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Worst possible—no heartbeat

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My doctor said there is no hope but I don't know, today at 8w6d there was no heartbeat that he could see. We could see it on the scan and it looked different and more advanced but he said there is no heartbeat. We scheduled the D&C for Thursday.

I am in shock, is it possible that there is a mistake? He heard a strong heartbeat last week but this week there was nothing. Is there any hope at all?

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ToughCOOKIE78 profile image
ToughCOOKIE78

I’m so so so sorry lovely 💔I know your pain very well, I’ve been there when I lost my baby at 11 weeks. I had 3 scans before and heartbeat was strong... these awful things happen. I’m sorry but it’s a devastating outcome that won’t change. I had a D&C too and it made it easier to bear from a physical point of view, it will take a while before you feel emotionally and mentally better ❤️

Sending you all my love and strength, look after yourself ❤️Xxx

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Cmc2020 in reply toToughCOOKIE78

This is such a shame and I don’t think there will be a mistake hun a heartbeat is well detected at 8 weeks :( xx

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Lots8788

I'm so sorry. Sending you so much love and hugs xxx

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Judy18

I am so sorry for you. I had the same thing happen in December and also opted for a D&C. The shock and grief will be there for a while but you just need to give yourself some time. Thinking of you and sending love xxx

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Msze

I’m so heartbroken for you. I know how worried you’ve been. I’m praying for you ❤️💔❤️

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Jess1981

Oh no way this so awful I'm so sorry. I had this news at my 20 weeks scan and I remember just how devastated and heartbroken I felt ( I still miss my baby girl) i was also very shocked she could go from fine at 18 weeks ( private gender scan) to dead at 20 weeks. They told me these things "just happen " life is fragile 😢 I am sending you the biggest hugs coz I know how this feels, I hope you have lots of support. I'm so so very sorry for your loss Xx

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MiniS5 in reply toJess1981

That’s heartbreaking Jess. Just when you think you’re in the safe zone (after 12 weeks) and then life ends up being so cruel xx

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Jess1981 in reply toMiniS5

Thank you it was truly shocking experience.Thankfully we have our first daughter Francesca and she kept us going. I'm due in November and I'm absolutely sure my Amelia had hand in that ( we lost Amelia in November last year) I will always miss her and the future I lost with her. Xx

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Msze in reply toJess1981

Omg! Did they provide any explanation?? 20 weeks is so rare. I have that appointment on Friday and feel so scared reading this! 💔💔💔

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Jess1981 in reply toMsze

If it's any consolation midwives said a loss that late is incredibly rare most babies are fine after 12 weeks we were just very unlucky. We had a full post mortem - no cause of death was established. I'm sorry my loss has frightened you it not a common loss lucky I was just trying to sympathise with original poster not to scare anyone Xx I'm sure your 20 week scan will go well Xx my rainbow baby is due November same month we lost Amelia Xx

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Msze in reply toJess1981

❤️❤️🙏🏼🙏🏼

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Jess1981 in reply toMsze

For every sad story of scan there is another happy story too. Don't read the bad news scans it'll just worry you- read the ones with happy endings. Surround yourself with love and positivity best for you and baby Xx

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Jess1981 in reply toJess1981

Also luxfleur- if you are in any doubt- get another opinion. I hope he got a second opinion on this- I had another sonographer confirm the first sonographer and I asked a gynae dr for another look- I had to be certain before I took the pills that would bring on labour and terminate my pregnancy. Usually they are right sadly but do get another opinion for your own peace of mind Xx

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Sweethear

I am so shock to hear this am so sorry for what happened this is soo unfair

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MiniS5

I am so so sorry. This is just awful. There are no words. Sending you love and strength xx

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Cinderella5

I'm so sorry to see your update LuxFleur.💔 Sending massive love and hugs.xx

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Kookypie

I'm really sorry. For your peace of mind maybe you could ask to be scanned again?

Big hugs x

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LuxFleur in reply toKookypie

Thanks. They will scan again before the procedure but I was told not to have hope.

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pm27

I'm so sorry to read this, it's so unfair. Take lots of care of yourself.

