No heartbeat and little growth - need advice

[Brooke_v]

hi everyone. I had an ultrasound last week, fetus measured 0.38cm and doctor said I was about 6 weeks according to the measurement. Today, exactly a week later, she couldn’t find a heartbeat and fetus only grew 0.3cm.

I am heartbroken. I hadn’t told anyone about the pregnancy so I also feel very lonely.

Should I wait for the miscarriage to happen naturally or do a D&C?

I can’t think clearly so I would appreciate your advice.

Thanks in advance

[JA-fnuk Partner Nurse Fertility Network UK]

So sorry to read your post Hope you have been able to talk to someone as you need people around you who can give you support Have you asked your clinic/nurse for advice?

Thinking of you & sending a big hug

Janet

[Bomboncita]

I'm sorry to hear the news. I just want to send you a big hug 🤗

[ButtercupGarden]

I am so sorry to hear this. I went through the same thing a few weeks ago and it was totally heartbreaking and I'm still so sad. Nothing anyone will say will make it any less awful I'm afraid.

I told my boss what was happening because I was such a mess, and my closest friends and family. It's your choice but don't feel like you need to keep it a secret just because you didn't tell people about the pregnancy. You are sad and need support from the people close to you.

The miscarriage association also have a helpline that might help you, for information or just for a chat with a counsellor.

Regarding the physical miscarriage, I chose for it to happen naturally. It took about 5 days after stopping the meds for the bleed to start and when it did, it wasnt actually as bad as i thought it would be.

I hope you find the support you need and I'm so sorry again that you are in this crappy situation. Feel free to message me if you want to chat.

[Daffodils140]

Hello, I am so sorry to read this, I had a miscarriage a few months ago and it’s such a horribly sad experience. Is this an ivf pregnancy? Hopefully your doctor/nurse will be able to advise you on next steps, in my case I was advised to stop my ivf meds and then my miscarriage began a few days later, that was because I opted for a natural miscarriage. Had I chosen another route then the steps would have been slightly different. Is there anyone from your clinic you can speak to? Sending much love and strength to you; miscarriages are emotionally and physically very challenging. Please feel free to DM me if you need someone to talk to so you don’t feel as lonely. x