Hi all, I can’t believe I’m writing this after the journey we have been on to get here. Went for a 7 week scan and all was perfect and discharged from our private clinic. Went for a private scan yesterday and I heartbeat. Should be 9 weeks but baby has developed to 8.5. My heart is breaking.
I was still on all my meds, 3 injections, 3 tablets, pessaries, 2 x blood thinners and intralipids. I don’t understand it. I have no symptoms of miscarriage and dread what’s going to come. The hospital can’t see me until wed so I have no idea what will happen I just can’t believe we are here after having the best news of our life after years of struggles to be taken away so quickly. First time bfp and now this I’m devastated. I don’t know what to do or where I go from here. I’m FET as dont ovulate but don’t know when I can start again n just feel broken.
Thanks anyone in advance x
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Blue I am so sorry, this is dreadful news, how heartbreaking and cruel. I have no words 😪 sending you love and strength to try to get through these next few days xx
So sorry to hear this Blue 😔, thinking of you in this heartbreaking time. Have they said to continue with your meds until your hospital appointment? I also wanted to know when I could start the next attempt as soon as they told me they couldn't see anything at my viability scan but the consultant told me to give myself time to grieve and my body time to heal first, with hindsight I really needed it x sending love and strength
So sorry you r going through this.....I have experienced the same, I had my 7 week scan and everything was great, then I had scan at 8.5 weeks and everything was great but last Saturday I felt something was wrong and had a weird discharge so went to hospital and they done another scan which showed no heartbeat and baby had stopped growing at 9.5 weeks...had a D&C Wednesday passed...still find it hard to believe my wee baby is gone...sending u so much love xx
💔 I could have written this back in March. I went for viability scan at 6wks after FET and everything was perfect. went for a private reassurance scan at 9 weeks and baby had stopped growing at 6.5wks. No reason. I was diagnosed with missed miscarriage and given 3 options: wait and see if miscarriage happens naturally, take medication to increase chance of miscarriage happening, operation to remove the baby. I went with operation as it was quickest. There is hope… we had our 2nd FET in early July and I’m now 11wks. Stay strong xx
Last year this happened to us, private viability scan at 7 weeks showed healthy heartbeat, dating scan (12 weeks) with NHS showed our baby had stopped growing at 8.5 weeks. We were devastated our hearts were broken and after all we’d been through via IVF we thought it would never happen for us.
Today we’re 20 weeks pregnant with twins, and i pray that you have better luck next time xx
Hi there.Just wanted to reach out to you. The same happend to me a day before my birthday in December 2019. I had been discharged from EPAU on the Friday and by the Tuesday back in clinic there was no heartbeat. To this day, I still grieve for that child that never was.
I had 3 options : pass naturally, surgical management to remove the foetus or medical management where they give you tablets so that you pass it yourself.
I didn't want to wait do it naturally so close to Xmas, I was too scared of surgical management due to risks however small and so opted for medical management which looking back was fairly traumatic. Even though it was my first miscarriage, I insisted they tested to find out the cause and she had full trisomy 9. It helped me process it and I took comfort knowing it wasn't a genetically inherited condition and not my fault.
Allow yourself to cry and take time to grieve. Ivf can be very cruel. Seek counselling for pregnancy loss if you think it'll help.
After my loss, I dealt with it by throwing myself straight back into doing more ivf. It was the only thing that kept me going.
Everyone handles things differently of course.
Take care xx
So sorry to hear this. It is the most painful time. I had a missed miscarriage at a similar stage exactly a year ago, no symptoms or signs anything was wrong. It’s just heartbreaking. Can you access any counselling either through the clinic or privately, that really helped me through and process what was happening. Also like others have said take what time you need - everyone deals with things differently. But I took quite a few months off work (i had to wait another 3 weeks for medical management after finding out and it I couldn’t start to process the loss until after the miscarriage) and needed that time to grieve properly. Thinking of you during this impossible time xxx
I am so sorry you are in this position, I went through the exact same thing three weeks ago so understand completely the despair, utter heartbreak and hopelessness you are feeling. I am speaking with the clinics counsellor and finding this very helpful to work through my feelings but I think everyone deals with these feelings differently so just do whatever feels right for you. Sending love xx
This also happened to me a couple of weeks ago. Had scan at clinic at 7+3 and all was perfect. Went for private scan at 10+4 to be told no heartbeat and it had died at 8+3.
I had to wait 3 days to be seen in EPAU and then had to take medication to complete the process as like you I had no signs of miscarriage and on scan baby was still sitting where it should have been 😢
Sending my thoughts as I know it’s the worst time x
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So round 3, here we go again.......
Update on measuring behind - another loss 😔 no embryos left
No heartbeat detected at 7 weeks?
Scan tomorrow 
Think it’s over
