Chemical miscarriage

[Blueberry211]

hcg today went down to 66 so my thoughts were confirmed. What a horrible sad life we are living in. I dont know how to go on.

[Habibi87]

Hi Blueberry211, I am so sorry that you have to go through this. It’s really really unfair. I had a miscarriage of twins, a cancelled FET, a chemical pregnancy (euploid embryo) , a failed FET (euploid embryo again) and I felt I could not make it through the pain. The other ladies in the forum really gave me strength and said the journey was not over yet. I also started counselling to help me with the pain. This august we transferred two euploid embryos (against our clinic advice) and one of them is now 7+3. Try to be kind to yourself in this though journey. Sending you love

[Blueberry211 in reply to Habibi87]

may I ask what treatment you used in diff cycles and what you think might have helped? We can private message if you wish

[Habibi87 in reply to Blueberry211]

I’ve messaged you xx

[Blueberry211 in reply to Habibi87]

thank you

[Boo718 in reply to Habibi87]

can I ask what different treatment you had too please we are in the same boat xxx

[Habibi87 in reply to Boo718]

My last FET was a stimulated FET (alternate days of stimulating injections and then trigger) and it was the first time we tried it after a medicated FET and two natural FETs. I had intralipids before transfer (although I also had these with my BFN FET so not sure). After ovulation I started enoxoparin 40 every day and cyclogest twice a day (again this was the same as my BFN FET) but we also started with Lubion twice a day ( I think it really did help as progesterone was 124 on transfer day). On the transfer day we also had an HCG wash which we had never tried before. I really don’t know if it was any of these changes/additions that helped but I think the progesterone and the HCG wash were helpful xx

[IVFmumma]

I'm so sorry to hear this, there are no words. Take time to grieve this loss and find the strength to take your next steps. Take up support if you need it. So sorry you're going through this ♥️✨ x

[Blueberry211 in reply to IVFmumma]

thanks!

[Mudra85]

I'm so sorry to hear this and for your loss! It is an utterly devasting thing to go through and so much harder when you've felt the hope of a positive outcome from this FET. I'm sending you a huge hug and a ton of strength to get through this awful time. I think it will very much be a case of taking it one step and one day at a time and going through the motions with grieving. Please do feel you can PM me anytime if ever you're struggling. Xx

[Blueberry211 in reply to Mudra85]

thank you

[Fruitandflowers]

i'm really sorry you're going through this. I had two back to back and the first time in particular it hit me so hard as I had never seen the two lines and I thought we'd just been very lucky - I didn't even consider it could go after everything we'd gone through. Second time I was more ready/less hopeful but then it made me think there was a pattern and it would never happen. My clinic kept telling me it was actually really positive that we'd got that far as it meant we'd already overcome many hurdles and it ruled out loads of issues, but it was very hard to see it that way at the time. Their view was it was a numbers game which also wasn't easy to hear. It did work third time/first FET so I can't disagree now with what they were saying and for me the only way I could cope was to go straight back in but that's not right for everyone. So maybe this gives you some hope, but you may also just want some time to grieve. x

[Blueberry211]

thank you. We already had one chemical with our first transfer( though hcg was 8.4 and now 84 so quite the difference). Second transfer was negative. All euploid and all frozen ( plan according to era receptivity). We really gave it all our best and its so sad to see this

[Emlou87]

I am so so sad to be reading this. Life is so cruel sometimes. Be gentle with yourself, give yourself time to pick yourself up. Sending you lots of love. 💔 xx

[Chasing123]

I’m so sorry I thought this was going to be your one. Take time to grieve and stay strong. We will get there x

[Eloquentia]

I am so sorry to read this. Stay strong and take some time off if you can! xx

[Cotswoldmum]

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, we all know your pain, but you have to look at a chemical as a positive - it means that you can get pregnant, that just wasn’t the right embryo. Our last pregnancy ended in a chemical, but the following frozen embryo is now a healthy 11 week old baby girl (that was after three failed FETs before the chemical). Keep the faith and you’ll get there. Good luck xxx

[XxMrsBXx]

hi blueberry , am so sorry to hear this .

Totally understand , our last 3 transfers ended up with 2 chemicals and a miscarriage . It’s just so hard isn’t it ….

