well I had hoped this one would have too. feeling deflated and lost right now. Awaiting follow up to discuss next steps.

How are you feeling ? wishing you so much luck, I hope the 2ww goes by smoothly xx

hope everyone else are doing ok too x

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lmno in reply to butterfliez

oh I’m so incredibly sorry to hear that. What a cruel rollercoaster this journey is. Thinking of you as you feel and process the news. You’re not alone and you won’t always feel like this I promise xx

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Skittles11 in reply to butterfliez

I saw your update as I was scrolling through, I'm really sorry to see this. It just seems so bloody unfair! I hope you do not have not got to wait until your follow up lovely xx

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butterfliez in reply to Skittles11

Thank you so much, How is everything with you lately? I'm self funded but in Nhs clinic, they called me today to say my notes have to be included in the next meeting in mid April so hopefully get an appointment after that. xx

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1418rose in reply to butterfliez

Oh no 😢 I'm so sorry to hear this, how are you holding up? Its such a tuff roller coaster isn't ivf I mean. You never know if your coming or going, fingers crossed you get some answers soon sending you hugs xx

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butterfliez

Thank you for your kind words. It really is a tough journey. xx

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1418rose

lmno yeah I'm doing OK just keeping myself busy... had some period type cramping Tuesday and Wednesday but nothing yesterday... woke up at 2.30 am this morning with one cracking headache and my god my boobs are so sore and feel heavy but that's probably the amount of progesterone I'm on...my cat made me cry yesterday all she done was come for a cuddle but stepped on my bobbie and the pain just made me cry.... but hey all part of the journey I guess how's all you other lovely ladies doing xxx oh and has anyone else been a emotional mess?

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Mrsjaytee in reply to 1418rose

I’d do anything for sore boobs. To feel anything.

All I feel is v tired & that’s more likely down to mental exhaustion. Lol. That & our 2 year old.

This is my 4th transfer & I can’t help but stress that I’ve had no spotting, no cramping, no pains, no dizziness.

Enjoy them sore boobs lol. Hopefully it’s a good sign. 🙂🙂

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

Oh that sounds hopeful 1418rose All I've had is some insomnia and a tiny bit of nausea but to be honest I'm pretty confident that's anxiety rather than any early pregnancy symptoms. I can relate to the mental exhaustion Mrsjaytee ! I'm planning on testing on Monday as I have the day off and I've always known pretty early on whether it's worked or not. My blood test is booked for Wednesday but I have to travel for work on Thursday so I'd rather have some space to process. I have a counselling appointment this morning which I hope will provide a bit of space for processing how I am feeling and how to cope over the next few days xx

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1418rose

We're planning on testing early too my 1st transfer I had done I had a positive on day 5 then I tested every day as I got hooked on the progress lines until I had a dye stealer my second one I just knew it hadn't worked so I was fussed on testing and I was right... but this time I'm feeling very optimistic 😌 my Bloods are booked for the 31st march and my paper work says official test date 1st April ( great April fools day 😒)

I'm so tired these last few days I just want to sleep have no energy but as you ladies say its mental exhaustion, xx

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Annbiel

Hi! thank you for asking xx I'm actually feeling very anxious atm... Yesterday I got finally my BFP from the clinic from the Beta test.. but last month I had a biochemical pregnancy and I'm freaking out every time I feel a cramp or have to go pee... so I should be 'technically' happy because I've never got this far, but instead im sitting like a ball of nerves wondering if it's still going to be there on my next appointment - on the 03.04 🙄

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lmno in reply to Annbiel

Oh congratulations on your positive result! I totally understand that actually there is still a LOT of anxiety following a positive and wanting things to go well, but this is a huge step towards a positive outcome! Wishing you all the best as you pass the time until your next appointment. If you have any tips at staying sane in the waiting process let me know 🤣

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SianieShorts

hi Imno, thanks for messaging. I had my transfer yesterday and all was straight forward so now the 2ww!! This is always the hardest part for me. Keeping everything crossed though and trying to keep busy.hope you are doing ok xx

