OTD - negative

[TurquoiseWater]

hey all,

Just thought I’d update you after my previous posts. Even though I had no symptoms during the TWW I still had that hope that this could be the one. But I did a test this morning and the result was negative. It was my first FET and we don’t have any more frozen embryos.

I’ve cried nonstop for the past 3hours. With all sorts going through my head, why me? Why is it so unfair? Why is it so difficult to have a baby? I followed the protocol as I should so don’t know why this has happened either than lower progesterone on day of transfer but the annoying/tough thing is that we will never get an answer as to why it didn’t work.

Feeling very deflated right now and unsure of what the next steps are. Do we try again? How soon can we try again? I’m 40 in April and really had hoped to be pregnant by then.

Thanks for taking the time to read this xx

[Maria1122]

I’m very sorry to hear this , two days ago I got same news again another transfer failed . But we need to be strong !

[Justme7978]

I feel you… I just tested negative on my first fresh embryo transfer with ICSI. I feel you thinking why Everyone is so easily having kids but I couldn’t even with ICSI I had hoped, we had all hoped. I had even implantation bleeding. From now on I will not believe in the brown spotting anymore it’s said. I’m 43 and I am so afraid that I won’t make it. I have frozen eggs. But would like to try again with fresh eggs since my doctor said they are good for my age.

I hope and pray and send all positive feelings to all who are trying. I strongly believe it will happen eventually. I believe when we want something so much the universe will respond accordingly.

[butterfliez]

Hi I am so sorry , Is heartbreaking to go through all the treatment and have a bfn at the end. I had another negative last week too. It just crushes you.

sending you strength xx

[Booda21]

I’m so sorry you have had such a rubbish time. I can totally relate to how you feel, sending you lots of love. Hope your doctors have some suggestions for you ✨

[Twiglet2]

I’m so sorry lovely 🥲 sending a big squeeze! Xxx

[Pebbles345]

I'm really sorry to hear this. It's utterly heartbreaking , exhausting and completely unfair. There is no rhyme or reason why it doesn't work sometimes and that just makes it so hard to think about what to do next.

Take time to feel whatever you need and then look to the future when you're feeling more yourself and can face it.

There are still lots of things that you can try and I'm sure lots of women on here will have positive experiences of when it has worked out. Each time we've had a negative result we've always asked the consultant to try something new each time. We've had scratches, embryo glue, antibiotics, viagra and baby aspirin all as add ons. I'm a big believer in needing to feel like something is different each time to give you hope. I tried hypnotherapy this time and it just put me in a better plaice mentally as I felt so flat.

I really hope you have someone to take care of you for the next week. Sending lots of love xx

[KediT]

I’m so sorry. Please allow yourself to go through all the emotions and take care of yourself. Take all the time you need for your healing.

[Minminminminh]

so sorry to hear this, sending you lots of hugs x