Take time to grieve and once you feel upto it speak to your consultant to see what they recommend for your next transfer .

My consultant advised they wouldn’t change anything which is very annoying and making us feel like it’s maybe the end for us with ivf .

Sending you lots of love and luck xx

[Loosy80]

So sorry to hear this, it happened to me last year with a euploid embryo and is devastating. I only had one left and was scared to try again without testing everything so had a hysteroscopy, micro biome tests as well as thrombophilia and immune testing done, which did show some issues so we added in steroids, blood thinners and intralipids for the next transfer (which has worked so far). We also added lubion as I didn’t feel like the pessaries were being absorbed so who knows what made a difference (if anything), but trying something different can make it feel like there’s more hope.

I know it’s not always helpful to hear what others have done but just wanted to share as hearing stories on here helped me to push for extra testing. It will probably be too raw right now to think about trying again (it took me 8 months) but look after yourself and know that things will get better even if it doesn’t feel like it now.

[ButtercupGarden]

I'm so sorry to hear this. It is so sad and so rubbish. I had a MMC in August and I felt the same, just so sad. I had a few weeks of feeling incredibly low, struggling to just get on with life, but the last week has been better, it feels like the fog has started to lift. I spoke to the clinic too and made a plan for the next transfer although I think I will wait another month before trying again, I feel like I need to rebuild my mental strength before going again. Be kind to yourself, take each day as it comes and rest up, you need it.

[islwyn]

sorry dear… I had 3 transfer, one BNF and 2 chemical. It wrecked my head yet positively chnage the way I appreciate life in general. It doesn’t always come easy. My thoughts are with you.

[Petey838]

hi Blueberry211, im sorry this has happened to you. It would be good for you to take some time away from this process. It is natural to be consumed and focused on it 24/7 so a short break may be good for your mental health and wellbeing, i know that helped my wife and i. Assuming you have a follow up with your consultant then prepare for that, discuss what could improve the chances for next time etc but better to think about that closer to the time and give yourself some time and space. Best wishes to you

[flamingopher]

I’m so sorry. My first round and my first EVER bfp was a chemical and it’s soul destroying. Second round chemical too. Third time was the charm for us. It’s so hard but keep going if you’re ready and make sure you look after your head and heart xx

[Blueberry211 in reply to flamingopher]

may I ask what you did differently in the cycles?

[flamingopher in reply to Blueberry211]

My first two rounds were long protocol with buserelin and meriofert, both ended with one day 5 blastocyst to transfer and a chemical pregnancy. After that we had quite a long break (ended up being almost exactly a year between 2nd and 3rd cycle) while they checked my blood for antiphospholipid syndrome and thyroid levels. Turned out my thyroid was very slightly on the low side - not medically hypothyroid, just outside of the ivf “golden range” so I’ve been on levothyroxine since about November. Also I got covid in December - probably unrelated!

Final round started in may this year and this time we did short protocol with ovaleap. I think there was another drug later on but I can’t remember the name, sorry. We actually got even fewer eggs and again only had one embryo to transfer, this time on day 3, but something worked and I’m now 21 weeks pregnant. However this was literally a case of last round, last embryo and then we would’ve been done with ivf so if something goes wrong or we want a sibling I don’t think we’ll be going round again, we’d look at adoption.

[Blueberry211 in reply to flamingopher]

thank you for sharing xx

[Hannah_Coco]

I’m so sorry to hear you are going through this Blueberry. I know how you are feeling, I, just this morning have had my fears confirmed and am experiencing a chemical pregnancy after my first ever BFP.

I don’t know how to think or feel and my husband is away on a work trip at the moment so I feel very alone but thank goodness for this community, you learn to realise you never are. And my dog seems to be keeping me going too.

I think some time to process and reset is so so important.

Take care xx

[Beatrix_K]

I’m so sorry Blueberry 😞 allow yourself time to grieve and seek out counselling from your clinic. I promise you you’ll come through this horrible fog. Xx

[Corchi]

so sorry for your loss. 7 miscarriages. 4 needed d&c and the rest chemical. It’s awful. Here if you need to pm. ❤️❤️❤️❤️

[Blueberry211 in reply to Corchi]

i am so sorry ... You ve been through so much. Hugs to you xxxx