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lmno in reply to SianieShorts

Glad the transfer went well. Yes I agree, this is the worst bit! I managed to last until today (4dp5dt) before the crazy overthinking and googling started 🤣 I haven't been sleeping so am feeling pretty wiped out and anxious. I have a work deadline that I really need to finish but I'm finding it super hard to concentrate. Hope your 2WW goes quickly and crossing my fingers for you xx

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1418rose

How are all you lovely ladies doing not going to crazy in the 2ww I hope 😏 xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

uh going pretty crazy here! How are you? Xx

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1418rose in reply to lmno

I'm going stir crazy here who knew 2 weeks was so long... xx

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2cherry79

How are you all, ladies? How many days left for you all? My official day is Thursday. Feels so far away. Had a niggle of a migraine headache and panicked. I always get that a few days before a period.

Also had heartburn this afternoon and am extremely tired in the afternoons too.

This is difficult....

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lmno in reply to 2cherry79

hey, oh it’s so tough isn’t it? The whole thing is made worse by the fact any symptoms could be due to being pregnant or the drugs or an imminent period and there’s truly no way of knowing until the test. My OTD is Wednesday but I’m planning to test tomorrow (which will be 7dp5dt so still early). Weirdly with all previous transfers (2 x fresh and 2 x frozen) I’ve always known the outcome pretty confidently by this stage whether positive or negative but this time I honestly can’t call it. Are you planning on testing early or holding out til Thurs? Xx

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2cherry79 in reply to lmno

Well done. I have everything crossed for you!!

I had been feeling the same....nothing major, some differences from the last two (BFNs). But I feel I may be getting mild P cramps and I raged today out of the blue which may be pmt (felt dreadful for doing it after but it felt so uncontrollable!!).

But I feel very clueless about how that works because I'm fully medicated this cycle....so does that even happen. I have no idea what's going on....

Had better just wait 🤣🤦🤦🤦

Thankfully I have some very busy days ahead!

Best of luck!!!

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1418rose in reply to 2cherry79

Morning, I've had cramps sore boobs and headache which I normally get a few days before AF arrives, but then I also had these when I had first cycle that worked (but ended in miscarriage) I didn't have any the second time round that was a fail.... I plan on testing this morning, just waiting so me and hubby can look together wonder how many times I can poke him before he wakes up 🤣 ....

I'm with you on the rage, I snapped for no reason other than a plate In the sink rather than the dishwasher 😒 , I feel very all over the place one minute I'm happy, next I'm crying over something on the telly, then I'm snapping over a plate 🙈 .

I'm also medicated, as far as I'm aware the meds stops your cycle and you wouldnt have a period until the meds are stopped unless a positive outcome obviously

Good luck this week all you lovely ladies I'm gonna go poke my hubby up the nose that should get him awake 🤣

Xx

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2cherry79 in reply to 1418rose

😝😝😝 poke poke. Best of luck, both of you!!! Thanks for the reply!

Only time will tell. Which day are you by the way? X

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1418rose in reply to 2cherry79

I'm on day 7 today, I've got Bloods being done Friday for hcg and on paper official test date is 1st April xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

good luck 1418rose ! I just tested and BFN 💔

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1418rose in reply to lmno

It's still early days tho there is still hope yet... xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

indeed… the mindf*** continues… just checked the test again and I can now see a super faint positive line but it’s been almost 2 hours since I did the test so could be an evaporation line

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1418rose in reply to lmno

Try a first response I swear by them xx mine was a bfp xx I can see a faint line on yours too.. re test tomorrow but if u can get first response I would defo give that a try xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

congratulations! That’s a lovey strong line for 7dp5dt! Xx

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1418rose in reply to lmno

Yeah I thought it was a strong one too now wondering if both stuck 🤔 I'm really hoping u get a stronger line tomorrow xx

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1418rose

How are we all this morning xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

hey, another suuuuper faint line for me this morning so not sure what to think. I have also been waking for 2+ hrs in the middle of the night since my transfer and slept through last night so worried that hormones have dropped off. Got my blood test tomorrow so should know more then x

