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Transfer day

So this morning I walked tentatively into the clinic, where last I heard we had 7 embryos. Very quickly my husband and I were ushered into a consultants room where the embryologist told us 6 of our 7 embryos stopped developing and the 1 blastocyst was of a low quality. She then went on to ask if we wanted to proceed with transfer! I couldn't believe it, how on earth had this happened?!?! And if it's a blastocyst why was this embryologist being so negative?! We decided that if the embryo is a blastocyst then it deserves a chance, but we need some positive stories if you lovelies have any! Xx

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I thought by definition alone that a blastocyst guaranteed it was a certain quality otherwise it wouldn't have reached that stage. I don't have any positive stories for you but I am sending lots of positive vibes your way 🤞 xx

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That's what I thought!! Just because it's slightly below average I felt it was rather harsh to not even try! Thanks for the vibes xxx

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Sorry it wasnt the outcome youd hoped..... but only takes one.... just wanted to send some positive vibes.... wishing you the best of luck xxxxxxx

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I agree it's tugsgirl that a blastocyst is still great even if they grade it lower. Sounds like it wasn't the most sensitive

Of conversations but it only takes one. Good luck xx

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Oh I am so sorry. It's definitely worth giving the blastocyst a chance. Did they mention the grade? xx

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They did but I was rather upset so didn't really take it in, but I do remember her saying just below average xx

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I wouldn't worry about it, they would not have given you the option of having it transferred if they felt it was poor, average does not mean poor.

I have read many success stories of average embies becoming babies. I have an average frostie too, and am deliberating about doing FET but have to remind myself that they would not have frozen it if there was no hope.

Good luck and they say that laughing on transfer day helps embies implant - so watch a funny film to lift the spirits. I did that on IVF 1 and my friend recommended this really bad silly film to me, which I found even funnier, it was so bad - she made me giggle so much via text that I was worried I'd dislodged the embie (yes, that's how paranoid i was).. but it worked and he's currently asleep in the cot.

My husband and I also cuddled a lot on the day, as they say the scents of male can help with implantation.

And avoid pineapple from now on too. And no hot baths.

I was nearly 40 when i had my IVF, with low egg quality - so there is always hope.

Lots of luck xxx

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Not sure if you are a waitrose shopper, but this sketch is hilarious, may make you giggle if you haven't already seen it. it sums up the customers at my local waitrose.

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That is hilarious, but I am a guilty Waitrose shopper!! But I don't drive the 4X4!!!😂😂

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hahaha, me too.. guilty waitrose shopper but i dislike 4x4s :-) half my family have those clicky boots.. so handy.. i have clicky boot envy.

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Ah thank you so much!! You've totally lifted my spirits!!! Think I'll put on anchorman, I bloody love that film!! Xxx

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now I'll have to watch that :-)... so the laughter thing with IVF was based on a dutch study I think. I'll try to find it for you. Quite striking results... laughter is definitely good. But also have a good sniff of your husband, lol.. what do i sound like.. I think the idea is to emulate the 'natural' conception method and all that entails, without the actual act itself. I'm embarrassed typing this.. but I do think it worked for me. i was so so stressed after a horrendously painful transfer, so I just zoned into relaxation for a good few days after and did all the right things. Perhaps it was just luck.. who nows.. but a giggle and a cuddle can do no harm :-) enjoy the film. keep us updated as to how you are.. xxx

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My top grade hatching blast failed and the two that where slightly lower graded worked so who knows, but agree with the others a blast is a blast and must be strong to have got that far xxx

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My top grade hatching failed too. My bfp was a good grade but not as good as the first one. Maybe we put too much emphasis on the grades? xx

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I defo believe there is an element of luck involved xx

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Yep bloody luck, I think we all deserve a massive dollop of the stuff!! Xx

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All my embryos have always been low quality ... in the first cycle we did not even do a bast... I transferred on day 3 because embryologist said it was not going to survive to 5 day blast... she asked what we wanted to do so we decided to put them (x2) in and hope for the best... that little 3 day embryo will be 3 years old in 2 weeks... never give up!

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Thank you so much that is exactly what I needed to hear, you have given me hope xx oh and happy birthday to your little one! Xxx

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Never ever give up... being a doctor myself I know that medicine does not always answer our questions... your doctors are followed their training... you have to follow your heart...

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Completely agree, if you think that its only fairly recently that clinics have been taking embies to Day 5. Most used to be transferred at Day 3, and many IVF pregnancies resulted from those, when they couldn't have known how the embies would have progressed.

Now the embie is at home, it stands a better chance..

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The embryos are always best in the womb... that is their place... not in S Petri dish... 👍

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I agree with what the ladies on here are saying...if it's gone to blastocyst, there is every chance it will be successful as this is the 'gold standard' for embryos. Try to not be too taken in by the embryologists words...if only people thought before they opened their mouths!!

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that does sound harsh. We had 3 blastocysts and 2 were transferred. We were told the 3rd wasn't suitable for freezing but not told why. I found they are not forthcoming with information unfortunately. Hope you stood your ground. That blastocyst deserves a chance!

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Wishing you all the best lovely. I know how hard that situation is. We had a call the day of transfer to say that 2 made it to blastocyst but not great quality so neither suitable for freezing.We had both put back & now I'm nearly 8 weeks pregnant (just one)

It can happen so don't give up hope xxxx

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So sorry to hear about how things turned out for the other embies but a chance is a chance, got everything crossed for you xxxx

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Thank you xx

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Ok a positive story coming up! I had 10 eggs collected, 8 mature. Thought brilliant here we go, then next day we got the call to say only 1 out of the 8 had fertilized. It was like someone had pulled the floor away and we were totally shocked. So we put all our hopes into that 1 but to be honest we thought the cycle was over. Well it made it to day five and we had our little Emby transferred. That was 6 weeks ago and I am now pregnant we that little Emby! :) It really does just take one so you go for it and give the little one all you have got xxxx

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Ah congratulations!!!! And thank you for sharing your story 💜 I'm trying to send lots of love to our little embie right now! Xxx

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I have found the embryologists the most pessimistic people throughout all of my cycles. I think they have to be this way so as not to get your hopes up but boy it doesnt have rain on your parade!! We got similar chats to yours and I could have burst into years there and then, they take away all the excitement dont they?! You got a blastocyst so its defo not all doom and gloom and you are definitely still in with a chance so do try to have some hope, your wee blast has fought this far and will continue do so back in you!xx

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Thank you! Yes they are so bloody negative. I promptly burst into tears in the room, then in the waiting room which she seemed quite shocked at, but what do they expect! She phoned me this morning and said she was keeping her fingers crossed for our little blast and wished me luck!!! Xx

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I know, its not great news to get but they dont seem to have much tact or something! Yes lots of luck sweetie, positive thinking!xx

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