Oh no, I’m so sorry for your loss. This is awful news. Xxx

oh no💔 I am so sorry to see you passing through this, I feel so heartbroken for you, i really do hope you can be scanned again to double check. I am praying for you

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jengi

I’m so sorry to see this update. Life is beyond cruel Xx

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Jonesy84

Really sorry to see this. I just can’t imagine how painful this must be for you. Thinking of you xx

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minnesota_girl

I'm soo heartbroken for you. This is the hardest news. I had the same at 11 weeks and it just steals the breath away from you. Thinking of you at this hard time. ♥️

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PenguinBlue

I’m so so sorry to see this update Lux 💔 that is truly devastating. Sending lots of hugs and hope you have some good support around you at this time xxx

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Beatrix_K

I am so , so sorry Luxfluer, this is truly awful. It might not help but hope they can rescan or offer you more of an explanation to help you cope with this shocking news. Thinking about you, lovely. Xx

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Purpledoggy

So sorry to hear this, how desperately sad for you. Sending you many hugs xx

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Sandyels

I am so sorry! It must feel like a shock and I can just imagine the grief and sorrow you are feeling.

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butterfliez

I’m so very sorry to hear this awful news , can imagine your in such a shock after your other recent scans have been well

Thinking of you & sending you strength xx

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Vicster80

So sorry to read your news LuxFleur, sending a virtual hug xx

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Zaazee

So sorry Luxfleur, sending you some comforting hugs. Please look after yourself and see if you can ask for a rescan before the D&C just to be sure xx

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LuxFleur in reply toZaazee

Thanks, they will do a rescan before but the doctor said not to have hope

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Purple276

Oh I am so sorry to hear this. Totally heartbroken for you and sending so much love and hugs xx

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pinkrose55

Sorry to hear this try and stay positive for next time, sending you love and hugs x

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LewisLongbody

I’m so sorry to hear this, sending you strength and support at this unbearable time ❤️

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Angels2us

Oh I am so sorry I don’t know what else to say this process is so horrible the worry Never goes away even when your pregnant, sending you hugs so sorry 😘😘😘

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Picalilli99

I’m so sorry to hear this update. It really is heartbreaking. We experienced similar at 9 weeks after earlier scans showing a heartbeat. Such devastating news. Sending big hugs, take care lovely xxx

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PurplePiggie

Oh no, I'm so so sorry, thinking of you at this terrible time 😘😘 xx

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Crabonks

Oh no! I’m so sorry to hear this. Damn I was really enjoying reading your updates. I’m quite shocked and ugh, again I’m so sorry. This is heartbreaking. Xxx

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Bluebelle1

So so sorry to read your update. Utterly heartbreaking 💔 sending you love and strength x

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Jam-master

So sorry to hear of this awful update, please take care of yourself xxxx

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Catlady12345

I’m so sorry to read this xx

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FutureMommy

I'm so sorry that you had to hear such a devastating utter. I pray this is not it and that your baby is absolutely fine. Stay hopeful and strong. My heart goes out to you ❤️

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Milly_Oz

I’m so sorry this has happened. A similar thing happened to me and it’s such a shock. I actually had a 2nd scan just to make sure which I’m sure you could ask for to put your mind at ease xxx

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Lillilly

I am so so sorry. This is utterly heartbreaking and you’ve already been through so much. It’s not fair. I wish I could give you words of comfort but know from experience that nothing can take that pain away. I’m thinking of you and sending you love. Xxx

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Londongirl84

I’m so sorry to hear this. 😞 xx

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Rain415

This is devastating news, I'm so sorry to hear this ❤

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Livinginhope2019

I’m so so sorry, sending you the biggest of hugs xx🧡

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Jane8412

I am so so sorry. Sending you lots of love. I hope you have people to support and care for you xx

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Libsie3103

I'm so so sorry to hear this - I've been through the same 2 heartbeats at 7.5 weeks but nothing at 9.5 it's heartbreaking. I also had a D&C as for me it was the best option and I remember thinking what if they were wrong. I am sure they will do another scan if you ask for a reassurance one. Please be kind to yourself and look after yourself it's devastating. It does get easier in time but you will never forget your baby, in time I promise you'll be strong enough to think about something you can do in memory of them. Always here if you'd like to chat xx

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RhinoCat

Oh no! Such a terrible shock 😫😢😭🥺😩 this happened to me. They would have checked long enough to know for sure. They might check again before your procedure but it’s sounds that the sad truth is to be believed. Worst news you get . It takes a while to believe it.

Sending hugs of understanding , this part is extra hard. Take the time you need to process and heal 😘

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hifer

I’m so so sorry to read this. It’s just devastating. I know exactly how you feel as I’ve been in this position, twice. What awful news and I’m not in the least bit surprised you’re in shock. Sending lots of love to you xx

This is so heartbreaking. Truly heartbreaking💔. I remember the numbness and holding on some hope untill the nurse and lovely ivf sisters here talked about how common it is. It doesnt make it fair. It marks you for life. Sending you all my love in this difficult time x

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