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1418rose in reply to lmno

Hopefully your bloods will give you more answers 🥰 wishing you all the luck and sending u lots of baby dust.... I'm the same with the sleeping last night was the first night I slept right through till 6am didn't wake up at all... I was waking up between 1&2am and struggled to get back to sleep but I feel very tired today 😴 xx

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lmno good luck today sending lots of baby dust xxx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

thank you. Was up at the crack of dawn to get to the hospital for my blood test and need to call for the results in a few hours 🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼xx

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1418rose

Was it just clearblue you was using?... I done a first response and clear blue this morning this is the result.....

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

Oh wow that's a huge difference! Yes I couldn't find first response in any of my local shops so had to settle for clear blue. I didn't do one today but did one on Monday and Tuesday

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lmno in reply to lmno

this was yesterday’s test (after it had dried - wasn’t this dark when I first took it)

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1418rose in reply to lmno

I would say this is positive mine was dry when I took the photo was probably about a hour after I done it... and it's barely viable xx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

Does your clinic do blood tests too or just home testing?

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1418rose in reply to lmno

I have blood test booked for Friday 10am then will either get the results Friday afternoon/ Saturday morning xx

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1418rose

Yeah I had to order them off amazon but also found some in boots.... its amazing the difference I was shocked... just hoping that it gives you some hope xxxx

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lmno in reply to 1418rose

Yes it does thank you!

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lmno

Hi all, well after 2 positive tests the last few days I had my blood test today and it came back at 6 so "almost certainly negative". They basically said there's no chance but I have to stay on my meds for another week and go back for another blood test. I actually feel a bit numb - I had really got my hopes up and was fairly confident this was going to be a BFP. To have to stay on the meds and go back again feels a bit cruel.

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DreamingOfTwo79 in reply to lmno

I'm so sorry, Imno, that you did not get better news today, you must be devastated. It is especially cruel when you need to continue with the meds but as your hCG was slightly above the threshold they are obliged to retest to be able to rule out a viable pregnancy even if this is torture for you. I hope you have strong support around you, I'm so sorry. xx

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lmno in reply to DreamingOfTwo79

thanks for your kind message. Yeah it just seems weird if that’s the reason when they’ve said there’s no hope

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DreamingOfTwo79 in reply to lmno

It was like this for me with my non viable pregnancies, even if the measurements were way off, in the absence of a bleed the EPAU had to scan me at least a week apart before they were able to suggest next steps for management. I’m so sorry for your loss, lovely. xx

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lmno in reply to DreamingOfTwo79

the more I think about it the more angry I feel… I’m still getting waves of nausea which must be the meds if my HCG is so low…. Why would they keep me on meds that make me feel pregnant when I’m not and there’s no chance I can be? I might call tomorrow and ask to speak to a doctor - I can barely bring myself to take my next pessary and honestly can’t imagine doing this for another week….

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DreamingOfTwo79 in reply to lmno

I completely understand and can relate to how you are feeling. Definitely call tomorrow and get a second opinion. Be mentally prepared that they won't give you direct permission to stop the meds as they need to cover themselves in terms of process and stick to the letter of the medical guidance but you may be lucky and get someone sympathetic who will rephrase it in such a way that it leaves no doubt in your mind that this pregnancy is unfortunately non-viable and if you're stopping the medication against their advice you will do so at your own risk but effectively you would be coming out of the call feeling that continuing to take the medication won't save your pregnancy so you wouldn't have to secondguess yourself and torture yourself with what-ifs. When all this initial anger and crushing disappointment subsides a little, please make sure to give yourself some time to heal. No one should have to go through this, I am so sorry. xx

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Boo718 in reply to lmno

I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Is there anyway they can test you in less than a week? Mine was at 6 and they told me to come back 2 days later. It seems so long to have you holding on xxx

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lmno in reply to Boo718

yeh I might call tomorrow and ask - it does seem really unnecessary to wait a whole week. Although I suspect that’s just their policy and they don’t have any flexibility. Sorry you’ve been through this too x

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